A post on "Gender Disappointment": food for though

[Gem212]

I think it can depend on pesonal circumstances and everyone is entitled to have a preference and feel a little disappointed - its natural, when i found out i was having another boy i thought i would be disappointed but wasnt at all i was to overwhelmed to see my little baby wiggling around on the screen, but on the other hand my OH was as when we had my first son he was young and unsure about our relationship and didnt bond very well with him, he felt if this was anothe boy he wouldnt be able to bond as it ould be unfair on our first son and that if we had a daughter she would be 'daddys little girl' as me and m son are so close!! I will have another baby and i will be desperate for it to be a girl and i cant help that as i also the same as star think it would complete my family and after not having a great relationship with my mum would love a daughter to have the relationship i never had!

My OH aunt has had 6 boys and lost several girls, one in the 3rd trimester, so you have to look at individual circumstances!

At the end of the day as long as the baby is healthy nothing else matters but i would not judge or think someone is bad because they feel disappointed, they could have there own very important reasons for those insecurities which they dont want to share with others!

I can totally see where Sharne is coming from and agree with some of her points, but i think its down to the individual x x x

 

[Rachel]

When I was pregnant with Nathan I wanted a boy and was worried that I would be disapointed if he was a girl but then I thought about it and relised I already loved the little baby growing inside of me before even knowing the sex of the baby and if he had have turned out to be a girl I would have loved baby the same as a boy, well, because I already did before finding out the sex iykwim?

This time I wanted a girl (to have one of each) and thought I was having a girl aswell but when I was having my scan I was so happy that the baby was healthy I almost forgot to ask the sex anyway but when I did ask and she said boy I had the biggest smile on my face to be having another healthy baby boy Went to town after aswell all excited buying new boys clothes Didn't feel one bit disapointed that Im having a boy

 

[Laura_James&Amber]

Hey steelgoddess, I totally agree with you. To me it really doesn't matter if i have a girl or boy because i feel very lucky to be having a baby in the first place (there was a chance we might not have been able to have children of our own, i'd rather not go into it but obviously we have proved the medical profession wrong!)
As long as our babies are healthy and are provided with everything they need then it really doesn't matter what sex they are.
We have all been blessed with something wonderful and should never take it for granted