Why do i hate sex?

[xshauna_bazx]

Well i forced myself to do it as OH hasnt had it in a few month or something lol! I hated it, it made me feel sick...also emotionally after i don't know why. I dont know whether its my hormones or just OH!!! Kinda feeling a bit depressed at the minute... god knows why. Also the last few days when i think about being pregnant...it feels alien. I know it will pass again but i hate feeling like this. I'm trying not to cry right at the moment xxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

failing at the trying not to cry...trying not to let OH notice xxx

 

[Annie050408]

Hi hon, you're not alone- I often felt it was all a bit alien and like you say it does pass and it is all hormonal. Regarding sex, many women and men totally go off it during pregnancy - dh and I were never too keen after seeing bub on the scan at 20 weeks. Don't feel sad hon, there's nothing 'wrong' with you. Xxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Thanks i just really hate feeling like this. I can't explain the feeling about it being alien...its like i just start to feel weird and overwhelmed because i'm pregnant, and then everything feels strange and that makes me feel depressed, its awful xxx

 

[Annie050408]

I think I know what you mean- I used to have moments where it felt a bit icky for bub to be moving when I was eating and then I'd feel a bit weird about it all and would start freaking out about the enormity of it all and about the birth. Just try to remember that those feelings will pass and soon enough you'll have your LO in your arms and it'll all feel like the most natural thing in the world again. X

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Thank you hun im so glad im not the only one. You made me feel alot better thanks xxx

 

[amandapanda]

Awww i understand about the feeling alien thing Shauna. Sometimes I feel so detached from everything - even the baby....it really is hormones, one minute I am fine and then the next my world comes crashing down, I feel completely overwhelmed by everything and I feel like I am going crazy! I seem to be having a complete emotional melt down at least once or twice a week, am crying my heart out all the time...it's awful! I do feel for you hun, just keep telling yourself it's not you, it's your hormones xx

 

[flexilexi394]

hey
just wanted to say i know exactly the feeling. i went completely off sex!! wierd. but now i cant get enough of it. its very strange. all the feelings that you get are unbelievable. its funny, people want babies so badly and then all of a sudden doubt takes over and you feel bad for it but you really do think twice, and then all of a sudden its the best thing and you cant wait! even now, i am due in less than a month, i still wake up wondering why the hell i am doing this. its gone by the next day, but it does scare me. x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I feel exactly like both of you said...guess it is the hormones, its just such a weird feeling and the next day its fine...like today i havent felt like that but i know it will come back. I really get you about thinking twice i really have lol then the next minute the baby will be the best thing in the world lol! I don't like the way these hormones are making me feel lol but also glad i have people to talk to who know what im talking about. The sex thing will probably pass OH will just have to sort himself out lol, i dont think he bothers that much if i dont want it...well it seems he doesnt lol xxx

 

[Lou_1]

My OH is driving me nuts with the sex talk, He wants to have it but there is no chance like you said at the start it makes me feel sick and the few times ive done it for his sake ive felt worse after it. im not really worrying about it i keep telling him im the one feeling sick heartburn tired and will continue to do so for another few months he can manage without sex till i can be bothered again lol.

Dont worry to much think everyone is the same at some points in pregnancy.

 

[nmf1987]

as all others have said hun it is hormones. i feel like an emotional wreck but don't wana show oh so keep it to myself. (making it worse no doubt).

i am also worrying about whether i am doing the right thing but it is silly cos this is all ive always wanted so of course it is.

so random what pregnancy makes us feel.

xxxx

 

[purplehippy]

I sort of understand too.

This is my fourth pregnancy and though this and the last two (the two that didn't make it) were extremely sicky ones re first trimester nausea etc, my sex drive was through the roof. I love sex.

However, my blokey, who is not the father of the previous child and two angels, has to be pestered with more than just a strategically placed hand and me half naked, to realise I'd like some. Which is a huge turn off - I WANT to be leapt on.

On wed when we got home minus our two kids (previous relationships), we bathed together then he started - thing is, it's been a while, and it actually really hurt. And I have recently felt a depleting in my drive. for about the first time in the mature years of my 28 years!

I did eventually tell him it'd hurt me - it's the bump jiggling in the bump's cavity - but I can see it's just likely to mean there won't be much in the sex dept now. I can do other things and he can do other things with me - which Shauna, you can do with your blokey, it doesn't have to be penetration-based - but I'm peeved all the same! I also feel if there had been more sex throughout, that maybe I'd not feel like that during sex.

 

[hopefulmummy]

I know what you mean as well.... I have never had a mad out of control sex drive, but I always love to have sex often because of the intimacy and closeness that goes with it. We haven't had sex since we conceived, in Sept, but tried last night and it hurt...a deep pain. I was so upset and started to cry uncontrollably, which was quite odd! My hubby has never had a high sex drive either, and he said he's a bit put off knowing there's a baby in there, but I need that closeness....but I can't really face it at the same time. I'd rather be sleeping!!!!

 

[PinkPunch]

Shauna that's totally understandable. I'm up and down all the time. I'm sometimes terrified by the fact I'm pregnant and feel trapped about the birth, other times I'm feeling it kick and want to meet it and feel so excited. It's hard to describe isn't it?

My only advice is to please talk to your partner about, it doesn't hurt for him to see you cry and let it all out. He won't think your a wreck at all. It helps me when I confess how I'm feeling and he helps me through.

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Shauna that's totally understandable. I'm up and down all the time. I'm sometimes terrified by the fact I'm pregnant and feel trapped about the birth, other times I'm feeling it kick and want to meet it and feel so excited. It's hard to describe isn't it

Thanks for all your replies its really reassuring!

PinkPunch, this is exactly me! and yeh its very hard to describe the feeling...ive been getting it alot lately x

 

[PinkPunch]

We're almost there, the end is in sight. Your not alone at all, we're all the same but sometimes feel guilty at not being constantly happy and blooming!

 

[pinkymum]

Can't really add to what the other girls have said Hun but I understand the hormones and mood swings. I did have a freak out in tri 1 about how the hell I was going to cope but haven't felt like that since then. I think my biggest worry just now is if something goes wrong in labour or I go into labour early. I know I'll cope when baby comes although I do worry about post natal depression.


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[xshauna_bazx]

I am very worried about post natal depression as ive had depression before.xxx

 

[PinkPunch]

I'm scared of getting postnatal depression because I've been depressed the last month to the point were I had bad panic attacks everyday. If I thought of labour at all, it all kicked off again.

Anyway I've worked my way through it and I'm just going to get on with these last 4 weeks and get it over and done with! I think I'll be fine afterwards cos I have a close family etc but it does worry me a little.

 

[PinkPunch]

Ps. At least you can take medication when the baby arrives, there is absolutely nothing they can do for you when pregnant!