claireyfairey
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Argh, girlies, I am so stressed out this evening!
As some of you know I am moving back to my mum and dad's house this week as we can't stay at OH's parents because they don't have room for us and the baby....well it is my mum and dad's wedding anniversary today so I went over to cook them some dinner as a present to them. I knew it was going to be a nightmare as soon as my brother turned up
My brother and I really don't get on. To cut a long story short he is slightly autistic (he's older than me but is more like a 15 year old mentally) and can be very verbally and occasionally physically aggressive. Anyway, my mum is having problems in her job at the moment and is extremely stressed out, and my brother started hassling her for money and giving her a hard time and I couldn't help myself intervene
He has his own flat but he never spends any time there, he spends all his spare time at my mum and dad's, my mum does all his washing and cooking and she cleans his flat because it is a total SHITHOLE and I am not even joking. She manages his money because he has no concept of how to look after his money, she makes sure he pays all his bills because he doesn't even open his post - it would just stay on the floor by the door for weeks if she didn't open it. My mum does all his food shopping for him (not that he's ever at his flat to eat any of it because he is always at my parent's house), she changes his bed for him, she washes up for him - she basically does EVERYTHING. How does he repay her? By making a mess at her house whenever he's there, by using their computer to look at porn and not even bothering to hide it, by being verbally abusive to her when he's in a bad mood and he has used physical violence at times too....and he just expects her to sort his life out for him. He has problems, but he has the most cushty little life cut out that he has absolutely no inclination to take ANY responsibility for himself. He treats my parents like absolute dirt and I'm fed up with it. So we ended up rowing and spoilt the evening. He said he hoped I lose my baby
Little *******.
I said to him that when OH and I have to live there that he is not going to come round as often because I want a peaceful environment for LO....I want to be able to spend time with her during the day by myself without him turning up at all hours when he feels like it to make a mess, or come round to shout at mum and dad so he can get some money. I don't want him there all the time....I can't stand the sight of him
It makes me so mad that my mum and dad do all these things for him and get so little respect in return
I know he has problems and they keep telling me how they can't just abandon him to screw his life up because he is their son, and that I will understand when I have children of my own.....and I see their point but it's the total lack of respect for my mum and dad which makes me so mad!!!
I just don't know how I'm going to manage at my mum's
I don't want to go there at all. It would be fine if my brother wasn't there all the time....I don't see why he should be there all the time when he has his own bloody flat. I wouldn't be there if I had my own flat....y'know???
Grrrr I'm so mad
I don't really know what this rant is all about....just wish I had a place of my own and that my brother didn't exist
I feel bad for saying that but I really hate him right now, and wouldn't care if I never saw him again. Grrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!
C x

As some of you know I am moving back to my mum and dad's house this week as we can't stay at OH's parents because they don't have room for us and the baby....well it is my mum and dad's wedding anniversary today so I went over to cook them some dinner as a present to them. I knew it was going to be a nightmare as soon as my brother turned up

My brother and I really don't get on. To cut a long story short he is slightly autistic (he's older than me but is more like a 15 year old mentally) and can be very verbally and occasionally physically aggressive. Anyway, my mum is having problems in her job at the moment and is extremely stressed out, and my brother started hassling her for money and giving her a hard time and I couldn't help myself intervene


I said to him that when OH and I have to live there that he is not going to come round as often because I want a peaceful environment for LO....I want to be able to spend time with her during the day by myself without him turning up at all hours when he feels like it to make a mess, or come round to shout at mum and dad so he can get some money. I don't want him there all the time....I can't stand the sight of him



It makes me so mad that my mum and dad do all these things for him and get so little respect in return

I just don't know how I'm going to manage at my mum's

Grrrr I'm so mad


C x
