scaredmum2be
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Can you tell me who is being selfish when ive written this me or OH?
I got offered a job and yes im 12 weeks but i had hopes that if i managed to get a job i could help myself being independant aswell as supporting the baby which to me i felt its a good idea although i had to turn it down because my OH would of had a right go at me an i did ask him why he wanted me to turn the job down he said that because he's claming incapacity benefits and income support (suppose to be for me) but my income support goes to all the bills so with me moaning about wanting my own money hes slowly giving me soe but sounds like he doesnt like giving me any money.
So because hes on benefits he doesnt want me to get a job because it will effect him, He calls me selfish i only wanted to provide for LO and not sponge off benefits an hes made me feel guilty that ive not looked for work since weve been together i did have a job when i met him but he said to quit as he could provide for me :'( so why am i the one that has to feel guilty what have i done wrong i only wanted a job.
Please be honest if i am selfish can you tell me i would rather know but i am feeling so miserable right now x
I got offered a job and yes im 12 weeks but i had hopes that if i managed to get a job i could help myself being independant aswell as supporting the baby which to me i felt its a good idea although i had to turn it down because my OH would of had a right go at me an i did ask him why he wanted me to turn the job down he said that because he's claming incapacity benefits and income support (suppose to be for me) but my income support goes to all the bills so with me moaning about wanting my own money hes slowly giving me soe but sounds like he doesnt like giving me any money.
So because hes on benefits he doesnt want me to get a job because it will effect him, He calls me selfish i only wanted to provide for LO and not sponge off benefits an hes made me feel guilty that ive not looked for work since weve been together i did have a job when i met him but he said to quit as he could provide for me :'( so why am i the one that has to feel guilty what have i done wrong i only wanted a job.
Please be honest if i am selfish can you tell me i would rather know but i am feeling so miserable right now x