Wishing the time away :(

[TORino]

This is another sad sorry post from me.

I am wishing the time away and for my baby to grow up and be rid of this reflux.

I can't deal with it at all. The good days are getting fewer and further between and my marriage is at breaking point,

She had scratched her face to bits this morning in anger and drawn blood.

She was awake between 2.30 and 6am so I've had no sleep again and has been crying for the last 2 hours.

It's getting me properly depressed.

 

[Hope81]

How about you go to a&e with her? They will never refuse to see such a young LO.

 

[hellywelly]

I think you need to go back to the GP and kick up a serious fuss. I don't want to sound alarmist or suggest that this IS the case, but I think you are at serious risk of PND if this goes on much longer. Having a baby is NEVER going to be easy, but it makes me so upset that you don't seem to have time to enjoy Tilly because of your lack of sleep and her health problems. I would let the GP know that it is more than just baby blues and you need more specialised help for her reflux. I don't know what else to say other than keep posting here because we all want to support you, and we are sending you lots of hugs. You are doing a fantastic job. xxx

 

[lewisca]

^^wss big hugs Hun I would take Tilly to a&e to see if u can get help quicker for her and go see Gp for some help for u xxxx

 

[Verity2011]

Awwwww Tor you poor thing! babies are such hard work and massive strain on marriages even when they go to sleep and never cry, I can't imagine what it must be like with reflux. I would agree and say take Tilly to a&e, something needs to be done for you both sooner rather than later!

 

[VikkiR]

Agree with Hellywelly, you come across as a fabulous person, great sense of humour and an utterly decent person, you are sounding more and more frustrated and disillusioned. I don't know how you've coped, you are a doing a sterling job and having a really tough time. My lo has days like your usual days so gawd knows what it's like more often. I really feel for you and hope you can get more support, you both need and deserve it. I wish I could be of more help. Def go and see GP and please talk to your husband and ask him to do more. It sounds daft but I feel better if I get uninterrupted time to see to my basic needs such as feeling clean and able to eat a hot dinner at my own pace and in peace. Big big hugs xxxx

 

[ZMD]

Massive hugs hun. I do know how you feel as my LO had horrendous reflux which was caused by a lactose intolerance. She didn't sleep until 4 am most nights and screamed pretty much constantly. id definatly take her back or to a & e as it isn't fair on either of you xx

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[l_maclean]

I agree. I think you def need to put your foot down. It's not fair that you'd not being able to enjoy your little one. Xxx

 

[BevG]

go the hosp hun, loopylouise took her lo to hops cos she wouldnt stop screaming etc and shes changed her to soy milk an harlow is better now, maybe pm her?

 

[Nic36]

Awww... Big hugs to you... Agree with suggestions of taking Tilly to a & e - you really cant and shouldn't have to go on the way you are. You need more support than you are getting. Xx

 

[TORino]

Thanks ladies.

Ive been to the in laws for lunch and had a costa coffee so I'm feeling a bit more human.

I just wish I could help her, it can't be very nice for her not getting any rest. I'm amazed she's growing at all to be honest.

I've stocked up on dairy free things and I'm gonna give that a try next week to see if that makes a difference. I've resisted so far as that on top of everything else is a bit much to deal with especially as I live on cereal and cheese sandwiches these days.

I don't know if I'm getting pnd but I'm certainly having some rotten thoughts which is upsetting in itself. I keep wishing that I was still pregnant, or I had a dream that I swapped the baby the other day for one less whingy.

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[ZMD]

Thanks ladies.

Ive been to the in laws for lunch and had a costa coffee so I'm feeling a bit more human.

I just wish I could help her, it can't be very nice for her not getting any rest. I'm amazed she's growing at all to be honest.

I've stocked up on dairy free things and I'm gonna give that a try next week to see if that makes a difference. I've resisted so far as that on top of everything else is a bit much to deal with especially as I live on cereal and cheese sandwiches these days.

I don't know if I'm getting pnd but I'm certainly having some rotten thoughts which is upsetting in itself. I keep wishing that I was still pregnant, or I had a dream that I swapped the baby the other day for one less whingy.

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The dairy free is definatly worth a try I think as it seems pretty common. Hope things get easier for you soon x

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[Princess81]

I can totally sympathise as well, Cameron was a very difficult new born too - well from 3 weeks onwards. A mother that has experienced a difficult baby can certainly sympathise with your bad thoughts hun. Since putting cam on dairy/lactose free formula he's a little angel but it took four months of breast feeding, stress and numerous calls/visits to the docs to actually get it sorted so its def worth persevering. Stay strong hun xxx

 

[Mrs. KM]

Thanks ladies.

Ive been to the in laws for lunch and had a costa coffee so I'm feeling a bit more human.

I just wish I could help her, it can't be very nice for her not getting any rest. I'm amazed she's growing at all to be honest.

I've stocked up on dairy free things and I'm gonna give that a try next week to see if that makes a difference. I've resisted so far as that on top of everything else is a bit much to deal with especially as I live on cereal and cheese sandwiches these days.

I don't know if I'm getting pnd but I'm certainly having some rotten thoughts which is upsetting in itself. I keep wishing that I was still pregnant, or I had a dream that I swapped the baby the other day for one less whingy.

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I feel for you! The doctor put me on a dairy free diet a week ago due to K being upset. Apparently it can take a week and a half to get out of your system and then another week and a half to get out of Tilly's system so may take three weeks before you see a change. Also, if she is lactose intolerant, being dairy free won't matter because there will always be lactose in your breast milk. You may want to try a very bland diet and slowly introduce new foods to determine if it is something that you are eating,

I really hope you are able to figure it out. It's really not easy. Your thoughts are normal for someone with a difficult baby I think, but talk to your doctor if you are worried about pnd.

 

[beckyboo1]

Read your post earlier but didn't have chance to reply cos of visitors

You're doing a fabulous job and I'm sure plenty of mums would of cracked before now.

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit calmer now but I would still say if you have another bad night to take her to the hospital

You've got nothing to lose by going and maybe they can help.

I think you prob are in danger of getting depressed about it all and yu should be able to enjoy Tilly rather than wish the days away
Have you explained to your hubby how you're feeling and have you had chance to have a talk about it all. I do believe in talking to get things out in the open to discuss how you're both feeling I know when I've done this with hubby it's turned out we were both feeling the same but expressing it differently.

You know I'm here if you need me x

 

[VikkiR]

I tell myself when my lo squeals in pain (wind) that soon after it passes she won't remember it. Helps me a little, chin up hun xxxx

 

[wannabmummy]

Aww hun I really feel for you! I don't know what to say I just wanted to sen you a big virtual hug and I really hope it gets better soon for you my lovely xx

 

[TORino]

Phil thinks I have PND.

I don't know if I have or I'm just incredibly stressed.

I have good days and bad days and they are directly linked with the amount of sleep I have. Who isn't grouchy/tearful/low mood/has a headache when they have had 3 hours sleep? I don't know what the criteria is for diagnosing pnd.

The sleeping or lack of affects my ability to function properly. If I've had a few hours kip I can face the world, get dressed and take my baby to the park.

When I haven't I just want to sit on the sofa and do nothing.

I hate the not being able to improve the situation. Im very much a logical rational person who likes to find solutions to problems but I feel helpless here.

I try a different thing each night on the hope that it will work and it rarely bloody does.

What I don't like is how I get angry at my LO when it's not her fault

 

[Sarah13]

Awww i can't imagine what it must be like for you having a baby with reflux not surprised your feeling stressed and low. I've got a none sleeper so know how the lack of sleep feels but I don't feel low like you so maybe worth getting checked out. The hv does a questionnaire thing here maybe speak to them about it again x

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[beckyboo1]

I don't know the criteria either but anyone with an ounce if sense knows that's lack of sleep = tiredness = feeling rubbish = getting stressed

If phil thinks you have pnd then he should be doing more to help at the weekend. But I guess none if this will be fully solved until Tilly starts settling.

How about going up to bed with her early tonight so you can start to relax in yourself. I did this the other night after our bad night and although I was still awake feeding / soothing Harry I relaxed more cos I was in bed. At least then whenever Tilly sleeps you're in the best place to drop off yourself.

Will Tilly give you enough time to have a quick bath yourself if Phils about? Even if it's a ten minute bath it's time fit you to relax and help you deal with things better?

Xx