Antenatal Depression

[Ju]

Hi folks,

Feeling really low today...................I have had depression in the past and am currently having counselling as I have felt so low throughout my entire pregnancy. I am happy about my baby girl, but I just feel so depressed and guilty for feeling like it!


Has anyone heard of antenatal depression or have had or knows someone who has had it? Just wondering how I can make myself feel happier when I'm not at counselling!

http://www.depression-in-pregnancy.org.uk

I've been on the above website and it was quite helpful. Have also e-mailed OH to let him know how I feel because I feel too ashamed to tell him face to face.

Ju xxx

 

[nicki]

First of all hun don't feel ashamed for feeling like this, its not as if you're doing it on purpose.
I have suffered from depression but this was years ago & luckily only had the baby blues for a couple of weeks but it is hard going not being able to control your feelings.
I expect alot of it is down to hormones & it'll probably settle down in time after the birth but in the mean time see your doctor & talk it all through with him/her, they can help & they will take you seriously, its a serious condition. I hope you feel better soon

 

[nicilou]

hi hun, i have been suffering on and off for 6 years, it started as post natal depression and has just been one thing after another.when i gave birth i just didnt bond with her partly because of my ex's family just took over as soon as i had her. when she was 9 months i ended up just giving her to them and she lived there for 2 years! god , what i would do now to turn back time.
Any way i am 5 months pg now , and i have gone back on my anti-depressants because i am so low . I have been signed off work constantly by the dr because i cant even prepare myself to walk out the door. Some days i am happy as larry and others i feel like theres no point to the day.When i feel like that i allways remember what my nan says to me , that i have to think of what i have got and that i have alot to look forward to. it dosent do much help but it makes me relise that if i get through today i will feel different in myself tommorow.
People say to me what r u going to do when this baby comes along , how am i going to cope , but i see it differently , this is my chance to make up for what i lost out on and there is no way that i am going down that road again. The dr has already told me that after i have this baby he is going to sort me out which in a way , i cant wait.
Any way sorry that i havent been much help , i just want you to know that ur not alone and if you want to talk we're here. x

 

[babsi]

I think I had something similar. I hated being pregnant. I hated being in pain all the time. I kept worrying something was going to happen. But as soon as Kai was born I was fine and happy he was here.

It was funny I went to hospital as I had a pain in my leg at 30 weeks, I thought it was DVT, of course I was worried about it but there was something else bothering me at the time and I ended up talking to a social worker who thought there was something more wrong and I was actually flagged when Kai was born and she came to see how I was. Stupid woman and so patronising.

 

[Ju]

Thank you so much for your kind words of support and for sharing your experiences with me. It's nice to know that I'm not alone!