Am I over reacting/being selfish?

[Mms]

My other half has took on an extra 2 overtime shifts a week so we get one night together to get into bed properly, talk about our days and have some proper time together. He alternates between days and nights and some weeks we don’t even get to be in bed together due to me getting up when he’s getting in. I’m forever grateful that he’s working hard to get extra money for baby to make sure we have no struggles when it comes to money but my work doesn’t offer overtime since I just work annualised hours so it makes me feel like I can’t provide as much as he can and I’m not doing enough.

Am I being too selfish for expecting him to drop a shift so we have more time together to plan, enjoy time alone before we become three or do I just get on with it? I feel completely in the wrong for even suggesting he even does a one weekend in one off sort of thing just for my own benefit but this is our first and I have 100 different things to worry about and is 1 day and night to ourselves a week just a sacrifice I’ll have to make ?

 

[Vintageling]

I think your best talking to him hun find out what his feelings are at the moment as he may be feeling the same as you but might be so worried about having everything ready for baby that he is It feels like he needs to do the overtime more.

 

[MoominGirl]

I think this is something you both need to talk through together. The right course of action depends on so many factors especially your financial situation both now and after baby is born.