sazzleevans
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Hi
I just wanted some advice, if anyone has any views i would love to hear from you.
I have been with my OH for nearly 4 years. All his family live abroad and never visit. We vist them or we pay for them to vist us whilst in Spain but they dont visit as they say their finances are limited...fair enough.
Three years ago i paid for my OH mum to fly over from Spain. All the family thought it was a bad idea as she is known to be a very difficult person. Shes divorced from his dad, very spanish and lives in Majorca. She looks like Dorian off Birds of a feather.
Anyway, from the time she landed she looked down her nose at me. Refused to be civil and in the end left early.
She was very clever how she did it making loads of comments out of earshot of my OH but it resulted in OH shouting at her.
Before she left i pointed out that i had tried to help her see her son. He hadnt seen her for 2 years,as she difficult and was scared that she might casue trouble between us. I also pointed out that my OH had hidden all the photos in the house of me with other members of their family as she would know we had been to see them...which i thought was odd. Anyway she left under a very big cloud!!!!
Since she has denied my existance. She has sent Christmas cards soley addressed to my OH and when we stayed with his brother and his partner she sent a parcel of gifts over, with loads of nicely rapped gifts for his brothers girlfriend and none for me.
Two years ago she was 60 and they had a big family gathering...without me in Palma. All the kids went, partners etc and they stayed in a fancy hotel had lavish meals while i sat at home in Cardiff. I didnt mind too much as i didnt want to cause a problem and make it difficult for my OH.
Over the last two years i have sent sevral emails asking could we make up but with no reply.
Two weeks ago i sent a text to het by mistake. She instantly replied asking who it was. When i sent a text backing saying i was sorry but had text the wrong number. (text said..see you in half an hour) and asked how she was she didnt reply. I tried again and said that i would love to sort things out as we are PG and would love her to be part of the family etc but still no reply. I offered to email scan photos...still nothing!!
Today my OH told me he has booked a flight to go to Majorca for another family doo. Its his mums birthday and his brother and girlfriend are going and his kids. He works away all week and would be going on the weekend....
My question is am i wrong is saying that if he goes i should go???
I dont like her but for the sake of the kid i would like us to be able to sit in the same room and be civil to each other.
What message if any do you think it sends if i dont go and they just all act like i dont exist??
I would like to know what you think.
Thanks
Sarah
I just wanted some advice, if anyone has any views i would love to hear from you.
I have been with my OH for nearly 4 years. All his family live abroad and never visit. We vist them or we pay for them to vist us whilst in Spain but they dont visit as they say their finances are limited...fair enough.
Three years ago i paid for my OH mum to fly over from Spain. All the family thought it was a bad idea as she is known to be a very difficult person. Shes divorced from his dad, very spanish and lives in Majorca. She looks like Dorian off Birds of a feather.
Anyway, from the time she landed she looked down her nose at me. Refused to be civil and in the end left early.
She was very clever how she did it making loads of comments out of earshot of my OH but it resulted in OH shouting at her.
Before she left i pointed out that i had tried to help her see her son. He hadnt seen her for 2 years,as she difficult and was scared that she might casue trouble between us. I also pointed out that my OH had hidden all the photos in the house of me with other members of their family as she would know we had been to see them...which i thought was odd. Anyway she left under a very big cloud!!!!
Since she has denied my existance. She has sent Christmas cards soley addressed to my OH and when we stayed with his brother and his partner she sent a parcel of gifts over, with loads of nicely rapped gifts for his brothers girlfriend and none for me.
Two years ago she was 60 and they had a big family gathering...without me in Palma. All the kids went, partners etc and they stayed in a fancy hotel had lavish meals while i sat at home in Cardiff. I didnt mind too much as i didnt want to cause a problem and make it difficult for my OH.
Over the last two years i have sent sevral emails asking could we make up but with no reply.
Two weeks ago i sent a text to het by mistake. She instantly replied asking who it was. When i sent a text backing saying i was sorry but had text the wrong number. (text said..see you in half an hour) and asked how she was she didnt reply. I tried again and said that i would love to sort things out as we are PG and would love her to be part of the family etc but still no reply. I offered to email scan photos...still nothing!!
Today my OH told me he has booked a flight to go to Majorca for another family doo. Its his mums birthday and his brother and girlfriend are going and his kids. He works away all week and would be going on the weekend....
My question is am i wrong is saying that if he goes i should go???
I dont like her but for the sake of the kid i would like us to be able to sit in the same room and be civil to each other.
What message if any do you think it sends if i dont go and they just all act like i dont exist??
I would like to know what you think.
Thanks
Sarah