Announcing Pregnancy

[Rachlaidler94]

So I had my 12 week scan on Tuesday and I was dated 12+6. So we decided we would start and tell people, both parents already knew so we told them an update then told siblings on both sides and grandparents and that was it other than our friends who are currently having fertility issues. We decided to tell them in person rather then letting them just see it on Facebook.

After telling all of the above we decided to post our announcement on Facebook as we felt we had told all the family we were happy to and then others can find out through Facebook otherwise the baby would be here by the time we told everyone on both sides.

Everything was going good until I got a text from my Mam saying she had received a bollocking from her sister (my auntie) because we hadn't told her and she had to find out in person. So me personally I don't feel I have done anything wrong as I only see her in a blue moon. My Mam is saying everyone knows before them yet they have commented on the post saying congratulations. So now I'm all upset and just wanting to know your opinions.

 

[PeanutButter]

Think she's juts making something out of nothing, trying to be involved, or attention. If it were me I'd be like well fk it. Does she tell you everything in person. Lol I'm annoyed for you tbh, dislike people that try to make everything about them. X

 

[Pemsy]

I don't think you're in the wrong however, I personally don't plan to use Facebook for this very reason. When we got engaged I told all my family and waited about 4 days before announcing it on FB. I thought as it was Christmas news would have spread through all my wider family but it didn't quite reach my Auntie and Unlcle who live a few hours away (my Dad tried everyday but no one answered the phone). They were fine about it but I did still feel bad.

This time so far I have told 4 colleagues for varying reason mostly safety or arranging cover. We have also just told our two closest friends who are a couple and we spend most of our free time with them so we wanted to say before they figured it out. I have not told any family but intend to do this after 12 weeks. We will start with parents then siblings and grandparents. I will ask parents to try and spread the news through to the wider family for me. After another week I will tell our friends and people at work. Although we do not to intend to make any announcement on FB, when I aim showing and feel the time is right, I will post a picture of me with a bump. That way I feel like everyone will know but it will be more obvious to my closer friends rather than distant ones. I just feel as though the people I want to tell are important in my life and I will tell them personally. I quite often get fed up with FB and delete it so I'm not one to embrace the power of a big announcement. However, I do love it when I see them from other people and I think it must be wonderful to feel all that positivity, it's just not me x