WishingHoping
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So had a LOVELY comment off a woman I barely know today!!
She works at a restaurant we used to be connected with in the same job as me - accounts. We all met for lunch & first thing she says "wow you have put so much weight on your face looks fatter!"
I just said "well I am pregnant so I guess that could be why??!!"
I was soooo annoyed & am a little upset, I struggle with BDD, OCD & anxiety as it is but why do people think its okay to say things like that to women anyway?? What if I wasn't pregnant; I would of felt 10x as worse.
My midwife isn't concerned about my weight & I am completely normal weight for my height being a size 10 at 13/5 weeks pregnant. I already feel like I am carrying a girl because the main places I have put weight on is my face & back.
I dunno why I am even posting this, maybe just to rant I think. Gaining weight is such an issue for me. I used to be size 22 & lost 6stone to be a size 4/6 at my smallest; I was working out lifting heavy weights everyday hardly eating & addicted to laxatives at this point so I wasn't healthy. This resulted in me having IBS & that's my own fault. I maintained a healthy normal weight at 9.10st for ages at a size 8 & had my boobies done to make myself feel more "curvy/womanly" again. I now weight 11.7st which has slowly gone on since my ectopic in January through depression & anxiety. I have still be working out but being off the pill hasn't helped with weight gain either. I have gained 8lbs since being pregnant this time but still in size 10s - I know 8lbs seems a lot for someone who is only 13/5weeks pregnant & I beat myself up about it so much.
My OH is a personal trainer & this is the heaviest I have been with him. He loves me & always tells me I am beautiful & that I shouldn't worry about my weight as I am pregnant I am going to gain weight & until it becomes an issue with my GP or Midwife then I don't need to worry. However, having anxiety makes me think that if I don't look perfect he will leave me.
I know that is not the case & I need to give myself a break a bit but this isn't the first comment & probably wont be the last. My mum bought me size 16 clothes the other day as a "TREAT" - I will say it again. I am a size 10. Yes I appreciate the gift & am very grateful & will probably appreciate them sizes in the summer & once bump is big but right now I feel like I am a walking whale who everyone thinks is gross or something.
Sorry to keep typing & if you have made it this far I applaud you.
Does anyone else have BDD or past eating disorders whether being over-weight or under-weight & now struggle with being pregnant & gaining more??
Sorry to moan
xx
She works at a restaurant we used to be connected with in the same job as me - accounts. We all met for lunch & first thing she says "wow you have put so much weight on your face looks fatter!"
I just said "well I am pregnant so I guess that could be why??!!"
I was soooo annoyed & am a little upset, I struggle with BDD, OCD & anxiety as it is but why do people think its okay to say things like that to women anyway?? What if I wasn't pregnant; I would of felt 10x as worse.
My midwife isn't concerned about my weight & I am completely normal weight for my height being a size 10 at 13/5 weeks pregnant. I already feel like I am carrying a girl because the main places I have put weight on is my face & back.
I dunno why I am even posting this, maybe just to rant I think. Gaining weight is such an issue for me. I used to be size 22 & lost 6stone to be a size 4/6 at my smallest; I was working out lifting heavy weights everyday hardly eating & addicted to laxatives at this point so I wasn't healthy. This resulted in me having IBS & that's my own fault. I maintained a healthy normal weight at 9.10st for ages at a size 8 & had my boobies done to make myself feel more "curvy/womanly" again. I now weight 11.7st which has slowly gone on since my ectopic in January through depression & anxiety. I have still be working out but being off the pill hasn't helped with weight gain either. I have gained 8lbs since being pregnant this time but still in size 10s - I know 8lbs seems a lot for someone who is only 13/5weeks pregnant & I beat myself up about it so much.
My OH is a personal trainer & this is the heaviest I have been with him. He loves me & always tells me I am beautiful & that I shouldn't worry about my weight as I am pregnant I am going to gain weight & until it becomes an issue with my GP or Midwife then I don't need to worry. However, having anxiety makes me think that if I don't look perfect he will leave me.
I know that is not the case & I need to give myself a break a bit but this isn't the first comment & probably wont be the last. My mum bought me size 16 clothes the other day as a "TREAT" - I will say it again. I am a size 10. Yes I appreciate the gift & am very grateful & will probably appreciate them sizes in the summer & once bump is big but right now I feel like I am a walking whale who everyone thinks is gross or something.
Sorry to keep typing & if you have made it this far I applaud you.
Does anyone else have BDD or past eating disorders whether being over-weight or under-weight & now struggle with being pregnant & gaining more??
Sorry to moan
xx