Bad Feeling :-(

[tinkerbates]

Hi Ladies,

Sorry to just jump in after not being around for weeks, but I feel like I am going crazy and could use some advice/words of wisdom.

Basically, I have convinced myself something is wrong with baby, namely, I am pretty sure it has died.

I have had no pain or bleeding or anything, but I was getting pretty regular flutters since about 17+3 and now I have had nothing for 2 full days, nor have I had anything so far today. My stomach is looking flatter and my uterus seems to have moved down.

Aside from that, I just feel like I have lost my connection to it. Since my 12 weeks scan, I have been very much attached to the little life inside me and have spoken to it and given my belly a rub and really started to bond with it. Now I feel like there is nothing there, I don’t want to speak to it or try and bond as I am just convinced the life has gone.

I don’t know why I feel like this, I am not usually a negative person. I have my 20 week scan on Monday so I don’t know if it is just nerves or if it really is a mother’s intuition and that something really has gone wrong.

I have gone on about it so much; I had my OH in tears. He says ring the Dr but really what is the point? I wont be seen any earlier than Monday anyway so may as well just wait until my appointment.

Has anyone else felt like this and everything turned out OK?

Thanks in advance xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Do you have a Doppler? Maybe you could try that.
I hope everything is ok x

 

[MrsHope]

I was similar. I had flutters from 16+2 then last week she went quiet. However this has been replaced now by thumps which started on Xmas eve that are now very strong. Try not to worry u may feel kicks any day now

Get a Doppler- it may make u feel better. I used mine to check but now I can feel her kick when I'm laid in bed it makes me feel better.

At least u have your scan on Monday. I have to wait til a week on Wednesday because that's when the consultant has his clinic too. I am a wreck about it too. So worried thy will give us bad news. I cried at my 12 week scan I was so anxious and I will be in floods this next time. But I think it's normal to feel this way. You love your baby sooooooo much. Love and hugs xxx

 

[vinandbella]

Hunny I've only just started to feel movement everyday, I'm 25 weeks I had the same feelings before then.

If your worried ring your MW and see if you can go to your epu for reassurance

 

[Chezza]

Oh bless you xxx Does your Dr surgery do emergency appts? If you explained what was going on to a receptionist, is there any chance that you would be seen earlier than Monday, to try and put your mind at rest?

Feelings like these are so, so very normal...Ive had pregnancy worries since the day I found out I was expecting! We ladies really do go through a tough time.

Hoping you get something sorted and your fears put to rest...please keep us updated, will be thinking of you xx

 

[MrsV]

Oh hun, I'm sure everything is fine and litte one is just having a rest, but why don't you pop into your local hospital's maternity ward and get checked? Will save you worrying until Monday. I'm sure they'll be understanding. My only concern with the DIY doppler is that it could make you worry even more if you don't find the heartbeat at first x

 

[Iwant3]

if you have an anteriour placenta sometimes baby can be turned a different way and movement that you felt once really well will suddenly stop- at your stage you may not feel every move they make still.

I'm sure if you contacted a mw and explained your feelings and worries they would see you and try to find hb for you etc.

 

[LYLLJellyTots]

Heya chick xxx big hugs xxx sorry to hear you are feeling so bad, I think a lot of it will be nerves before Monday x it's a self protection mechanism psychologically, in case there is any bad news etc x bubs is maybe just having a few quiet days, I am feeling baby a lot at the minute as my placenta is at the back but I still have days when she's very quiet. Maybe call your mw for some reassurance xxxx big hugs xxxx

 

[Mellymoomin06]

Massive hugs to you hun! im sure baby is just fine! I didnt feel baby everyday until about 24 weeks...before it was very sporadic! xxx

 

[stargirl]

I have my scan on thursday and all last week I felt like that! I'd felt flutters which stopped for about 3 days.... then i felt movements again which are much stronger so I now feel slightly reasured but i am still so nervous about my scan.

I hope everything is ok and can only suggest that maybe phone your midwife and explain how you feel, maybe she could do a home visit and bring a dobbler with her to check heartbeat?

 

[tinkerbates]

Thank you so much for all your replies, I feel a little better knowing it is not uncommon to not feel movement for a while.

I don't have a doppler, does anyone know if I can buy one in an actual shop rather than online?

I will call MW when I get home and hopefully they can see me tomorrow maybe. Would the hospital check me out if I just turned up? I hate being a nuisance to people!

I THINK I felt a tiny movement earlier, but it was so faint it could have been anything. I am just so nervous for Monday now, I feel sick with nerves! xx

 

[Samsgirl]

i am pretty sure you can get them in argos......let me have a look for you... xx

 

[Samsgirl]

oh you cant

try not to worry as the others have said....i didnt feel constant regular movement until much later on xx

 

[MrsV]

I guess hospitals may vary, but I just turned up at mine when I had spotting at 14wks and they checked me out and assured me that I had done the right thing by going in. I know you haven't had any blood or pain, but maybe just tell them that you feel something is wrong? I know it'll make you feel so much better just hearing bubba's heartbeat x

 

[Rubydoo]

It may be that the feelings you have had weren't the baby, it could be wind and so they haven't stopped moving at all or the baby may be facing the other way and kicking the placents which you wouldn't feel, my early feelings were in week 18 but were very slight and it wasn't until around week 23 that I could be certain they were kicks and wriggles.

Have a cold drink, lie down and really concentrate on the area, the early movements can be so easily missed, I'm not a fan of dopplers because the heartbeat can be hard to find which causes extra worry, I did buy one off eBay and couldn't get it to work yet could feel her in there kicking away and the midwife can find it easily, so I've binned it, the extra stress wasn't helpful

I was also convinced nothing would be there at my 20 week scan as my bump was small and I felt great, no symptoms at all, I think it's almost a coping mechanism, we tell ourselves it's gone wrong so we are more mentally prepared just in case, the odds though are miniscule and it's very unlikely anything has happened, I'm sure you'll see a happy, healthy baby in there on Monday.x

 

[Scattyash]

You can buy them in mothercare,
X

 

[babymother]

How are you today? I have felt like you too. Just worry constantly, I know mine is irrational but I can't help it.
Please don't feel you are being a nuisance. Go to the hospital if that is what you want
I'm 18 weeks wi twins but only feeling sporadic movements too. It's surprising the difference a few weeks makes with movements. Try and stay positive xxx

 

[HopesDreams]

I have an anterior placenta so for weeks the movements were "muffled". Unless I was concentrating on them, I could genuinely have them go unnoticed. I started feeling baby from 18 weeks but would have periods (days) of little to no movement. I panicked, came on here & posted about counting movements etc. I found out that you don't necessarily look for routine in movements until about 27/28 weeks. Speak to your MW & get it checked but I really think you have nothing to worry about. Baby could be in a strange position and so you're not feeling the movement. Its hard not to worry though, most of us have been there at one stage or another.

 

[Sue Clare]

I'm sure it's fine. I get days, even now when Max is not very active so out comes the Doppler! Lol
I imagine you are suffering from anxiety about Monday's scan.
Have a sugary drink & some chocolate and lie down to see of u can feel anything.
Can you ring your MW & ask her to check hb on her Doppler? X

 

[Chezza]

How are you doing today Tinkerbates?? Did you manage to get an appt?? xx