well, my MiL is a law unto herself lol (but thats another thread
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This woman seems to not quite grasp the concept of boundaries, it should be up to YOU where you live, if your OH suggests 'oh well it would make sense for us to be round the corner' then remind him that if he had thought that way before she got involved, you would have househunted in that area!
A council house is the closest thing to your own place that you can get without buying, so if your kiddlett trashes the carpets or damages a door, its not a bother. In a private rental you cant even paint a room the colour you want it, you have to leave it smeggy magnolia and if the landlord decides they dont want you anymore they can kick you out in a few months time!
Talk to your OH and explain the benefits of having a council house over rented (money being a massive one) and that if you ever get evicted from a private let, and you have left a council house to move into it, its going to be difficult to get back on the council scheme. It just doesnt make any sense!
my mum lives in Australia so is way way more than 20mins away, it would be great to have her nearer but i dont think i would want her just round the corner, its nice to have a bit of notice if someone is coming over (and thats MY mum let alone Liams lol)
I just worry that if you go for it and move, not only will it put you financially in a worse position, you will basically be swapping a long-term, secure living situation for one that is not secure at all AND your MiL will feel she can just barge in on you all day every day when she feels like it.
stand your ground hun, hope it goes okay and your OH will listen to you x