Where do I start...
I am 30 weeks pregnant with my partner (or now ex) of 5 years. We have a 3 year old already and he has another daughter of 6 from a previous relationship.
We were actively trying for this baby but when I eventually fell pregnant we were not in the best place. He has now decided that he no longer wants to be with me and doesn't love me anymore. To be honest he is not a very nice person, he suffers from depression but I think he blames a lot of his behaviour on this.
we have been struggling financially but this is all due to him. he works offshore and his last 2 trips he has missed as he has been out drinking and partying. He is 28 and is drinking every weekend, he went out last Saturday and I didn't see him again till the following Wednesday. he had been at a young girls house with a group of his (also younger) friends drinking. I had the hospital for a scan on the Tuesday that he missed too. the responsibility of having 3 kids is obviously scaring him. I don't think he has cheated on me but can never be sure.
He is now staying at his mums and I have to almost force our daughter upon him. She is confused and has now stopped asking for him all the time. I think deep down although I am really hurting and can't believe he has done this, I know we are better off without him but I have no idea how I will cope, financially and mentally. I think if I see him with someone else that is when it will hurt the most.
I am struggling to feel happy about my pregnancy as I have no idea how it will all pan out. I'm not prepared for this baby at all as I cannot afford it, and with hindsight I maybe would have started to prepare myself months ago. I don't know if I should ask him for another chance as his depression may have a big part to play in all of this, but he has told me not to contact him unless it is about our daughter. I feel like such a fool.
I am 30 weeks pregnant with my partner (or now ex) of 5 years. We have a 3 year old already and he has another daughter of 6 from a previous relationship.
We were actively trying for this baby but when I eventually fell pregnant we were not in the best place. He has now decided that he no longer wants to be with me and doesn't love me anymore. To be honest he is not a very nice person, he suffers from depression but I think he blames a lot of his behaviour on this.
we have been struggling financially but this is all due to him. he works offshore and his last 2 trips he has missed as he has been out drinking and partying. He is 28 and is drinking every weekend, he went out last Saturday and I didn't see him again till the following Wednesday. he had been at a young girls house with a group of his (also younger) friends drinking. I had the hospital for a scan on the Tuesday that he missed too. the responsibility of having 3 kids is obviously scaring him. I don't think he has cheated on me but can never be sure.
He is now staying at his mums and I have to almost force our daughter upon him. She is confused and has now stopped asking for him all the time. I think deep down although I am really hurting and can't believe he has done this, I know we are better off without him but I have no idea how I will cope, financially and mentally. I think if I see him with someone else that is when it will hurt the most.
I am struggling to feel happy about my pregnancy as I have no idea how it will all pan out. I'm not prepared for this baby at all as I cannot afford it, and with hindsight I maybe would have started to prepare myself months ago. I don't know if I should ask him for another chance as his depression may have a big part to play in all of this, but he has told me not to contact him unless it is about our daughter. I feel like such a fool.
I’m so sorry you’re going though this. He is acting totally irresponsibly!! Saturday through to Wednesday I would go nuts! Simply not acceptable when he has responsibilities. Being blunt unless he’s going to change, you are better off out of it. 
