Are these normal emotions?

[positivity :)]

Please be honest.

When we thought little man was arriving yesterday we both said (god this sounds bad) I don't think I'm ready for a baby. I'm not talking about the labour, I mean actually having a baby come into our lives. Because of the struggle sone have had in ttc I feel terrible saying this but its now playing in my mind. Iv been with J for 8 years and it's starting to feel strange that there will now be 3 of us and I'm really not sure how I feel about it, my life is about to completely change!!

See ladies, try to avoid false starts..they mess ur brain up lol xx

 

[NinjaKitty]

I think it's normal. I've started to think that OMG I don't actually know what to do when bubs is here! And I've not had any false starts. Put is this way, millions of women go through it every week so we should be ok too.

 

[pinkyprincess]

I know what you mean! I've only been with my OH for 4 years (back together for 2 after over a year break) and sometimes I feel really selfish because I want to push baby back a few months so we can have more time together just us before he comes! I also worry about if we ever break up what would happen then!

You guys are going to be amazing parents, apparently it comes naturally when they come out. I think if everyone waited until they were 'ready' no one would ever have kids!

 

[positivity :)]

That's right I mean I thought, what if we had waited but we've waited 8 years! If we're not ready now then I doubt we ever will be. Everyone tells me that when they arrive they are the most amazing things ever so I'm relying on feeling like this lol xx

 

[NinjaKitty]

That's right I mean I thought, what if we had waited but we've waited 8 years! If we're not ready now then I doubt we ever will be. Everyone tells me that when they arrive they are the most amazing things ever so I'm relying on feeling like this lol xx

^^^ This. Except we waited over 20 years! Ok we've been together since we were 16 but even so......

 

[Lilelephant]

It's only normal to feel apprehensive hun. It is a major thing. You will be great parents x

 

[Binzy]

You are never going to be ready! I was exactly like you, there's no point in worrying as nothing can prepare you mentally for such a big change. I think you just have to have an open mind and accept that it will take all 3 of you a while to get used to each other xx

 

[Cazzlou]

It's totally normal to have them feelings and once lo is here you may think omg what have we done but them feelings don't last.

This is my 2nd and I've already had the what have we done, should we change our happy family of 3 etc

 

[Mrs CW]

I haven't had a false start and I've had a few moments of omg what are we doing?! I can't wait for LO to be here now but I'm also a little freaked out! x x x

 

[Princess81]

Hon its fear of the unknown. That's all I was all emotional last night envisaging a baby at the end of all this too!! No - none of us probably ate ready - but once baby is here we adjust because we have no choice. You'll be fab. I wish I lived closer so we could do mummy meet ups once they are here
And yes the false starts are a proper head wrecker and being stuck in hospital gives you too much time to think x

 

[ForestLas80]

I Know how u feel honey. We've been so certain and now here we r days from LO arriving we have started to feel a little daunted. I think (and hope) that's normal. We don't know how it's going to be and it is a complete life changer for a couple. DH for the first time ever said he's nervous about baby arriving, turns out he's worried about being a good dad (bless him) I know he's going to be fab. We all have to have faith in ourselves and our OH's and it'll all be fine xxxx

 

[Esperanza84]

I think that's totally normal. We ttc'ed for a long time before I got my bfp, but I've also had thoughts about how everything will change and how our relationship will be etc etc. But I've just settled with that we will manage one way or the other

Wish you lots of luck positivity! I'm sure you'll be super good parents!!

xx

 

[lewisca]

It is perfectly normal !! I felt like every time I was pregnant ! not just with our first !! Everyone tells u bout the rush of love u have when u first meet lo and i remember thinking sure it cant b that intense IT IS !!! I was worried I hadnt bonded properly with Rhea while i was carrying her cos of life with 2 under5 getting in the way etc but the second she was born she had my heart and i wasnt scared of how i would cope with 3 anymore !! xxxx

 

[Lilmoomin]

It's completely normal hun. I have two boys and I am now thinking 'shit, did we really wanna do this all over again??' Of course the answer is yes as we was ttc! I worry that I have forgotten how to do everything, will I be able to cope and so on! I also worry that it will put strain on our relationship!
The thing is, once LO's are (finally) here, our feelings change so much! You don't realise how much love you have to give and how wonderful it is for you and your OH to share so much love for your LO! There will be times when your tired and LO is crying and you think 'I must be mad' but the amount of times you look down at your gorgeous LO and feel so much love and think 'I wouldn't change this for the world' seriously out weigh it! X x x

 

[vickib_1984]

It's all normal when we were having Thomas I didn't get chance to think it because we didn't know I was in labour until I was 9cm dilated!!! But this time with all his problems we are thinking have we done the right thing blah blah don't worry once he's here everything will change for the better xxx

 

[SarahJane88]

Its strange because i love my oh more than anything and think hes amazing but then i think soon i will love someone more and its really weird to think we will soon be three. On a daily basis i think...... am i ready? can we do this? but then in my next breath i worry if my lo is ok? and how i cant wait until she is here.
I think its only natural and pregnancy hormones wont be helping us all xx

 

[Rachaellius]

Completely normal, as Princess says I think it's just fear of the unknown. I feel like it too sometimes, but when LO is here things will just settle into place naturally I'm sure hope your feeling a bit better today hun x x

 

[Cazza]

Absolutely normal...................been with my OH for 23 years and this Bubba is going to be a huge shock to our systems!!!

It's the unknown factors hunny, once LO is here you'll wonder how life ever went on without him!!

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

I totally understand.
Me and my OH are so young, I sometimes wonder if we're ready.
I'm not worried about being a mother so much, I know I'll do my best and I believe in myself.
I just worry that we're not ready which is strange because deep down I know how amazing it's going to be. We've been through a lot together already, we grew stronger as a couple every day, this is something else so amazing that we're going to share together I can't wait xxx

 

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i u girls xx