Apparently I'm taking things too far... Pfft!!

[LaurenMM]

Hi girls,

Basically my OH's best mates wife makes me feel like a child sometimes!! Everytime I see her or speak to her she has to put her oar in about me and the way I'm handling my pregnancy. We went round to theirs for dinner a few weeks ago and she had brie out and I love it but obviously I politely said I couldn't have it. She was amazed at this and asked what other things I'm not supposed to eat and she said "all these rules about what you can/can't have in pregnancy are so stupid, you may as well just lock yourself away for nine months" then she asked me to go ice skating last week I said I didn't think it was such a good idea for a pregnant woman to go ice skating, particularly one as clumsy as me and she said something along the lines of I'm boring and I'm taking 'the rules' too far. Well, sorry love but I actually care about my health and my babies health and regardless of whether these restrictions seem 'stupid' - they're there for a reason . Just sick of being criticised and her bitchy sarcy comments grr

sorry for the long rant girls lol xx

 

[mum2b410]

What a cow! U stick to your guns hun, I'm sure if she were in the same position she wouldn't want to put her baby at risk, not matter how small that risk! I hate it when people make judgements like that! U just ignore her and carry on doing a fab job of looking after LO! XX

 

[tinytoes]

What a cow ! I really think people just have to give an opinion about everything , yor doing a great job looking after your baby and doing everything you are advised to do . i couldnt rest if I thought I had done something to harm my baby pregnancy is scary enough withoug adding worries yourself . Does she even have any children ? Dont mind her one bit , people are so rude !

 

[LaurenMM]

Unfortunately she's just one of these people who thinks they know everything - despite not having any experience. She was pregnant a few years ago but she sadly had a miscarriage. I don't know any details of this (ie how far gone she was etc) I do feel for her but I would've thought she'd be even more understanding about the restrictions in pregnancy. I know that what I'm doing it correct and it is not worth any risks to bend the rules once in a while. It does wind me up though she even criticised me for stopped smoking when I found out I pregnant. I was 20 a day before I found out and quit as soon as I got my BPF and she said it's probably best you dont quit just like that, but cut down first. Lol she doesn't even smoke and I thought it was a good thing to quit smoking while pregnant lol xx

 

[NinjaKitty]

I assume she's never been pregnant and is offering her "opinion" whilst being totally ignorant about it. She sounds like a knob just ignore her.

 

[Princess81]

I was Going to say I presume she hasn't been pregnant before. But it's sad about the miscarriage she had. No pregnancy isn't an illness but you have to look after yourself and not take unnecessary risks. Maybe she'll learn that one day xx

 

[LaurenMM]

Yeah of course I completely feel for her and it is sad she went through that. I just don't appreciate being criticised for trying to do the right thing for mine and my babys health. If I wasn't looking after myself properly etc I would understand if she was knocking me but I'm only doing what I think is right. x

 

[Olive]

It sounds to me hun like she may be a bit envious maybe of your pregnancy. It's sad to hear about her mc.

xxxx

 

[Danti]

^^WSS^^

You're doing the right thing, you know that so let her nose butting go straight over your head! xx

 

[Rachaellius]

Yeah really sounds to me like jealousy! I think asking a pregnant woman to go ice skating sounds absolutely ludicrous! Sounds to me like your doing a great job. I was a 20 a day smoker too before i found out i was pregnant and went cold turkey, cutting down is a great method for SOME people trying to quit but surely cutting down is prolonging it and doing more harm than stopping straight away.

Try not to let her get to you, I think it's just jealousy

xx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I was going to say that too.. what a d*ck!! its very sad about her mc, but theres no need for jealousy she should encourage you to be careful seeing what happened to her!
Ur doing a great job.. dont let her get to you doesnt anyone step in and say anything when she says this to you? Back you up? Or are they afraid of offending her coz of her mc?

 

[Toni_Win]

I understand that it can seem like some of these rules are a bit excessive, but completely agree with you and I'm the same avoiding everything I'm supposed to and taking my vitamins to make sure this lo is as healthy as possible. I guess people just don't understand the potential risks from some foods. Something with a small risk of food poisoning for a healthy unpregnant woman isn't really a problem. If they get something they're just ill for a couple of days, and while it's unplesant they will be fine. If we get food poisoning or a stomach bug it can have major implications for the baby, that's why the strict rules are there. And we're all sitting in the camp of better to forgo a few luxuries now and have no problems than run the risk for our babies.

 

[Bella2]

I agree with the other girls hon definately sounds like she is having an attack of the green-eyed monster. I think that's really bad on her part that she's encouraging you to do things that could potentially harm your baby, surely even the least savvy person would know that smoking is really harmful and going iceskating is just silly. Given her previous MC she of all people should know what the risks are. You're doing a great job nurturing your little one, you carry on and try not to let her or others discourage you x x x

 

[LaurenMM]

Ur doing a great job.. dont let her get to you doesnt anyone step in and say anything when she says this to you? Back you up? Or are they afraid of offending her coz of her mc?

Lol her own husband did say "just leave her alone, she's only following the rules". But I guess its sort of ok for her husband to say it but I don't feel like I can say much because I don't wanna offend her - what I do say though is that they might seems silly restrictions but they are there for a reason and it's only 9 months out of my whole life.

Thanks for your support girls, at least you guys understand!! It would seem that she's jealous so I never bring up anything about my pregnancy or go on about it - that's just mean. To be honest, it's not just my pregnancy she criticises me about, it seems like everything. I wear make up every day (yes, even if I'm not doing anything, just a silly habit lol), I don't layer it on and its only tinted moisteriser and a bit of mascara but she picks at me for wearing it every day, the clothes I wear etc etc. Just don't know what her problem is lol xx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Tell her to go f herself!!
Totally jealous of u! Maybe politely ask her if she has an issue with you as you feel under attack all the time.. Before you get to third tri and fed up and lash out lol!!
Or just don't go to their house anymore, get them to come to you.. Surely she's not rude enough to offend u in ur own home??

Maybe she's just the type of person who doesn't realise what they're saying is offending you, maybe If you say it's annoying or upsetting she will stop.. Or get in a strop and never talk to you again.. I see that as a win win

 

[LaurenMM]

Sometimes I do let my annoyance show and she does back off a bit. It is a shame cuz sometimes she can be alright, and I get on with her OH ok. Yeah she definitely doesn't seem to think before she speaks...

I suppose I can't really complain anymore, our OH's are in the RAF and just found out she's being posted in October so I won't have to hear her criticise me again woop!!

xx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

 

[BabysMomma]

Definitely sounds like jealousy. I'm sorry to hear about her MC but it doesn't give her the right to criticise you for doing the best whilst nurturing your LO.

And the make up thing...I wear make up almost everday (I give my skin a break once in a blue moon) and I wear it even if I'm not going out of the house! Always be prepared is my motto It makes me feel better, especially now as I feel like a heffalump

Just keep on doing what's right for your LO and in 3 months, you ain't got to listen to it anymore. x

 

[suzzi]

tell her straight its your body, your pregnancy and youll do what you like and eat what you want (or dont want)