Worried about family row

[Lilelephant]

I don't even know where to Start.
Basically my grandma and uncle r weird! They r the ones that keep call Orlando their baby!

Basically grandma keeps saying I better bring baby over blah blah and sticking her nose in and Sauk g she is gonna take him out Which o don't want as she is 83 andy uncle is weird!

When baby is newborn I don't want people picking him up etc unless we say so, wash hands etc and I don't want ppl kissing him after what happened with Tracey m's little one. But they r so over bearing I am worried they won't listen and that i will be all hormonal and snap at them!

My gran can be really nasty and cause hell for everyone sp I really want to avoid it all! Argh I so worried about this actually more than labour!

 

[Princess81]

Just stand up to them. Orlando is YOUR baby not theirs. You have to set ground rules now even if they don't like it, or they'll walk all over you forever

 

[Lilelephant]

Thanks hun. I hate confrontation

 

[Princess81]

So do I, but it's the sort of thing that you will have to nip in the bud or it won't stop

 

[Dee83]

Just choose your words carefully to avoid offending and tell them straight out how you want things, or don't want things, to be done. As long as your gentle but firm hopefully u will avoid getting your nans back up but still get your point accross. xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

Yeah hopefully if we say now they would have got over it by the time Orlando is actually here

 

[Astrapi]

I can completely relate to how you are feeling - when my eldest was born I didn't want anyone touching him - at all - when we went to stay with my parents I would take him everywhere with me so no-one could get their hands on him, granted I was suffering with severe PND but I just couldn't cope with people touching my baby. I was more relaxed when my youngest was born but he's a complete mummy's boy and didn't want anyone else anyway lol to this day he still won't have anything to do with my dad (he's 3 on Tuesday) and I have no idea why

 

[Lilelephant]

I have no worries with my parents or in laws is just grandma and uncle! I know the others will respect what we want .

Also I know this sounds harsh but my uncle is weird and I can't put my finger on it but he gives me the creeps. My mum said when we were little she was the same. How can avoid him holdin Orlando? Omg I am so horrible

 

[star fish]

I think you should get your parents to keep them at arms length. After the birth just get your mum to ring everyone and say that you are exhausted and dont want any visitors for a while.

It would at least give you a couple of weeks extra to think about how to handle it and your grandmother couldnt really get upset if you were keeping away from pretty much everyone.

 

[Hunnie]

What happened with Tracey M's little one??

I have to admit Im already dreading the hospital visits. Theres a lot more of OHs family than my own and they seem to think (well more like his sister and SIL do) that they will be turning up at the hospital. Im one of those people that generally prefers to be on their own anyway (in other words completely unsociable ) and Id much rather spend the time with the OH or rest!

However I am in two minds of what to do. If I agree to the hospital visit then I can have more at home time and it will be easier to get rid of them from the hospital by using the excuse that visiting hours are over?

I dont want to sound like a complete bitch with them but I already cba with the hassle so I can already imagine how its going to be once baby is actually here!

 

[Lilelephant]

Argh I am currently at docs having my gtt and everyone knows that yet I just had a missed call from grandma argh her voicemails go right through me

 

[Nic36]

I've been worrying about the whole issue of people touching my baby too... I am a bit OCD about washing my hands and stuff anyway, and can't bear the thought of anyone 'handling' my LO without first giving their hands a clean. I think I might offend a few people if I ask them to do this though, and that worries me.
I am thinking in particular of the mother in law who I really don't want to offend, but I don't think she'll take too kindly to my request. Not sure hubby will back me up either as he will be too scared to ask her, and it'll make me look like the big bad ogre!