Work trying to get rid of me

[Annabanna33]

Everyone is advising that i stick it out, then take them to a tribunal,. BUT this is causing me no end of stress and am constantly feeling teary and sick when i have to go in. came back yesterday after 2 weeks signed off due to stress and then today i get given a list of complaints about me. This just made me feel terrible, theyre just using anything to get rid of me. I know i should fight it, but that it'll also be at the risk of me and my baby.
I just dont want to feel this terrible every day and have this stress.
Have my 20 week scan today, and it just feels that they are taking away all this happiness i should be feeling at the moment. I dont want to rememeber my pregnancy for the wrong reasons.

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[KateQPR]

Oh honey. I've been in a similar situation, and it's very common (wrongly) that businesses use psychological bullying to get people to quit work in a bid to save them selves having to go through the proper channels.

How much longer have you got at work? It's probably worth getting some advice on this, or do you have a relevant union? In my situation i ended up talking to the union who helped me before i left my place of work. Make sure you keep all evidence of what they're doing (so any emails, or keep a diary, just in case ) and speak to someone who knows more about your situation. They ended up acting as mediators for me so i didn't even have to deal with my bosses in the end. And they then settled before the tribunal with a financial settlement.

Trouble is they know you're close to breaking, are pregnant, likely to leave and therefore easy prey in many way.. It makes me so angry!

Just try and be strong, detach yourself from it and just concentrate on the joy of being pregnant. And just remember in a few months time this will be a distant memory and you won't have to deal with these people again. Also, the fact you're having to take time off work because they're making you stressed, also adds up against them and their treatment of you.

Were you planning on going back to work with them after the baby? I wonder whether there's a compromise - maybe saying to them, look i know you want me gone and clearly they're trying to get out of paying maternity pay (soooo wrong!!!) but say, i'll leave this week but if you pay me for 3 / 4 /5 months pay (whatever you think is reasonable) then thats the end of it? Having said that, if you did take this option, definitely get legal advice or have a representitive, to make sure you phrase things in the right way.

Sorry they're making you sad. Just think of your little one, and how much you'll love being with them when they come. And just keep talking to family / doctors to keep you sane and not to get too hurt by it all.

xxxx

 

[Aida]

omg how horribly unjust

Sorry I don't have any advise to give you but just wanted to give you some

Good luck for your scan - it's something you have been waiting for don't let them spoil the joy for you

 

[widowwadman]

Have you used your work place's grievance procedures yet?

Do not do anything like resigning before talking to someone professional. Phone ACAS, they're pretty good, or maybe ask on http://www.i-resign.com.