Worried....

[HeppiBean]

Hey ladies...

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my first and am really worried about getting post-natal depression.... I'm 18 and have suffered with depression and anxiety as it is for quite a few years, so the chances are higher that I will get it.

It's been really bothering me over the last couple of weeks cause I seem to have lost the bond I had with my bump before I just don't feel as excited about it anymore and I really don't want to feel the same after baby arrives...

I've got my anomaly scan on April 15 and hoping that seeing my little one again might bring the bond back...

Thinking about seeing my GP or midwife about it but I feel stupid going to them over every little concern. :/ Although OH says I should...

Any advice or supportive words?

Katie xx

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

Hi Katie, you should never feel stupid about something like that, definitely go to see your GP. Do you have anyone close by you can talk to about it also? Feel free to air any concerns you have on here, as all the girls are lovely.
I know it's easy for me to say, but try to stay positive for the time being for the sake of your bubba. I'm thinking the scan will help you re-create the bond

But, like I said, don't feel stupid and do try to talk to someone xx

 

[HeppiBean]

The only person close is my OH who is really great, but being a man just doesn't get it... :/ One of those things I wish I could talk to my Mum about, but sadly that's not possible ... Think I'll book myself a doctors appointment to be on the safe side... Thanks Lulu x

 

[KBrady]

Hi hun, definitely speak to your doctor if there's no one else - sometimes it's easier to be honest and open about everything you're feeling with a stranger.I had depression a few years back and found talking to my doctor was a massive help. Always vent on here before you get too upset, everyone is great to help get your spirits up!

Just try and keep your chin up as best you can as stress and sadness will pass to your baby in your hormones; you're doing the most amazing thing you'll ever do and the most important thing is that you and baby come through happy and well!

Take care, xxxx

 

[AngelCookie23]

Hey hun, I kinda feel the same way as you. I'm 19 and suffered with really bad depression and anxiety for a couple of years. It's gotten better but still an issue for me and like you I'm worried about postnatal depression. Don't worry about losing bond with baby, it's not gone forever! What I found help when I wasn't feeling as connected to baby was to do things that would re-connect me like, talking to the baby, playing baby songs to bump, listening to his heart beat on a monitor, buying things and making plans for baby. I think the scan will help loads

Easy to say but try not to worry about it too much, worrying in itself causes it's own problems! As Lulu_Laroo said don't feel stupid about talking to a doctor/midwife about anything you are worried about. It's thier job to listen to you and no concern is silly when it comes to you and baby!

I know how you feel about OH not getting it because they are a man! These forums are very helpful if you want to talk We are all here for you! xx

 

[nmf1987]

again im sort of the same. suffered for a few years with depression. i have wanted a baby for so long and now im pregnant im so concerned we will not bond etc and am kinda feeling how i was before but i keep telling myself all will be fine and to snap out of it.

this is my little angel and that is what matters.

just stay positive hun. the more you tell yourself and worry about it the more likely it is to happen i think.

im sure you will be fine and like the others said the scan will probably take all these feelings away. xxx