acceptable or not acceptable

[bowmanzoo]

Well today I went to clinic with my daughter Joanna, they have a weigh in clinic weekly but you can just go along to chat with other mums, let the older kids play, chill out and speak with the health visitors about whatever if you want to. Well i'm obviously becoming very pregnant at long last because one of the health visitors walked up to me and just slapped her hands on my belly and went oh when are you due then to which I replied August and she just stayed there holding MY bump. Well I wasnt too sure what to say or do because well to me I let my midwife feel and think nothing of it but other people other than my husband and his step sister. well I don't like them just walking up to me and touching MY bump. I wouldnt just walk up to them and touch their body and if I did they'd probably slap me or having something to say to me at least so question is, is it acceptable for a health visitor to do this or not???? I know they have a major part of our kids life when they born but they dont play a role in their life now!!!!!

Thoughts on a postcard please.

 

[Sherlock]

I don't know. No one done that sort of thing to me. Ever

I'm the kind of person people don't do that sort of thing to anyways. I'm usually too scary and they make sure they don't stand too close

 

[Sandi4Paul]

i had my first friend grope my bump toady, i didn't mnd cos she has two kids and we get on well, but if someone i didn't know (health visitor or not) did it i would feel really uncomfortable.

Sandi

 

[Miss.Monroe]

my stepdad puts his hands all over my belly and it makes me want to be sick... honestly.

 

[DebbieM]

I always felt weird having anyone other than Matt, my sis or nephews touching my bump. People seem to think it is public property for some reason. Annoying isnt it!

 

[abcd1234]

I think i need to understand what these health visitors are! i was waiting outside midwifes office the other day and this women walked in to the health visitors bit but she was rather rude, basically pushed me out the way rather then say excuse me!

I wouldnt be happy if people i didnt know started touching my belly. It took me a long time to let people i trust touch it and last time baby daddy was touching it i still wasnt comfortable with it (probably a reason for that though)

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

You build relationship with the midwife and she checks bump for fudal height and positions and heart beat ect

You had not net this Health visitor before so its dont matter what he title is she shouldnt have just come up and put her hand on your belly

its your baby she should at least have asked first i only let the people i know love and care about to touch my bump

so id say nope she shouldnt have card banch to touch your bump because shes a health visitor

 

[fuffins1981]

I am like Sherry. I think people find me to scary to do it...Being so tall and so on lol

MW's tend to only touch when they have to. I do not mind friends and close relatives touching the bump. Wouldnt like it being a prolonged touch or grope from some people though. Strangers need to be hands off!

I do love my my OH, mom, sister or son touches it though. Feels like bonding

 

[lulu]

How strange, this happened to me today - in the petrol station. I was looking at the chocolate when a women came up to me and rubbed my bump asking when are you due. She said 'ooh I just cant resist touching them'. I was a bit taken back at first but it did make me smile.

Maybe it depends on the person doing it and how comfortable they make you feel, or not feel

 

[sarah2807]

Hmmmmm sounds a bit rude to me! Especially if she did it them prolonged it past the initial excitiment 'Oh you're pregnant' bit. I haven't had any strangers do that yet...I can't imagine feeling the need to touch someone you don't know even if you think it's nice that they have a pregnant bump!!

 

[daftscotslass]

I didn't mind too much if people asked me. If they didn't I just grabbed their belly.

 

[Tick-Tock]

I would have just reached over and grabbed her boob or something.... see what she says then!!!

 

[Moofa]

How strange, this happened to me today - in the petrol station. I was looking at the chocolate when a women came up to me and rubbed my bump asking when are you due. She said 'ooh I just cant resist touching them'. I was a bit taken back at first but it did make me smile.

Maybe it depends on the person doing it and how comfortable they make you feel, or not feel

I would have said that I wasn't pregnant! That may make her think twice about doing it to other people

 

[bhe101]

Oh god, I would have hated it!! It even annoys me when OH has his hands on my bump for any amount of time!
My sister is the only other person that does it and I really dont like it but I'd feel bad saying get your hands off me!!

 

[bowmanzoo]

Yes me too thinks she was a bit out of order and like someone else said, I don't mind if it's daddy or my daughter or close family touching as it does feel like bounding but hands off everyone else. My daughter who is 2 and a few months will say baby then walk up to me, lift my top and give bump a big kiss, this is sooooooo totally 200% acceptable because it's her brother or sister and it then involves her. Daddy will also touch and kiss and again acceptable because it's his son or daughter and my hubby step sister will also touch and try and wake baby and this to me is acceptable because she used to let me do it to her

ok thanks girls going to buy a t-shirt, strangers this bump belongs to mum do not feel u have the right to manhandle her.

 

[peach]

i hate this too

it makes me wanna pee

seriously i dont like it i dont go and poke fat people and say oh your fat or a womman with large boobs i dont go and poke her and say your boobs are big!

 

[Sydneysmum]

Touch my bump, feel my bag

 

[little momma]

totally with you on this! i hate it! sometimes i let my friends poke my tummy and feel for movements etc. CLOSE friends... but i feel really wierd about randomers doing it. like, a few weeks ago... some man in the pub did that to me... and i felt really really orquard (i know thats not how you spell it, i always get it wrong lol) it makes me cross and i dont like it either. it's like you become pregnant and everyone asumes you're fine with people poking you and feeling your body.