anyone made a big move before?

[honeybear]

Hi ladies

just wondering if anyone has done a big move before
since my o.h and i moved to this new town last year its been cursed we have moved twice had the worst neighbors both properties. He hasnt got a job round here its put the worst pressure on our relationship and my stress from this new job has been through the roof

the only decent thing about it is that i have got back into uni to start sept!



im working full time and abit extra at the moment to pay pills and cover costs but no way i could save up for another place
my partner is originally from fleetwood/blackpool and thats where we would like to head back too
we dont know either to just bite the bullet and see what we can do the council wont even put us on their register because of us not having a job when we move there to start with

it all sounds abit risky but anything has to be better than this? its been sheer stress non stop and we wonder why we aren't conceiving its all we do bicker about stuff here.

anyone have advice? its not near us so it would be abit of a move !

 

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We moved in December from rented accomodation on the Wirral into our own place half way up a mountain in North Wales. 3 weeks before we moved i ended up in hospital having a laparoscopy and ovarian cystectomy. Stress!

We both work on the Wirral but for me knowing my maternity leave was impending I decided I'd hack the commute for a couple of months. (I actually started my maternity on Friday ) Hubby quite enjoys the drive and listening to his radio on the way so he's happy.

We are now detached so no neighbours to worry about. the place needs lots of work, we are living with bare floors in some rooms and the plaster has fallen off the walls in the main living room. We are sleeping on a mattress on the floor in what will be the nursery surrounded by boxes of wood flooring that was meant to be laid downstairs (until the plaster fell off!)

I don't know anyone round here at all and it took me ages to work out where the shops were but do you know what I wouldn't change it for the world!

Hubby and I are working together on little (and big) house projects, planning our future and we love it. All while expecting so it can be done lol!

To be honest if you don't have much of a financial buffer I would be tempted to work on getting some money behind you first. Not necessarily working more hours but maybe selling bits and bobs on ebay which will help you have clear out before you move anyway. Also have a real harsh scrutinise of your outgoings, is there anything you can chop? gym membership, mobile phone contract, sky tv etc? Good luck with whatever you decide to do.xxx

 

[lisey]

I don't have personal experience of this, I have lived in the same area my whole life but personally I would say go for it. You're not happy there and if going back to Fleetwood/blackpool could help your relationship and help your OH in finding a job then thats great. Maybe make up a list of pros and cons, I know it sounds lame but if you have it written down you can maybe really think about how staying would benefit you or how moving could.
If you move are you still able to attend the same uni or could you transfer to another? x

 

[honeybear]

Hi girls
thankyou for your points
pin badge i lived in wales for a while under a mountain and it took me ages to get around so i admire you for that

if we moved it would be for a whole new start new jobs and i would have to re do a uni application as i couldnt attend the old one we dont drive so i couldnt commute to my old job or anything as it is about 1h20 away in a car and 1h30 on the train it would be possible but a long way and it costs £25 for a return on the train would work out at £75 a week minimum lol xxx

 

[lisey]

Oh I see, very far then. Do you or your OH have friends of family in the area you want to move back to? Just thinking it might help if you do as I know you have said there is nobody you know around where you live now. It is a huge decision and a big move, hope you both come to a decision you are both happy with hun x

 

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I'm loving our mountain...snow and all lol.
That does sound like a big move, the cost of petrol is a bit of an issue for me, full £60 tank every 4 days, I wouldn't have even tried if I'd had to use public transport as it'd take me about 2 hours each journey.

Have you looked at job options there? Do either of you work for a company you could transfer to? My stepson did this when he went to Uni then transferred back when he'd finished.

If you are at Uni could you still work enough hours to pay for everything? I finished a part time degree last summer and managed to keep my full time job but they were VERY flexible with me, I'm not sure every employer would be as accomodating. Lol! What are you hoping to study if you don't mind me asking? Xx