Whys my mum so selfish

[JoaquimsMummy08]

Helllo everyone

i think the title speaks for itself, my mum has kind of come round to the idea that im having a baby well im 21 in aug and since i will be away with oh for his award ceremony ay work for my birthday, he has decided to take me turkey in two
weeks as an early present so we have us time.

well this morning i was at my mums, checking out the hotel and making sure it was nice and stuff and she said im struggling with bills and your going on holiday, you tell me you couldnt just ask him for the money so i could pay off my gas and electric.

the cheek we dont live with her we have our own place and our own bills, she working on my birthday and when my litttle sister turned 16 in june she didnt even get her a present or anything. i love my sister shes so excited about being an aunt again she keeps saying she wants a niece now i ended up making my sister a little party with her friends and getting her all the gifts she wanted and not even a thank you from my mum.

i mean how can someone to so greedy selfish and cold, she hates my oh for the fact he works and makes enough for me to stay home and watch the children, she always moans that he spend to much money on me and our son, well not my fault i have a nice guy. she should be happy not sad.

sorry i just had 2 have a little rant, anyone else have a family member that only thinkd for them selfs x

 

[titch]

thats an awful thing to ask you to do, why on earth should you give up a holiday, which is your birthday present to bail her out. Fair enough if she came to you, humbly, and asked if you and OH could help her out as shes in trouble with bills but really, saying it like its something you 'should' do is just not fair.

Your OH works hard for his money and has every right to spend it how he chooses. If he loves his family and wants to spend it on them I dont see anything wrong with that! I wish my OH would want to spend money onme!!!

 

[vixforever]

Thats an awful thing to ask you to do hun. She got herself in the debt hun she can get herself out of it

 

[MrsR]

Aw honey that is awful!!! I can't believe an adult and a mother would say that to anyone let alone her daughter! Fair enough if you lived there but you don't! Who's the mother and child in this relationship?! x x you deserve a break away and it's lovely that your OH can look after you like this x x your poor sister as well! It's like you're the mother of her and your mother! You deserve a medal x x big big hugs darling x x

 

[Yodabo]

I'm godsmacked! I thought my mother was bad enough but wow, never heard anything like it!

Sounds to me that your mother is a jealous woman. Your mothers debts are her responsibility! Please don't let her get you down, my mother is a selfish woman and I've learnt to just leave her to her selfish ways.. She'll never change and quite frankly I can't be bothered with her anymore.

Don't let her make you feel bad Hun, you enjoy your holiday..you deserve it completely!

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I agree with everything everyones said!! How can she be so cold like that? A mothers there to suport her children, not the other way round!! Go enjoy yourself Hun, you deserve it! x x

 

[klam]

this sounds exactly like my mum!! altho my dad works and makes a good wage tghey always say they are skint but go on holiday about 5 times a year have 2 cars a paid of house and are gettin their garden done the now!! yet she asks me for petrol money and to buy her messages or take aways becos my oh has a good wage. we have 2 kids and our own bills i dont see the need in paying for her all the time aswell it drives me nuts! its as if we need to pay them back for them bringing us up or something! dont u just see ur mum in a different light when ur pregnant?? good luck on ur pregnancy xxx

 

[JoaquimsMummy08]

I agree with everything everyones said!! How can she be so cold like that? A mothers there to suport her children, not the other way round!! Go enjoy yourself Hun, you deserve it! x x

My mums always been cold the only time we have ever been close was when my son was born cause of the complications but other than that its always been me and my sister looking after each other.

 

[JoaquimsMummy08]

this sounds exactly like my mum!! altho my dad works and makes a good wage tghey always say they are skint but go on holiday about 5 times a year have 2 cars a paid of house and are gettin their garden done the now!! yet she asks me for petrol money and to buy her messages or take aways becos my oh has a good wage. we have 2 kids and our own bills i dont see the need in paying for her all the time aswell it drives me nuts! its as if we need to pay them back for them bringing us up or something! dont u just see ur mum in a different light when ur pregnant?? good luck on ur pregnancy xxx

Yes a totally different light when im pregnant... its like she shows her true colours when im pregnant wish it wasnt that was but it is

 

[klam]

thank god for sisters eh. chin up hun its ur mum losing out and im sure she will need u before u need her by the sounds of it. she should be proud of u and ur family not jelous. but suppose u cant chose ur mum!! xxx