a mutual friend of mine miscarried recently

[charlotte_]

she went for her 12 week scan, and the babies heart wasn't beating, so she had to have a termination. we don't live anywhere near each other so usually keep in contact through myspace. she just messaged me saying she was glad she was happy stuff was going well for me, and asked if i wanted a bunch of baby stuff she'd bought when she found out she was pregnant, because she doesn't want it around the house anymore & feels wasteful throwing it out. i said if it's not a pain posting it to me, i'll take it, but OH said i shouldn't accept it, and that she'll regret giving it away in the long run.

what do you ladies think?
i've never been through anything like this personally so have no idea how the poor girl feels.

 

[Chrissy1]

firstly....some for your friend

I've never been through it but I know I didn't even buy anything when I found out I was pregnant until after my 20 week scan because I didn't want things in the house if something did happen. Personally I would want it out of the way and if she's offered it to you then she probably feels the same way. If it's only clothes etc then it's not like it's things that are very personal to her baby IYKWIM

Perhaps you could accept them but then just keep hold of a couple of them in case she does ever feel the need to see them again

 

[skyraaa]

i really dont know what i would do
i think if she just wants 2 throw the stuff away then u should accept it, she obviously wants u 2 have it xx

u never know n the near future she may get pregnant again then u could return the favour by sending some of ur stuff ur baby has grown out of.

take care xxx

 

[hennaly]

Its a difficult one but i can understand how she feels and as said you can always send her some stuff back when she does have a baby.

 

[emmie]

i think she would of thought this through before she offered it. I suppose it would be a way of moving forward. If it was me i bet i would always be looking at it thinkng what if etc etc and making myself worse so i can see why she would want it out of the house.

 

[aramintalovegrove]

She will have thought about it and if she is offering I would accept

Your poor friend hope she is doing ok under the circumstances

 

[Baby&i]

When i miscarried it felt like the end of the world. i was like a zombie for ages afterwards even into this pregnancy i was really cut up about it all (i would have been due on the 21st of this month) but i still kept my baby bits bacuse i knew we was goign to try again when i was ready. little did i know it surprisingly happened right after so im glad i didnt give them away to my pregnant friend at the time. but saying that maybe she dosnt want to try again? if not for a while? i dont know, like Skyraaa if you do take them, then you could post them back to her along with a few bits your little one has grown out of if she finds out shes expecting again?

 

[charlotte_]

i don't think she was TTC in the first place. i'll keep a few little bits for her incase she ends up pregnant again.

thanks for the advice ladies

 

[lea m]

for you friend hun!

 

[Morganuk]

I agree with what the ladies are saying hun.
She would of thought about it already so accept them hun.