Advanced baby mummies

[Lilmisshopeful]

Oliver had his check up with the health visitor today where she told me he is very advanced. I knew this anyway but I'm his mummy lol so to have someone tell me makes it more real. I am very proud of him don't get me wrong but I don't like it lol. My 10 month old baby is a big boy she said for a baby his age to be learning boundaries so young was impressive. He was chatting to her and he went to the plug socket pointed at it and told her no shaking his head. He is almost walking now but it scares him bless him he will stand for ages and just not move. The advance she was talking about was his understanding of things and his speech. He can say 8 words clearly and will repeat some of them when asked to. He also has a toy he will go get when asked to. Or a ball from his ball pit. It makes him seem so much older than he is. Where has my baby gone.
So after rambling my question is lol I don't even know now. Is it ok to be proud yet sad at the same time lol xxx

 

[littlemonkey]

I think most mums feel like that about their babies, I know I do! I'm so proud of both my boys, but sad that they really are both growing up so quickly. Both my babies are physically big and I've always felt this made them seem older or like they're growing up quicker than they are.

My eldest is also quite bright so I'm being told, his level of speech and understanding is apparently advanced for his age. It's nice to know because he was always late with moving etc and I did worry terribly about it at the time. The thing I worry about is that we need to make sure we are doing enough to stimulate and encourage him. I don't want him becoming bored or frustrated. I find that quite difficult, especially with a young baby now too.

 

[nicky1987]

I think the thing to remember is all children develop at different rates!

No offence at all intended but I hate the word advanced - how can you compare children? They all develop differently? My little girl turned 2 in march and is a clever little cookie! She can speak very well and has an excellent level of understanding yet there are some things others do who are a similar age that she can't do yet!

Overall importance is the happiness and healthiness of your child!

As I said above no offence/upset meant!!

 

[Ella1979]

Definitely ok to be proud and sad! My daughter is apparently advanced for her age. At a similar age to your LO she could point to all main body parts when asked and had a similar number of words. By 15 months she was joining two words together. Her understanding has always been really good. We can't even spell things out now over her head to try to keep things secret and she's only 3! Physically she was way behind - sitting at 10 months, finally weight bearing on legs at 16/17 months and then walking at 19 months.

 

[clairebear22]

Both of my children have delays, my eldest is 4, he has autism and is non verbal but can knock the socks off of most kids double his age playing on the iPad. My youngest is doing ok but isn't talking yet at 2 yrs 3 months and has fantastic fine motor skills.

My point is most LO's have something they are particularly good at be it physically, verbally or mentally but some of us have children with delays and disabilities. We are all very happy to read about what LO's are good at but bare in mind that all children are individuals For some of us Mummy's 'average' is amazing!

 

[CARNAT22]

I agree with Nicky!

I had issues with James' speech and was pretty worried about him. Now aged 2.5 he has a vocabulary that astounds me but his knowledge is what impresses me the most... Just a few examples that spring to mind:

He can name all 4 Galilean moons of Jupiter, the two biggest moons of Saturn, he can tell you the difference between a satellite and a space probe based on a picture, he can tell you the name of the volcano on Mars... He is super interested in space though so his knowledge is due to a genuine interest and the fact his Daddy is a space buff.

He also loves big buildings so he can tell you the biggest building in the world and biggest building in London as well as identifying things like St Pauls, The London Eye, The BT Tower and Big Ben (he goes nuts if he sees them on TV)...

However he still isn't potty trained, and it took him longer to learn to count to 10 than it did to learn the planets - which he can identify in any order and can tell you which is biggest / smallest and closest / furthest from the sun.

The main thing about James is when he is interested in something he literally soaks up any little bit of information about it. BUT he has to be interested... so that makes things he isn't interested in a bit tricky? Like counting!!

I was a little bit worried he was "too" interested in some things but HV assured me it's quite common as his age to have fixations with a certain things? Almost like a "specialist subject" if you like. He also loves more conventional stuff like running about, climbing, watching kids stuff on TV (Happy Feet and Thomas the Tank Engine are firm faves). Some nights he wants to read Room on the Broom before bed and other nights he wants to read his Daddy's special planet book!!

Anyhoo, all I would say OP is to support and encourage your little one's development, play to his strengths and be bloody proud of him and yourself.

X

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

I didn't mean to cause any upset with this post and sorry if I have done. I'm not comparing him at all it's just what the hv told me. He is so different to my daughter so I know they all develop differently.
He has good understanding, speech and mobility but still wakes several times a night lol he can also throw the biggest tantrum lol
I just want to make sure I do right by him so he continues to develop and the pace he has set for himself and not be frustrated as I'm not doing enough or the right things.

Wow carnet that's a clever little boy you have there. I don't even know that stuff haha.

My daughter was different she was mobile silly early walking at 7.5 months but didn't talk she was a quiet girl. When she his 18 months wouldn't walk anywhere but slept a dream once you got the moo to sleep haha xxx

 

[clairebear22]

You be proud Hun, nobody is offended by what you've posted. Good on your little boy! I'm the first to congratulate kiddies achievements even with my Son how he is.

It's the stigma attached the the word 'advanced' that gets people's backs up I think. Again it's nothing against you or your post. Most kids are 'advanced' at something even if it's small like building a tall tower earlier than most.

Be proud of your children for who they are as a whole and encourage what it is they are good at or enjoy doing

 

[nicky1987]

Yes not offended in the slightest and every parent has the right to be proud of their children! They are amazing human beings no matter what stage they are at!

But as Claire said above the word advanced just drives me nuts! I just don't know how hvs can use that word when these children are still developing and growing so rapidly!

Be proud of your little one - in proud of everything my little girl does - it's our right as a mummy!! X

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

Guess I had never actually thought about the actual word but can see where maybe it's not a good choice of word. I never had a health visitor last time so all new to me on how they do things xxx

 

[bigbee]

Well done to your little boy, but I also can't stand the word.

My friend's son was potty trained at 10 months, but didn't start speaking properly until he was about 2.5.

Is he advanced? No. Just excelled at one particular aspect.

Everyone is biased towards their children, and some are just too quick to jump on the "advanced" band wagon.

 

[Orion]

To be honest I don't think you should read too much into the HV calling him advanced. He has developed some skills earlier than the average child/majority of children. He'll be ahead with some things, on target or behind with others. His advanced skills might even slow down, not because you haven't done enough to keep developing them, but just because.

I wouldn't think too much about it

 

[Rooster30]

Well done to your LO and you should very rightly be proud.

I continue to be proud of my 2.7 year old boy. He is behind on some things like potty training (grrr), eating his evening meals (GRRR) and his gross motor skills. However, I am so super proud of his speech, which has always been grand. His speech is so good that if it weren't for the nappies I'd forget that he's still so young.

Like carnat it is the knowledge that astounds me. My boy would not be able to tell you anything about space outside of astronaut and rocket but he knows all about cars. Walking up and down the street is a real treat for him, in a flash he can spot the make of a car, before i've even noticed them myself (and frankly at the age of 28, I didn't know the types of cars beyond the colour ) He can instantly recognise a Mercedes, Ford, Audi, BMW, Toyota, Hyundai, VW Golf and Polo. That's not to mention the super cars, McClarens, Lambourginis, Jaguars etc... and then there is his Golf, the kid demonstrates serious skills - he's already been to the driving range a few times and has impressed. He recognises Rory, Tiger, Bubba Watson - who, as my son tells me has a PINK club). He knows the difference between putters, chippers and drivers.

To be honest, i've learnt a lot from my boy

 

[Ella1979]

Well done to your LO and you should very rightly be proud.

I continue to be proud of my 2.7 year old boy. He is behind on some things like potty training (grrr), eating his evening meals (GRRR) and his gross motor skills. However, I am so super proud of his speech, which has always been grand. His speech is so good that if it weren't for the nappies I'd forget that he's still so young.

Potty training has been a complete nightmare for us. My daughter was completely dry within a couple of weeks (she was 2.5) but would hold her poo and wait for her night time nappy to go on! Fast forward to last weekend (aged almost 3.5!) and she finally poo'd in the toilet and again Monday and again yesterday! So it'll click eventually xx

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

Lol potty training my girl was like that. She was dry by 14 months during the day. Fast forward a year and she is still using a nappy to poo lol. She would ask for a nappy. Poo then id take it off. She insisted she should only poo standing up. Then one day the clever thing lol got so excited. Running in to tell me she just pood sitting down so proud of herself. Then told me it was in her friends garden oh dear. Progress tho right xxx

 

[CARNAT22]

Rooster, James sounds incredibly similar down to potty training ane dinner!!! Although his gross motor skills are excellent.

It's interesting that your boy also has his own "specialist subjects".... its amazing isn't it? James is like a human sponge provided he is interested in something.

X

 

[Rooster30]

The are clever little things. I wish my head was like a sponge. Yesturday I went to return some curtains without taking the curtains... Meanwhile my son is spouting off about all the cars he can see.

I do find the specialist subjects amusing. It's all his doing too, no encouragement from me! He's definitely his dad's son.

 

[Ella1979]

My son loves doors! It was one of his first words. The other day a leaflet came through about garage doors and he went bananas over it, carrying it around for a good half hour or so! So cute!

 

[littlemonkey]

My son loves doors! It was one of his first words. The other day a leaflet came through about garage doors and he went bananas over it, carrying it around for a good half hour or so! So cute!

Doors?! God I thought my son was bad with fire engines! He runs around the house screaming emergency with a high vis vest on!

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

Oliver likes fire engines. We just been to the local carnival and there was one there with it's light flashing. He loved it. Kids do make you laugh. Oliver must take after his dad cos I'm a sandwich short of a picnic lol xxx