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[Tara1985]

Hi Ladies,

Feel like such a prat because just found this section of the forum, been staying at the top of the page and moaning about my relationship in the 'Am I pregnant' section

I won't repeat the entire story because I'll probably bore you but me and my OH have known each other for nearly six years and have been together for 2. He really is the one for me and in September we had a scare - I was 8 days late but it turned out negative. We had the talk more and concluded it would have been something we both wanted anyway as we discussed children early on in our relationship.

He is withdrawing at the end of BD if you know what I mean. Nothing has changed in our relationship apart from him failing to tell me he's not ready. It's like 'HELLO' use your bloody cake hole and tell me what is going on

I am coming to boiling point now because I feel like I can't bring it up with him just in case he feels like I'm pressuring him. Anyway the point of me posting this is to ask for advice. Some of the other ladies replied to me before but have any of your partners withdrawn from TTC without talking to you. I'm so upset because it's like dangling a carrot in front of my face...Actually it's worse...it's like eating the last maltese in front of me

xxxx

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

With me it was slightly different, I suffered a mc in April 2009. The pregnancy wasn't planned so took OH a while to accept it then I had my mc. It broke my heart but thought we could start trying again straight away but OH told me he didn't want another baby. That was awful having to go through a mc and then knowing I'll never have another baby. Then within 6 months OH changed his mind and asked if we could start trying! So we started ttc nov 2009 and fell pregnant jan 2010!
So give your OH time to come around! Also withdrawing isn't contraception so actually your already ttc
Good luck!

 

[titch]

give him some time and space, the more pressure you put on him the more he'll back off.

Have you ever read men are from mars women are from venus? It goes on about how men need to 'go into their cave' and not communicate with you, but its like theyre on elastic, if you just let them go, they bounce right back, if you try to stop them going in the cave, they never really get that closeness back.

And I agree, the withdrawl method is TTC IMO!

 

[Tara1985]

Thanks for sharing Lacey'sMummy and Titch. It is just reassuring to hear other people's experience and yes I understand withdrawing is not 100% safe and so does he because we also talked about that but then he keeps on doing it. Oh well not going to say no am I?

xx

 

[lisey27]

Hi Tara,

men are so confusing. I havent had this, I have wanted babies from the second I got with my OH (almost 2 years ago) but he of course (cos he's not baby-crazy like me) was sensible and said we should wait. I found it so difficult and I found myself resenting him for not giving me something I yearned for. I know its completely different to whats happening with you but its the closest I have been to that situation. I had to speak to my OH about it, I did it calmly and didnt put pressure on him. I just had to express how much it meant to me.
maybe just ask him how he feels? I know thats easier said than done though...getting information from a man can be like getting blood from a stone xx

 

[Tara1985]

They are SOOOOO annoying but I think I'm finding him more frustrating because I have PMT, just come on today. I'm upset because I thought we did talk and things we're clear but I'm obviously wrong, will give him space like you lot suggested. Maybe wait until Christmas when everyone is happy and merry, hopefully that will be a good time to have a heart to heart. I'm still going to stay in the TTC forum because technically until he puts a sock on it we are xxx