Worried

[Mik]

I haven't wanted to say anything cos I didn't want to bring you guys down but I have been diagnosed with Ante-ntal depression I didn't even know it existed! I have had to start taking prozac and I feel so ashamed taking drugs when I am pregnant and worried about what all the stress is doing to the baby.
The doctor is fairly sure it is mainly to do with hubbies reaction to the surprise as he still is having trouble coming round to it and has had a few go's at me and said he sometimes thinks I got pg on purpose (which I didn't) cos I was broody earlier in the year. Stress with work which is tense at the moment and trying to cope with my 3 monkeys have all added to it.
I am so worried about how this is going to affect my relationship with hubby and with baby and his with us too and to top it off I have become seriously absent minded to the point where it is dangerous and I keep forgetting to turn the hob off on our gas oven

So sorry I am quiet and not replying to all the posts I have periods where I feel "normal" but they are fairly few at the moment.

 

[Vicki83]

Aw hun, first of all

I don't know what to say about your hubby, apart from him being a selfish twat lol, but no doubt if he's still being funny right up until LO arrives as soon as he sees LO his heart will melt and you'll think why the feck was I worrying

 

[Mik]

Thanks Vicki Doc and a friend I spoke to both said the same he will be fine once wrigglebum turns up but I worry (I worry alot I am afraid ) I will resent him for not being there for me! This pregnancy was a huge shock and I have a chronic illness so it is alot harder than my previous ones and I feel like I am doing it all alone

 

[Melly+2]

Hey hun, i too am suffering with this atm and i know how hard it is, im on Fluoxitine for it, if you even need a friend to talk to drop me a pm anytime as i know how hard it is to cope with, i too have some very bad days

 

[nazmomi]

This must be really hard for you, I have heard of though not had ante natal depression, though I have had it post natally so I know how bad you must be feeling.
Just wanted to give you some and say hang in there, the sunny days will come back again.
Hope your OH comes round soon

 

[*sara*]

Aww im sorry your going through this, dont worry about your baby he will be just fine, i was on fluoxetine when i got pregnant had been on them for several yrs but decided to stop them when i found out i was pregnant...against Drs advice. A few weeks ago i was refered to the peri-natal mental health team at the hospital for my depression. So please try not worry, i really hope things start to improve for you and that the tablets help. Wanted to give you lots of these

 

[MrsBrightside]

awww darling, anything you need or anytime you wanna come on and have a chat we are all here for you

 

[scones]

aw dont stay away, thats what is great about this place, people can share and chances are theres always someone else in the same position as you, you need not feel alone

 

[pickled_onion]

Sorry to hear what a difficult time you are having and how you are feeling As others have said, I'm sure your husband will come round in time but it is really unfortunate that until that time you are going through all this feeling unsupported and alone. Please continue to post. I think it helps to write things down and there seem to be many ladies here who understand.

I have a history of depression (and anxiety) myself. There's no reason to feel guilty about taking medication, Mik. You're doing your best in difficult circumstances, there is no shame in accepting a bit of help

 

[tracey 2]

ah hun im sorry your feeling like this, please just come on and rant or whatever when ever you want or need to we are all here for you

i have days where im so low then other days im ok you know and i do know the feeling being worried and everything really

send lots of hugs and here if you want to chat

 

[Aida]

lots of anytime you need to talk you are welcome to come on here to do so. I suffer from anxiety and do feel very low sometimes - i worry constantly as well - so to a certain extent I understand how you feel.

I'm sure ur OH will come round when he sees the baby

 

[Mummy Rich]

Ah sweetheart dont stay away. As someone has already stated this place is here for you no matter what and can help tremendously.

Don't keep how u are feeling bottled up as that would only make matters worse. Have you mentioned or spoken to you husband about this?

I know you must be feeling quite down about things but try to look on the positive side of things such as he will love the baby when it comes and forget about stuff. Unfortunately we've got the tough job... we have to be extra strong and are expected to deal with so many things all the time.

I am sorry you're feeling down lovely. I really wish I could come and give you a big squeezy cuddle - mummy rich cuddles are the best fyi!

Mwah and cuddles for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Anna23]

 

[Charlotte_faeriemad]

Hello Mik and

I have depression and suffer with anxiety, and after reading all your replys you know your deffinately NOT alone so take some comfort in that. My doctor told me to stop taking the tablets I was on straight away (at 5 weeks) which was a bit of a shock tbh as with my previous pregnancy I was told to carry on. I'm also struggling too and felt very isolated and alone. I push my BF away and have no patience with anything or anyone.

Have you been offered extra support from your MW? I have an appointment for a well being clinic at the end of the month plus the MW I saw last week assessed me as 'high risk' , which is nothing to worry about at all. This just lets them know I need extra support. I will now see my MW more often than say a 'low risk' lady so they can monitor how I'm coping.

If they haven't already offered this to you please ask your MW asap about it because the first MW I saw mentioned nothing about being risk assessed but she did refer me to the well being clinic.

Get all the help you can Mik, and as others have said don't stay away from the forum, it's helped me a lot already to be here and I've not been a member for long.

As for the reaction from your husband, that must be very hard but I'm sure once your baby is here he will be over joyed and forget about how he is feeling now.

 

[mirella]

don't worry. you are not alone. i was on citalopram when i found out i was pregnant. i stopped straight away as i did not know if it could harm the baby. i'm also very worried as i have suffered with depression on and off for years and i'm also considered 'high risk' for pre and post natal depression. don't feel guilty for taking the drug while pregnant. when doctor has prescribed it, it means that it is good for you and as a result for the baby.

hope you feel better soon, lots of hugs

 

[gracie]

Just wanted to give you a hug

This site is great for when we are feeling down or worried about anything. I'm not sure how i would be without this site as only one of my friends has had a baby and my mum died earlier this year. Its great that everyone is here for each other.

If you ever just need a hug just ask us all for one.



Grace xx

 

[claire_louise]

theres not much i can add to what the lovely girlies have said already

just wanted to send you some

 

[Mik]

Thank you so much it is good to know I am not the only one feeling low. I had never heard of ante-natal depression so it was a bit of a shock but I am taking the tablets and hope they help. I have not seen my midwife since I was 15 weeks and my next appt is next week but I have a wonderful doctor and she is seeing me weekly and has referred me to the local CPN unit which she is says is wonderful.
Hubby is coming with me to my next docs appt at her request and I am terrified what she will say to him I have tried talking to him aout everything but am finding it very hard. He has been alot better the past few days since I came home with the tablets maybe that was proof that something is wrong for him cos I hate taking tablets so it must have made him realise this is serious.

Thank you again it means alot