back in the TTC section

[ceris]

at 6 weeks and 3 days, been told pregnancy will not run its course as my hormones are not high enough, and the bleeding is probably a mc. gutted. so i am back in the TTC section, and fingers crossed for the next time!!
does anyone know anything about the anti D injection? i am RHd - and very confused by the whole thing!!

 

[Drummers_wife]

didnt want to read and run luvie
big sorry for your loss
hopefully it will not be too long in the TTC pages for you x

 

[cosmicgirl]

So sorry hun, that's exactly what happened to me, I would have been 6 weeks when I started to bleed and my level from my blood test was only 12. I don't know about the injection but take care of yourself xx

 

[ceris]

thanks, i feel like poo, and cant stop crying! which is so silly!! trying to distract myself now! the thought of going through all that again is awful, fertility monitoring, temperatures calenders, poas, waiting... oh my goodness. i know it will be worth it when it eventually happens though!! OH is keen to start trying straight away! i think i am going to play dumb for feb and march. just keep doing it and pretend i still have implant in my arm!!

 

[cosmicgirl]

Aww hun, it's not silly, it's terribly sad and disappointing, you need to greive and there's absolutely no shame in that xx

 

[ceris]

thanks, are you trying again straight away cosmicgirl? Have you been TTC for long or have any other children? my OH has been fantastic today with it all, but he genuinely has no idea what it is like every morning testing and monitoring! I am kind of jealous of him for it! he wouldnt have a clue about the 2ww etc etc. he really wants to start straight away, and i am still bleeding! at least i can dye my hair now, my roots are awful and i was too scared to dye it because i read you shouldnt dye it in the first tri!!!

 

[cosmicgirl]

I have 4 sons and we were trying for a little girl. We did the girl diet and only did it two days before ovulation as recommended for a girl. Part of me thinks I've been taught an important lesson there! It's ironic really but when the dr said I was mc I couldn't have cared less if it was a boy or a girl to keep my little baby.
I don't want to try again just yet, I'm not sure now if I want to try at all, I've been so frightened, maybe that will change with time?
We were really lucky, we fell on our first month of trying, I know some people try for years.
I know what you mean about roots lol xx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Fingers crossed you won't have to wait long.

 

[ceris]

i know exactly what you mean. I teach dancing so i am surrounded by lots of girls all the time, so i really wanted a boy, but as soon as i started bleeding i couldnt care what it was so long as it was ok!! i was even singing the song phoebe from friends sings to her stomach when she has her brothers fertilised eggs put into her!! i I think this whole experience has actually driven me past the point of insane! i know i need to relax and not put so much pressure on, but i genuinely dont think i could do this for a year!

 

[tinselcat]

Hi Ceris

So sorry to hear that Best wishes to you in TTC again.

Re anti-D injection, I only have basic knowledge on this subject but I believe this is for people whose baby might be Rhesus-positive when they themselves are Rhesus-negative. e.g. if you have O- blood but your baby might not.

When giving birth to the baby, they give you the anti-D injection which is supposed to contain antibodies to prevent your blood from reacting against the baby's blood in case the two mix. Without the injection, you would be much more likely to m/c in the future.

*Hugs*

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I am so sorry hunny, massive x x

 

[MissJuly10]

So sorry for your loss.

x x

 

[Kezzamunster]

I'm really sorry to read this hun & sending you massive

Thinking of you & we are all here for you

xxx

 

[maybe baby]

Sorry for your loss Hun.

xx

 

[Naomi D]

So sorry Ceris

 

[LoopyLouize]

I'm so sorry for your loss Hun. Xx

 

[star fish]

thanks, are you trying again straight away cosmicgirl? Have you been TTC for long or have any other children? my OH has been fantastic today with it all, but he genuinely has no idea what it is like every morning testing and monitoring! I am kind of jealous of him for it! he wouldnt have a clue about the 2ww etc etc. he really wants to start straight away, and i am still bleeding! at least i can dye my hair now, my roots are awful and i was too scared to dye it because i read you shouldnt dye it in the first tri!!!

Hi Ceris. I'm afraid I know nothing at all about Rhd etc, good luck with it though. Really sorry for your loss. I'm in the same boat and your comment above made me smile because 2 days after I found out we had lost ours I went to Superdrug, bought some root touch up and highlighted my hair that night! I also put on nail varnish which I had been avoiding using as well just in case. Go and do it, it will make you feel a bit better (not much, but a bit) xxxxx

 

[Butterflykisses]

Hey hun. Sorry to hear about your loss. I'm also Rhesus D Negative but only had that confirmed last week after I got D+C for MMC, so still only minimum knowledge The injection will be given when 30 weeks pregnant and also after birth of baby. Also if any bleeding throughout pregnancy need to get injection within, I think, 72 hours, and if you have any kind of fall or bump throughout pregnancy.

Hope this is wee bit of help and good luck for everything in future.

 

[excited]

Hi Ceris

So sorry to hear your sad news. I am also Rh negative and had a mc in October at approx 6 weeks. Whilst pregnant I had read up on the implications this could have and this is how I understand it:

Any complications could only occur if your partner is Rh positive. If he is also negative there is absolutely nothing to worry about because your baby will also be negative and it will not cause any problems. however if he is positive it is possible that the fetus (I hate that word!!!) will also be positive and that is where the complications can start. Basically your body would think of the baby's blood as "foreign" and produce antibodies to attack it. This is not as horrible as it sounds during a first pregnancy as the baby's blood will not enter your system. it is only normally during birth that this may happen. If that is the case it could cause problems in future pregnancies as the antibodies that your body has already developed could "attack" the fetus. Thats where the RhoGAM (RHD) injection comes in. It is normallygiven at 28 weeks and within 72 hours of childbirth to prevent the antibodies developing therefore not causing problems in future pregnancies.

I bet you wish you never asked!!!! Sorry about the biology lesson! I am very glad you asked though because whilst writing this I got out my pregnancy book that I havent looked at since the mc to make sure I was saying the correct info. According to my book (and frantic searches I have just done online!) there is a possibility that the fetus' blood would mix with yours during miscarriage therefore many people receive the RhoGAM injection within 72 hours of miscarriage just in case. I did not realise this at the time and was never asked about my blood type. Apparently there is a test that you can have to find out oif this is going to be a problem.

Thanks to you asking this question I am going to be phoning my docs in the morning and asking for the test.

Apologies again for the long answer - hope it makes sense.

take care xxxx

 

[ceris]

i really appreciate that thank you excited. I was not sure if it was effecting me now because of my ectopic pregnancy? the doctors at my surgery are really rubbish, i really need to change surgeries. I was not offered the injection when i miscarried though, and they were aware of the rhd because i mentioned it every other sentence!!
hmmmm. If i had known it was was actually going to be quite hard to conceive, i probably would not have had the implant for 3 years!! quite naive of me to think i could get married and then have a baby!!!