Anyone on here's OH have fertility issues?

[Suzie77]

Hi All, Me and my OH have been ttc for nearly 3 years. After some tests it seems I'm ok but my OH had 3 sperm tests done and his results were that he had a 7 million sperm count in one test and an 11 million count in the second (the third test sample they lost). This is apparently low counts.

He also has a hydrocele and varicoli in his testicles (sorry if spelling is wrong its getting late ). He is going to see a specialist on the 19th and then will most likely have an op to remove them as they could possibly be obstructing the flow of sperm.

When my OH found out the first thing he said to me was 'Are you glad now? It's my fault that we can't get pregnant!', which really hurt. I can understand that it must be hard for him, and I don't blame him at all, I'm just glad we may finally be getting somewhere, but I feel so alone, like I can't talk to him about it without him clamming up or getting defensive.

Does anyone here have a partner that has fertility issues and how did you get through it?

 

[Suzie77]

Take it I'm on my own then

 

[xxsammyxx]

my OH has but ill try and remember to post the story tomorrow as its 3.25am here!!!

 

[xxsammyxx]

Ive pm'd you hun

 

[Loola]

Hi Yes Im in the same boat, my OH has a low sperm count, most likely down to him being overweight, smoking and drinking too much so not exactly your situation. We are at the moment taking a break from TTC, we had been trying for 16 months, but we are getting married in 10 months, so we are leaving it til after the wedding now (which is incredibly hard trust me!) in the next 10 months we are going to be getting very healthy together, hoping that this will improve our chances of conceiving next year.

Your OH is going through exactly what my OH is going through. He thinks its all his fault that we cant have babies, and it has made him very depressed as it is so much pressure for him. The only thing you can do is be supportive, just keep telling him that you will get through this and you will have a baby and you are so proud of him for what he is doing so that that you can have children. Id advise you to just get healthy and keep trying cos even with low counts there is still a chance, it may just take longer than it does for most people. It will get better Im sure. If you can hide your disappointment when you are not pregnant that will help im sure. There are so many things that Dr's can do for people these days, that its not the end of the world. At the end of all the effort you will have a beautiful baby more precious than anything Im sure.

 

[Suzie77]

Hey Sammy, thanks for your message I've PM'd you

Loola, what a nightmare that you have to wait 10 months, you must be so stressed with that and the wedding hanging over you. Sounds like you've got a positive attitude to both get fit and healthy. From today, I'm on a diet and am going to the gym tomorrow. I have about 2 stone to lose, so that will give me another goal to concentrate on for the next few months until my other half has his op and recovers.

If still no BFP by December/ Jan I'm going to a private fertility clinic, I'm not mucking about anymore as I just can't take another BFN. But until then I'm just not going to worry about it and am going to enjoy my life

Thanks for your advice. I had a good chat to my OH on the weekend and he seems much more positive so fingers crossed it will happen soon.

Take care and thanks

 

[xxsammyxx]

Hi Suzie... good luck with OH's op, hope it all goes well. I think we will try until December and then continue with a clinic that knows what its doing, hence not the one we are with!!! lol. We might be going down the ICSI route together then. Lets hope we dont have to and we both conceive naturally though. Good luck everyone

 

[Suzie77]

My OH went to the specialist and he said that the varacocele and hydrocele in his testicles have 100% nothing to do with his low sperm count so they can't operate. I'm back to the docs on Thursday to see what the next steps are.

Am abit nervous, but on a positive am trying magic medicine this month and am on a diet, so have something to focus on.

I've started a TTC diary now which I think will help me vent out my worry, frustration etc.

Suzie x

 

[debstersky]

Yep my husband has 2 varococele and low count and poor morphology. We have had one failed ivf/icsi. At first my husband was gutted but he decided he'd keep positive. He too thought it was all his fault. he stopped drinkin and smoking bout 2 years ago. Started taking vits etc. Didn't seem to make much difference. We were told we had less than a 5% chance of ever getting pregnant. 7 months on from then I'm 14 weeks pregnant (naturally). So stuff what the doctors say. It only takes 1 good one. I started having acupuncture 6 weeks b4 I conceived as I was due to start IVF again. I'd recommend trying it. Also that same month I started taking CoQ10 and I changed from pregnacare vits to pregnacare conception vits. The day b4 I O'd my husband had a count done and it came back lower than a snakes belly. Something did the trick and I'd put my money on the acupuncture!

Hope that helps

 

[Suzie77]

Thanks for your advise