anyone else feeling apprehensive about the labour?

[s]

A friend of mine has just had her baby and even though it was a very quick birth it sounded harrowing!! She rang me yesterday to tell me about it. And I felt really low and flat last night dreading it coming and me not being able to cope. Silly I know. I love this little girl more than anything in the world word and her arrival into my life has made me so happy. I've had two mcs so this pregnancy is very much wanted and very much enjoyed.
I guess i''m just having a flat couple of days. Probably hormones.
Sorry if this upsets anyone. I just had to get it off my chest.
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[pilkers]

honest answer?? I'm sh*ttin it

I'm terrible with pain and hospitals. I think because it's my first I'm scared of the "unknown" But I'm sure it'll all be fine

 

[ella]

Dont feel bad about being scared - its totally normal, you will cope brilliantly. I can't even bring myself to think about it yet.

 

[Ladybird]

God, yeah!

 

[pilkers]

I keep saying to OH "imagine trying to push an grape out of your **** and then maybe you're almost in the same ballpark"

makes him a bit green

 

[s]

I so love that - "honest answer I'm shitting it".
Thing is if it gets too much we can always get the epidural and women wouldn't have multiple pregnancies if it was so unbearable. Well that's what I keep telling myself. I've also had 1 pal who had a very quick easy labour recently so let's hang onto her experience.
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[kitty86]

Im on baby no2 and I am so scared and I dont know why.

I had a lovely labour and birth. I had a water bith with just gas n air it was lovely.

I dont remember it being painful it was more hard work. The pushing was very hard work but the labour part I nearly fell asleep so it couldn't have been that bad.

 

[s]

I could kiss you Kitty. That's so reassuring. It's lovely to hear a positive birth story.
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[s]

PS Kitty,
You're just a day ahead of me! I'm due on December 13th.
S

 

[Kylie1007]

Yeah I don't really fancy the labour part!

 

[mags]

Don't you just love those women who enjoy telling you their labour "horror stories", knowing you're next! My aunt gave birth to my cousin 6 weeks before my mother was due to have me, and she was all "Oh my god, I really don't evny you. The pain was indescribable!!" I was the opposite. When I had my DD in 2004, I had a friend who was due about 3 weeks after me, and all I did was reassure her. Of course there is pain, but it's nothing our bodies weren't meant to cope with. It's nothing more than we can bare. Keep in mind, in all the videos you see these days, of women giving birth, you never see them cry. I have to say, I've felt more apprehensive going in for a root canal than I did when I gave birth. It's EXCITING, because you know this brief pain is worth it...at the end of it all, you get the best reward of all!!

xx

 

[lisa&alex]

my mum said.. right lis, im not gonna hide it from you, your 1st labours gonna kill..in the old days (back wehn i was born lol - lol im 23! ) noone told mums - to - be how painfull giving birth was.. it was all taboo back then, my mother said icouldnt believe the pain i felt like my body was gonna explode.

so lisa goes into it in 2002, thinking ok lis.. this is gonna be the most painfull thing your bodys ever gonna go through, its gonna be like almost dieing, il probably scream get it out... give me a c section!!

so 13th of november 2002 came by my waters had broke the day before, and by 6.30pm on the 13th my contractions started, which i thought hey these arnt to bad actually.. my mum laughed i doubt ul be saying that in a few hours.. a few hours came by, i was monitored at around 1am on the 14th and was having contractions every few mins, the midwife ( my friends mum) said lis, ur in agony.. u need something do u want pethadine to rest.. i said no i think im fine.. she said i think u are at the stage where u need something to help u relax..( did i? i felt i was coping ok?) mum said, have it lis u might be able to sleep thro the contractions then.. so i had it.. yeah it did relax me.. but the contractions kept comming..

6 am i was allowed to walk around again.. and i couldnt talk through the contractions, but they wernt that bad, between i felt normal i could walk around laugh and joke etc..by 8am i was 5 cms.. and the mw said do u want some gas and air? (in reality i wanted a sip of my mums cup of tea, but they ddint tell me once i get to 5cms u cant eat or drink? really ta for telling me that b4 i came onto the warm lol)

so at about 6 cms i started with gas n air!! which was amazing, i started pushing at about 11.10 which was the worst part of the labour.. coz ur body should naturally go away from pain.. and pushing into it.. didnt hurt.. but it just felt strange, kinda like... trying to move something that doesnt want to move if u get me..but once she started comming through the pelvis it was fine..and as she was crowning my mums said get ready for the burn lis, just push thro it dont waste what u have done.. i didnt feel any burn,.. i was fine i jsut pushed her head out, i had a little trouble with ehr shoulders but it didnt take long..she was born at 11.45

it was no where near as painfull as i expected it to be, i didnt say get it out of me.. or i need an epidural..i coped fine,

my only adivse would be.. go into it thinking this is gonna kill its gonna be agony.. and i think it wont be as bad as u expect it..and when its time to push.. push as hard as u can.. at the end of the day ur the only one gonna shift the baby..the harder you push the sooner it will be in ur arms and the pain will be over..

 

[Princess_Puddles]

I was induced and that is meant to be more painful and I can honestly say I would do it alll over again tomorrow if I had to, It really wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

 

[BabyLove]

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[lio]

I am terrified

 

[Josephine_Beth]

It's safe to say I am totally sh*tting it when it comes to labour!

 

[**C**]

I had an epidural last time and it was absolutely amazing! I was lying there fully dilated and reading the sunday papers whan the midwife says "ok you can push now if you like" and out he popped! Ok well, there was a fair amount of pushing I could still feel the contractions but there was no pain what so ever.....I could hear all the other women screeeeeaaaaaming like they were being slowly lowered into boiling oil, and was thinking thank goodness I opted for the epi!

This time I'm not going to have one, I don't think. I think it's only right to experience it how everyone else has since the beginning of time. I'm quite confident that all will be well and with a second child it's supposed to all happen quicker. I know it's going to hurt, but at the end of the day, it's nature isn't it? My poor mother who is about 5'5 gave birth to me, weighing almost 11lbs without any pain relief.....my great grandmother had my grandfather who weighed *gulps* 14 lbs.

I have to say theres alot of brave women out there though. When I discovered I was pregnant with Harry I knew straight away i would have the epidural...bit of a coward for pain! In my antenatal class there were about 25 of us and only one other who was making the same choice as me.....I don't know if everyone stuck to it in the end, but these were all first time mothers alot braver than me!

 

[purple13]

i love the idea of reading the paper whilst popping out a baby!!

 

[kellysomer]

I gave birth to Isla after 26 hours of labour and had no pain relief at all, it was not as painful as i thought but more tiring than i thought, i kept falling alseep between contractions, i was pushing for 2-3 hours and it was the most tired i've ever been in my life. I was not worried when went into labour and was so excited that i think the adrenaline takes away a lot of the pain.

It is one of the oldest, most natural, most rewarding pains you can get. Each contraction and each push bring you nearer to the most ultimate of rewards.

First time round ignorance is bliss, 2nd time round i know whats to come, yes i am scared and i am nervous but i trust my body 100%. I know it will hurt and i know i have no choice but to deal with it.

Will i do it au natural this time? I dont know but i know i can deal with it at the time. (hmmmmm)

 

[Anna B]

Its not that bad, and if I can say that, then it must be ok!
Just think, you'll have a lovely baby at the end of it to look forward to, I had nothing, and I coped OK