18mo refuses to walk properly outside -advice?

[madmillie92]

So my ds has been walking well for over 6 months now ...he runs about happily indoors and at the park etc and holds my hand walking up and down stairs.
However EVERY time I try and take him for a normal walk along the road to burn off some energy or because he's getting fed up of the pram he point blank refuses to hold my hand, often runs off in opposite direction to me (if I let him walk on his own through the park etc) and constantly sits down ever 5 minutes and plays with stones and hedges and fences. Basically I can walk along the pavement safely with him AT ALL...
I've tried the normal stuff like getting down to his level and saying " you have to hold my hand sweetie or I'll pick you up" " no that's dirty yuk put that back" (he understands this but I think it's an attention thing) ..if im walking through the park and he runs the other way I try saying "oh bye then " and ignoring him which he also doesn't care about. If I try holding his arm or putting reins on him he will just sit on the floor and refuse to move then throw a tantrum when I pick him up....
At a loss here when do they grow out of this or is there something I can do? My niece is a week younger and she walk perfectly along holding your hand and put her arms up to you when shes tired...I can't help being jealous! I would love to be able to walk to the shops as ds hates his being in his pram now!

 

[Nomad]

No advice but I totally sympathise! My lg is 19 months old and will sometimes walk nicely holding hands but other times she just point blank refuses and she's so stubborn about it!! She'll also sit down and/or have a strop but yet really doesn't like going in the pushchair either! I'm six months pregnant so couldn't carry her far even if she'd let me!

 

[MrsT2011]

With B I took the pram as well and would say you hold mummy's hand or you go in the buggy and if he ran off then he went in the buggy. I did this enough times to get the message through and he's pretty good although we still have moments!

 

[SunnySue]

Have you tried using reins? They might trick him into thinking he's walking on his own. As far as the picking up things goes, I think it's totally normal for his age. My 2yo still stops frequently to look at things etc, he'll grow out of it soon, we just have to walk very slowly in the meantime lol x

 

[littlemonkey]

With B I took the pram as well and would say you hold mummy's hand or you go in the buggy and if he ran off then he went in the buggy. I did this enough times to get the message through and he's pretty good although we still have moments!

This is what we did. If he didn't do what he was told he went in the pushchair. Even now we still take it out with us, mainly because I'm pregnant and he's too heavy for me to carry if he's tired.

 

[MrsS143]

Id say you walk nicely holding mummys hand or you go in the pram
As soon as he acts up he goes straight in the buggy
I'd go at least a couple minutes. I'd wait til he stopped tantruming too
once calm again I'd offer him to walk nicely holding mummys hand
He will learn that if everytime he acts up he goes in the buggy its his choice to be good or not
its just hard being so black and white consistent x