Baby Blues ...

[*glow*]

Hi All

Just wanted a bit of a vent - and if I am lucky a bit of a hug too. See I been finding Mummyhood very tough. I felt worried for weeks (about nothing at all) and I still find the whole experience really overwhelming.

I never look at my son and think I don't love him but I do sometimes feel that the bond is not what it could be, having been completely overwhelmed with euphoria when he was first born. Maybe I am imagining it, I dont know what I should feel if you see what I mean.

Anyway I opened up to the Doctor and she said its PND. I just wondered if anyone could give me some positivity - that these rubbish feelings of stress over nothing do go away and anything that has helped any of you other ladies to enjoy things a bit more.

Sorry its a bit rambly. And can anyone tell I am a born worrier? I just need some positive stories from other people as everyone I have told (which is like two of my friends) tell me really dark stories about depression (which is the last thing I need just now!)

Cheers

 

[Eblinx]

well i have always suffered with depression on and off - last time was shortly after damon was born. The docs are great you have made such a good step in talking to them! Trust me it does get better - i really feel like i have come out the other side again now. Being a mummy is hard work and i always worried with damon that the bond was not very strong but looking back it was strong i just couldnt see it at the time! Keep your chin up hun - things will get better i promise, try and find some time to do things you enjoy if you can (i know its hard) even if its just something tiny!
im here if you ever need to chat!

 

[valentine]

Hey honey,

I'm so sorry to hear you've been feeling so low - I've not been feeling great either recently - but I've just had a few bad days of baby blues rather than PND and needed to ask for some help with housework etc.

I can't imagine exactly how you must be feeling and hopefully some girls who have had direct experience of PND will reply as Eblinx has done. Occassionally I do feel a bit empty when I look at E or want her to go to sleep so I can get something done, but that soon passes or she smiles and everything's okay again - but I don't think you realise when you are pregnant with your first that it's not all happiness and fun and there's an awful lot of washing of sicky clothes, tidying and lonelieness once all the excitement of the birth and visitors dies down.

to you and please text, ring or PM me if you'd like to chat.

Valentine xxx

 

[-Betty-]

Hi I know exactly how you are feeling. My son is nearly three months old. I have pnd. When my son was born i felt as if i was baby sitting him and had horrible thoughts. I spoke to everyone that i felt comfortable with about how i was feeling. I even joined the forum then. Gp offered me anti depressants but i decided against them. I feel much better lately. i make sure i spend time talking to my son and having fun. When he smiled at me for the first time i started to bond with him. I tell my Oh what i am feeling when I'm down. hope this has helped. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I hope it doesn't take to long for you to see it .....

 

[Fiona]

 

[lauramumof2]

I could guess what age your baby was just from what you wrote in your post. This is so normal at this point. I cant say for sure when you will start to feel better but it wont be long.
My baby was perfect at feeding and sleeping and still i felt like that. Why???? Dunno but I suddenly started to feel better, more in control and started enjoying motherhood.

You are very normal. Just remember that.

 

[Tangerinedream]

I dont have any experience of PND so cant really give any helpful advice, just wanted to give you hugs

 

[*glow*]

Guys

Thanks so much for this, its good to know I am normal. I am getting myself out the house as much as possible but I still find it hard to talk about how I am feeling so its been great just to have your messages x

 

[greendayrock]

hi hun i had very bad pnd with my first child and all though it lasted a long time i am very much back to my normal self and i am now only taking half a tablet two times a week. i got pnd slightly with my daughter but it was nothing like my son. It DOES get better who just ahve to give it time, and with support from other people you will soon feel better. i know a good site if ya wanna pm me for details it helped me.


tracyxxxx