GregorysGirl
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Hi ladies....
Im looking for some advice.
My DH is the type if guy who doesnt tend to get excited until things actually happen....or till he cn hold something in his hand.
So...I have given him some leeway for not being a giddy kipper whilst ive been pregnant.
Even last time before our miscarraige he wasnt excited. Baby was totally planned n wat we both wanted.
Feb 2010 he bought a classic car which needed alot if work doin to it n since being pregnant...I gsve admittedly given him a deadline...so that his weekend can b spent with me n jnr...not tinkering in the shed.
He is making alot of progress with it which is good......but he seems so disintrtested in me n bump. doesnt want t put his hand on it...watch it kick...not arsed abt name talk...doesnt wanna get involved in any talk of plans once its here......this makin me feel so upset..alone...unloved...and its made me question if hes truely botheted abt the baby.
Now..ive made excusez for him n think ive done the right thkng by lettin him fulfill his dream...byt this baby is.my drean too!!! I keep tellin myself....its just him.n he'll get excited when he or she is here...but when he gets more excited over a shiney new part for the car than seeing his baby move...it just makes me question everything. Somedays I dnt even get asked how I am...despite gavin a very stressful job n having told him...its been makin me feel sick.
I really am happy for my friends n those if u with doting hubbys who rub their back n talk to bump...but im lost for how to resolve this cos a result we keep arguing...I end up sobbin n that usnt good for the baby at all.
Has anyone else experienced similar or have any advice....cos the only tng I can think t do us go somewhere on my own t make him realise....mind u...after sobbin last night n again this morning...he has merrily gone downstairs t watch formula 1!!!!!
I do adore my hubby guys...dnt think hes nit a good person....but I just dnt know how to cope with this.
Big hugs...joy xxxxx ( angry...sad...upset..lonely)
P.s sorry for the long post xxxx
Im looking for some advice.
My DH is the type if guy who doesnt tend to get excited until things actually happen....or till he cn hold something in his hand.
So...I have given him some leeway for not being a giddy kipper whilst ive been pregnant.
Even last time before our miscarraige he wasnt excited. Baby was totally planned n wat we both wanted.
Feb 2010 he bought a classic car which needed alot if work doin to it n since being pregnant...I gsve admittedly given him a deadline...so that his weekend can b spent with me n jnr...not tinkering in the shed.
He is making alot of progress with it which is good......but he seems so disintrtested in me n bump. doesnt want t put his hand on it...watch it kick...not arsed abt name talk...doesnt wanna get involved in any talk of plans once its here......this makin me feel so upset..alone...unloved...and its made me question if hes truely botheted abt the baby.
Now..ive made excusez for him n think ive done the right thkng by lettin him fulfill his dream...byt this baby is.my drean too!!! I keep tellin myself....its just him.n he'll get excited when he or she is here...but when he gets more excited over a shiney new part for the car than seeing his baby move...it just makes me question everything. Somedays I dnt even get asked how I am...despite gavin a very stressful job n having told him...its been makin me feel sick.
I really am happy for my friends n those if u with doting hubbys who rub their back n talk to bump...but im lost for how to resolve this cos a result we keep arguing...I end up sobbin n that usnt good for the baby at all.
Has anyone else experienced similar or have any advice....cos the only tng I can think t do us go somewhere on my own t make him realise....mind u...after sobbin last night n again this morning...he has merrily gone downstairs t watch formula 1!!!!!
I do adore my hubby guys...dnt think hes nit a good person....but I just dnt know how to cope with this.
Big hugs...joy xxxxx ( angry...sad...upset..lonely)
P.s sorry for the long post xxxx