20 week scan problems

[Worriedmum]

Hi I'm new to this but needed somewhere to talk as have been going crazy for the last few days. We went for our 20 week scan last week it's my 3rd pregnancy an I guess I just assumed as I had got this far and first scan was good that I would go in maybe find out the sex and leave with some lovely pictures. Sadly that didn't happen the hospitals senior sonographer carried out our scan and noticed a few problems- the baby only has 3 heart chambers, 1 kidney, fluid on the brain, 2 vessels on cord instead of 3 and the bladder is not filling. I am not particularly old (29years) and I am so careful when pregnant I never smoke dont drink dont take drugs I even cut out caffeine. My first 2 children are perfectly healthy an I never had an issues during pregnancy. Yet I can't stop thinking I must have done something. I have a specialist scan on Monday and I am so scared of what they are going to say or suggest. I try to shut off from it but everytime I feel him moving I just start crying. Has anyone else had this or something similar. Please any advice

 

[Dotty_woman]

Sorry to hear this hun. I have no similar experience myself but please don't try to blame yourself. Sounds as though you've been doing everything right. I know Monday is going to be difficult for you but try to keep positive. As you'll be having a specialist scan hopefully a lot of your worries will be addressed and you'll have a better idea of what the prognosis is. I wish you all the best. Good luck! xxx

 

[GEH]

Hi, I'm really sorry to hear this and thinking of you. You must be so worried. I don't have any specific advice about these particular findings but I found out at 12 weeks my baby has some of his intestines outside of his body, which often means heart and other defects. I have a specialist follow up scan this week at 17 weeks where we'll find out more. My best advice is for you to go on Babycentre.co.uk, it has much more comprehensive info and groups for specific problems etc. Whereas I find this one much more general chit chat. You might find that people on there have similar experiences. Hope it helps and best of luck for Mondays scan x

 

[Worriedmum]

Have just joined that one thanks for the advice GEH and good luck with your scan too xx

 

[nbrintz]

No experience I'm sorry but wanted to wish u the very best for Monday and I hope ur news is positive take care xxxx

 

[Robyner]

Hi Hun, yes I have experienced this so I can empathise, it's so worrying and upsetting feel free to pm me if you want a chat. You just don't expect it to happen. Big hugs xxxx

 

[Katieex1108]

Hi so so sorry to hear this and yes I have experienced most of these things with my little girl if u want to.message me feel frfree to do so xx

 

[AngelLily]

So sorry you are going through this hun, no advice just sending my sympathy and hope you get good news at your next scan xxx

 

[Bethi]

Worriedmum,
I am sad and sorry to read your news. It must be devastating.
All I can say for absolute sure is that you DID NOT do anything wrong at all. Please don't blame yourself, not for one second. Nature can be very cruel at times.
I have my fingers crossed that you get better news at your next appointment.
Look after yourself xx

 

[GEH]

Thinking of you today, Worriedmum x

 

[bbee]

big hugs, i hope everything turns out okay XxX

 

[Cjj]

Aw, I can't imagine how you feel. Big hugs and good luck for Monday x

 

[Samantha55]

Really hope things went as well as possible yesterday. Thinking of you at this difficult time xxxx

 

[JJ Mum]

Really sorru you having to go througth this, i hope you get some more positive news x

 

[lealeab]

Hi, I've just joined and I am going through something similar myself. I had my 20 week scan on Friday. We found out we are expecting a boy but he is very poorly.
The scanners notes say heart - normal 4 chamber outflow tracks could not be demonstrated, appearances are suggestive of a gross cardiac abnormality, hypoplastic left ventricle?
Right fetal kidney is enlarged/bright and contains multiple echo free cysts the largest measures 7mm, the renal pelvis also appears dilated to 8mm.
Cranial structure - intercranial structure appears normal, the skull appears slightly rounded with possible bossing of the frontal bones seen on some views. Please refer for specialist scan. Please note - not all abnormalities can be excluded by ultrasound particularly heart and chromosomal abnormalities.
The scanner said it may be the position he was in but the senior midwife said that it is very serious and we should be prepared to have amniocentesis offered. We are seeing the top regional heart specialist and a and general specialist will look at his kidneys on Tuesday so I've had all weekend to Google and worry myself to death. I feel like an emotional wreck, but I am trying to take some positives from it. He is growing well, he is exactly the right size for his dates and he is kicking away so very active! This is my first pregnancy so everything is new. I hope everything turns out well for you, lea x

 

[nbrintz]

I have no experience but want to wish u the very best of luck take care x

 

[Katieex1108]

Hope things went ok xx