Baby Number 2! ***UPDATED***

[grace7]

Hi girls,
Really need your advice! Well Ellie is 3 months old on Friday and i had been having some feelings that i was pregnant again my periods haven't gone back 2 normal after having Ellie and me and my partner have had a few accidents. So i have done a test and i am pregnant I really don't know what to do i dont think we can provide for another baby yet but now i know its there its hard all i keep thinking is what if it is a boy? The OH had said that he will support me whatever i chose to do but thats the problem i dont know!!

Im so upset i feel angry with myself i have caused this by being stupid and i dont even know if its what i really want

 

[budge]

i think its lovely myself. it will nice to have babies close in age. lovely company for Ellie.
but only you know what you want and whats right for you.
you should have been more careful if its something you really didn't want. i know accidents happen but you said you've had a few accidents maybe its what you wanted but now its happened you're shitting yourself.
it will be ok. i had two babies close in age and you get by. in some ways its easier than having a big gap.
i think you need a week to get over the shock and im sure you'll be fine with it. things happen for a reason.

 

[Princess_Puddles]

You should do what you feel is best hun but think it through thoroughly before you make any errational (SP?) decisions that you may regret in the long run!

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

aww hun i deffo think u should think about it for longer like mica sed u dont wanna decide summit now in the high emotion ur in for finding out let urself calm n realy think
im here if u need to tlk

 

[budge]

you need to get over the shock first then think about the next step

 

[grace7]

Thanks Girls i think you are right i really need to think about this long and hard. Bidge you are right we should off been more careful by a "few" i just meant twice i still know that is twice too many thanks girls Gracexx

 

[budge]

Thanks Girls i think you are right i really need to think about this long and hard. Bidge you are right we should off been more careful by a "few" i just meant twice i still know that is twice too many thanks girls Gracexx

by more careful i didn't mean to make you feel bad. ive been where you are too and i know how you feel.
but honestly you will be ok. give yourself a couple of weeks to get over the shock - im sure you'll be fine

 

[grace7]

i know you didnt mean to make me feel bad its ok i think i just need to give myself time like you suggested Gracexx

 

[nicki]

Like the others have said, take a couple of weeks to get used to the idea, then make your decision.

 

[Hypnorm]

I'm sure you will be fine! a friend of mine has only a year between her boy and girl she says its damn hard work, but theres not much out lay as she useds the eldests old clothes for the youngest. its just a double buggy and nappies - though she has switched to cloth now. She says its the best thing even though its hard.

Have a good think.

 

[Tasha20]

Aww hunny it will be ok My mum had two very close and she survived as a single mum, with the support of your partner im sure it will be just fine

lol I make OH use rubber and Im on the mini pill, theres no spermys going near my womb

 

[clairescunny55]

you'll be fine hun we're all here for ya

 

[violet-glow]

Sorry I havent replied, ive been trying to think of something to say. But the girls have said it all really, I agree with them. Give yourself sometime. But do what is right for you hun, dont worry about what other people might think. Its your life and you alone will know what is best to do.

Just remember that we're all here for you though... through bad times and good xx

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I agree give yourself time hun im sure you will come around to the idea. My brother and i are 10 months apart and he was not suppost to happen but now theywouldnt change it for anything. Good luck hun
Katrina

 

[Duds]

It must be terrifying for you, It was a big enough shock for me and Aimee was 10months when i found out.
You need to talk it through with your o/h and maybe your doctor they can send you for a kind of councilling also so you make the right decion for you.

No one can tell you what to do you have to do what feels right to you & your situation
xx

 

[grace7]

Well girlies me and my partner have had a long chat a decided against having this baby we realy want to concentrate on Ellie. Im so sorry if this will offend anyone but we are trying to whats best for us, the baby and Ellie. I went to the docs yesterday and he has referred me to the hospital just got to wait for a letter to come. Please dont judge me girls i was a bit worried about posting just incase i offended anyone. I feel selfish cos of all those out there TTC and me doing what im doing but we both feel its the right decision.

I feel down alot at the moment cos i feel im to blame but hopefully this will pass it is causing pressure between me n Stu when we had just got sorted after having Ellie but im sure things will sort themselves out.

Just thought i would let people know i haven't told any of my family only my closet friend knows as im not sure have my family would react, i feel that letting you all know its getting it off my chest and helping alot.

Gracexx

 

[sparky]

Grace

I'm TTC and take no offence whatsoever regarding your decision!

Sometimes the right thing to do can be hard, but your DD and DH and you come first just now!

Just wanted to give you a hug

 

[MissGobby]

ohh hun dont feel like you have offended anyone darlin, at the end of the day it is your choice and you are doing what you feel is the best for everyone. i dont know what else to say to you darlin but take care and if you ever want to to talk, you know where i am!!!

 

[grace7]

Miss Gobby and Sparky thank you so much im so glad that i havent offended you, i know in my heart if hearts this is the right decision to make even though it has been a hard one. Thanks for the hugs too girls i needed themxx

 

[kirlykird]

Good luck grace, it's a personal decision which has to be based on what's best for you and your little family.

Hope all works out well