Would You Pay....
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i probably would... although there are funds available (these days) to help with uni costs but if we exhausted every other possibility of getting the funds for it like one or both of us getting an extra job then i would probably get a loan to help fund it but she'd probably have to stay at home to cut down extra costs.
Yes but I would expect them to work as well. I wouldn't give them a free ride cos that wouldn't teach them anything.
I worked from the age of 14 and want my children to understand how to make their own way in life. But of course I would help out, even if it meant sacrifices for myself.
I worked from the age of 14 and want my children to understand how to make their own way in life. But of course I would help out, even if it meant sacrifices for myself.
i really dont think being at college and uni is a free ride anyway they do a good amount of hours and get loads of homework, i dont expect Kieron to work and wouldnt expect him to pay board either, i brought him into the world he didnt ask and why should i charge him to live in a house that i brought him into
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MummyJess said:
I agree with this too. I stayed at home when at university but worked and paid my way as if I hadn't been. I had friends whose parents paid for them to live away from home and basically kept them without them having to work for the 4 years they were at uni. Interestingly enough 2 out of the 3 still live at home and are on minimum wage because they're still (at 28!!) kept by their parents.
Yes I would too.
I worked the whole way through uni with 2 jobs so would support them to a degree but would expect LO to support themselves if needed. I also moved out when I was 18 so I had to support myself and went back to uni after a year out to do a postgrad.
I worked the whole way through uni with 2 jobs so would support them to a degree but would expect LO to support themselves if needed. I also moved out when I was 18 so I had to support myself and went back to uni after a year out to do a postgrad.
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Yeh I think I would.
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This is something I feel quite strongly about.
I would do anything for my little one to have the opportunity if she wanted to go. Uni set me up for a career I love. We work for a very long time, so I believe it is important to have the opportunity to have the skills to do a job you really want to do.
I have had a Saturday/holiday job since I was 13 and I had to work to support myself through university as my parents are not very well off. To be honest, I resented having to work so hard (I worked night shifts in nursing homes and day shifts in Nurseries and play schemes) when all my friends weren't. I certainly know the value of hard work, but I developed a severe stress and anxiety disorder because of the stress I was under to finance my way through college and work towards a degree.
My husband on the other hand, who is also from a poor back ground, did not have to work to go to uni. His parents planned and scrimped and saved for him to go. As a result he got a 1st class degree. He worked phenomenally hard at university and he definitely knows that value of hard work. I think it would be wrong for me to say that I know about working hard and he doesn't, simply because he did not have to work to put himself through college. But I take your point that some people are very spoiled, but not all - as long as you find a good balance and set a good example for your child, I don't see a problem.
I am certainly not against April working and earning her own money, but it has to be her choice and it has to be for fun money, not to finance her education. That is our job as her parents. We are putting all of our Child Benefit into April's trust fund so that she has a very healthy sum to use if she should want to go to uni. It may mean struggling a bit more now, but it is worth it.
I would do anything for my little one to have the opportunity if she wanted to go. Uni set me up for a career I love. We work for a very long time, so I believe it is important to have the opportunity to have the skills to do a job you really want to do.
I have had a Saturday/holiday job since I was 13 and I had to work to support myself through university as my parents are not very well off. To be honest, I resented having to work so hard (I worked night shifts in nursing homes and day shifts in Nurseries and play schemes) when all my friends weren't. I certainly know the value of hard work, but I developed a severe stress and anxiety disorder because of the stress I was under to finance my way through college and work towards a degree.
My husband on the other hand, who is also from a poor back ground, did not have to work to go to uni. His parents planned and scrimped and saved for him to go. As a result he got a 1st class degree. He worked phenomenally hard at university and he definitely knows that value of hard work. I think it would be wrong for me to say that I know about working hard and he doesn't, simply because he did not have to work to put himself through college. But I take your point that some people are very spoiled, but not all - as long as you find a good balance and set a good example for your child, I don't see a problem.
I am certainly not against April working and earning her own money, but it has to be her choice and it has to be for fun money, not to finance her education. That is our job as her parents. We are putting all of our Child Benefit into April's trust fund so that she has a very healthy sum to use if she should want to go to uni. It may mean struggling a bit more now, but it is worth it.
Yeah i would
My mum helped me out to go to uni, but then she had it and didnt struggle in any way.
I was out basically nearly every night if not every 2nd night though so i did "waste" a lot of my mums money on that.
I think if we didnt have the money we would help with costs for uni, halls, food
But any partying money to earned himself
My mum helped me out to go to uni, but then she had it and didnt struggle in any way.
I was out basically nearly every night if not every 2nd night though so i did "waste" a lot of my mums money on that.
I think if we didnt have the money we would help with costs for uni, halls, food
But any partying money to earned himself
I think Im the only one here who wouldnt (well I say that now).
My mother has always worked part-time and my father has always been in and out of work all our life.. I have always worked from the age of 13 (all be it weekend work, but worked none the less). Then went to college for 3 years... University wasnt really an option for me.. what with my folks' financial position and me not wanting to get into any debt. Having said all that, I didnt have any interest anyway in going to Uni.. I wanted to get a job straight after College, which fortunately I did.
A girl I work with went to Uni for god knows how long.. got some sort of degree/s, got into a fair bit of debt..and by her own admission, was pissed almost everynight....... we work together.. have the same job title and earn the same wages.... which makes me think 'whats her uni life done for her' other than get her into a load of debt and some degree.. which isnt really doing anything for her.. we dont do a job where a degree is needed.
Anyway.... thats just how I feel...in 18 odd years time.. I may have changed my mind.. but its nice to hear what you've all got to say about it!
My mother has always worked part-time and my father has always been in and out of work all our life.. I have always worked from the age of 13 (all be it weekend work, but worked none the less). Then went to college for 3 years... University wasnt really an option for me.. what with my folks' financial position and me not wanting to get into any debt. Having said all that, I didnt have any interest anyway in going to Uni.. I wanted to get a job straight after College, which fortunately I did.
A girl I work with went to Uni for god knows how long.. got some sort of degree/s, got into a fair bit of debt..and by her own admission, was pissed almost everynight....... we work together.. have the same job title and earn the same wages.... which makes me think 'whats her uni life done for her' other than get her into a load of debt and some degree.. which isnt really doing anything for her.. we dont do a job where a degree is needed.
Anyway.... thats just how I feel...in 18 odd years time.. I may have changed my mind.. but its nice to hear what you've all got to say about it!
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Foxxi said:I think Im the only one here who wouldnt (well I say that now).
My mother has always worked part-time and my father has always been in and out of work all our life.. I have always worked from the age of 13 (all be it weekend work, but worked none the less). Then went to college for 3 years... University wasnt really an option for me.. what with my folks' financial position and me not wanting to get into any debt. Having said all that, I didnt have any interest anyway in going to Uni.. I wanted to get a job straight after College, which fortunately I did.
A girl I work with went to Uni for god knows how long.. got some sort of degree/s, got into a fair bit of debt..and by her own admission, was p*ssed almost everynight....... we work together.. have the same job title and earn the same wages.... which makes me think 'whats her uni life done for her' other than get her into a load of debt and some degree.. which isnt really doing anything for her.. we dont do a job where a degree is needed.
Anyway.... thats just how I feel...in 18 odd years time.. I may have changed my mind.. but its nice to hear what you've all got to say about it!
I think a lot depends on the reason they'd want to go to university. If they wanted to go just for the sake of it and to get drunk then I might think twice about it. But if they had a genuine interest in a subject that didn't particularly guarantee them a specific job then I wouldn't hesitate. I did a very nonspecific degree and then buggered about for a few years before finally figuring out what I wanted to do. But looking back on it I wouldn't change a thing.
University by far from guarantees you a job - my OH is a university dropout and he earns slightly more than I do and I've been to university for a total of 5 years. Any child of mine will have this drummed into them because sooooo many people I went to university with seemed to think that work was handed to them on a plate come graduation.
I agree with daftscotslass there
I didn't know what I was wanting to do at uni. Ended up getting my degree, taking a year out to work then went back to do my teaching post grad. I got some degree of support from my parents but not a l to as I was independant with my own house and I certainly didn't spend my whole time out and drunk. I worked my ass off!
Finlay will be aware of the choices when he grows up. Uni isn't always the best choice. I may have a degree (or 2) but I am not guarenteed a job even in the teaching sector.
Unless they change the laws up here in sunny Scotland we won't have to pay fees for Finlay to go to uni in Scotland
I didn't know what I was wanting to do at uni. Ended up getting my degree, taking a year out to work then went back to do my teaching post grad. I got some degree of support from my parents but not a l to as I was independant with my own house and I certainly didn't spend my whole time out and drunk. I worked my ass off!
Finlay will be aware of the choices when he grows up. Uni isn't always the best choice. I may have a degree (or 2) but I am not guarenteed a job even in the teaching sector.
Unless they change the laws up here in sunny Scotland we won't have to pay fees for Finlay to go to uni in Scotland
I will definitely try to pay for as much of my daughters uni as possible. Even if she decides to do a silly course and drinks all the time. (that's what her mother did at uni)
I had a fantastic time at uni, its like a bonus 3 years of childhood. (4 if you do a science/eng degree).
She will have her whole adult life to have jobs and learn about responsibility, I see no good reason to force her to experience this early.
I had a fantastic time at uni, its like a bonus 3 years of childhood. (4 if you do a science/eng degree).
She will have her whole adult life to have jobs and learn about responsibility, I see no good reason to force her to experience this early.
