ALready stressing over xmas

[specialmami]

As title says i'm already stressing over xmas.

Xmas will be at our house this year, purely bcos I dont want to travel to London and want to stay close to home from 30 weeks onwards as history of prem birth.

Anyway back to the point. It'll only be 8 of us including DS so atleast it's not a lot of us.

But have to stick to family tradition and how things are doen back home. So xmas eve everyone will come over for dinner which I have to cook obv. Then at 00h everyone goes to midnight mass then its tradition to eat cod with boiled veggies once nack from mass and the everyone opens presents and off to bed.

So thats already 2 sets of different cooking on one day. Then xmas day, I want to cook something different i'll still cook xmas trukey but want to do somethings different, problem is everyone likes ot have an opinion and criticise everything if things arent done their eay or how they would usually do it. And to top that off mum and nan are crazy fussy people its actually annoying. Our xmas days conists of eating all day will have to make a whole load of traditional xmas desserts and have food and drink flowing pretty much all day and then normally everyone wants a soup come night time. Then theres boxing day which i'll just make a whole new meal up using left overs bcos I dont agree with throwing food away. Everyone will be staying at our house so will be busy.

Never cooked xmas dinner before so will be first time and I already know the comments that are going to be made. I dont liek being predictable and hubby and I like to do things our way but with my parents its hard doing something without being criticised.

Hence why i'm already stressing. They always manage to make something joyful be stressful.

Any suggestions? lol

 

[Little_angel]

That sounds like a hell of a lot of work and you're putting yourself under massive pressure. Will our family pitch in? For example, could you mum and nan cook dinner at your house? Surely everyone will understand that you can't be expected to pull together the perfect Christmas at over 30w.

 

[floridagirl]

For a start I would at least ask people to bring a desert then that's one last thing you have to do. Maybe you could suggest bed after the midnight mass and skip the late meal and make a new tradition of opening presents on Christmas morning ( use pregnancy tiredness as an excusse) I know I could not stay up so long and cook!!
Is this your first child? If so you might find thier usual tradition difficult with a baby/young child so it's a good start of a new tradition.
I love midnight mass but its just not possible with two young children, they just can't stay awake and I need them in bed early so Santa can deliver presents lol so we always go to the special service earlier.
You are starting your own little family now so you ave to be a little selfish and do things that will suit you and your new family.
Will your husband help out too? I would be stressed at so much cooking too Hun xxxxx

 

[Loula]

wow id ask for some help x