When would you go to the doctor?

[Tiny Sue]

Hi guys -

Just a question and please, be patient with me.

With our first baby, we got pregnant on our second cycle of TTC.

This time round, it's cycle 5 and I'm fairly sure I'm not pregnant this month. I just don't feel it.

When would you stick it out until you went to the doc for fertility tests? I'm all for going if we haven't conceived by 6 cycles. OH wants to wait until about 8 or 9 - he is convinced we're ok, just not catching.

Thing is, I had a section last time around and I don't know much about them. Could they affect your fertility?

I am aware that some people in here have been trying a very long time. Please don't dismiss me as a whiner, I know 5 cycles isn't that long.

I'm a natural worrywart anyway and all these little "what if"s are going around in my head. What if I did this wrong, what if I'm not actually ovulating at all, what if I'm too old now, what if I'm peri menopausal, etc, etc, etc.

I just want to know what you think.

Sue

 

[jenna]

I personally wouldnt go till after 12 months, especially when youve been pregnant before, most doctors dont want to know till youve been trying for a year

good luck

 

[Chrissy1]

Don't really know hun. I've been wondering this myself.

Me and hubby are just starting cycle two and I think we've said that if nothing has happened in 6 months then we'll see a doc.

 

[libs]

I think you're meant to try for 12 months before going, also make sure you're not smoking, drinking, too overweight etc - I know our doctors just send you away and tell you try those first C sections don't affect your fertility, unless you had complications in which case ask the doctor. But 5 cycles really isn't v long, someone posted the statistical odds on each month on here once and it was lower than you think. I know I read somewhere that out of 100 women who have unprotected sex at their fertile time each month, only 20 will get fertilisation (not necessarily a full pregnancy) each month

 

[Tiny Sue]

I guess. Thanks very much for honest opinions girls. I feel so discouraged at the moment and I suppose that's not helping either. Like many people on here I desperately want a baby - it's an ache. I have my little daughter and I am very thankful, and yet I don't want her to be an only child.

I guess I need to stop thinking and get out in the fresh air.

Sue

 

[jenna]

aww hun, its so frustrating isnt it Im sure when you least expect it you'll get a suprise, i think most of us make it worse by worrying, its more likely to happen when we relax. Endless circle really.

 

[libs]

It's funny - you don't get the down thing every cycle - it just raises its head every now and then next cycle you'll probably shrug it off it's just a great big rollercoaster

 

[Tiny Sue]

Hugs for everyone.

Thanks, guys. You cheered me up a little.

And you're right libs, it is, isn't it?

Best of luck to all you guys too, we'll be rooting for each other.

Love

Sue

 

[Chrissy1]

Just been tinternet searching and most advice says that if you are under 30 then leave it 12 months before seeing a doctor and if you're over 35 and you haven't conceived within 6 months then see a doctor.

What you're supposed to do if you're between 30 and 35 (like me) it doesn't say!!!

 

[Tiny Sue]

Well I'm 34 - maybe between 6 and 12 months? About 9

OH right again, I'll have to tell him later

I hate it when he's right.



As the Japanese say - Gambatte - fight on.


We're in it together eh.

Sue

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

we started TTC when I was 30 (im 32 now) and we went to the docs straight away for a general health check etc and just so they had it in their notes that we were TTC, get advice etc. I think it was well worth it as they picked up from OH's records that he is a beta thalasemia carrier so I had to be tested aswell, luckily im not a carrier so there is no risk (both parents have to be carriers) but its good piece of mind.

Theres no harm in going to your docs now, just to have a general health check, find out when they would want to see you, and talk about any concerns you have over the c-section etc.

Atleast that way you'll have a benchmark to work with

Good luck!

 

[katyk]

yes as soon as it's your birthday and you turn 35, and say you've been trying already over 6 months, doctors could be convinced to let you have any tests/ help to increase your chances I reckon

 

[breezee1984]

they say to wait 24 months b4 seeing a doc about fertility

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

they say to wait 24 months b4 seeing a doc about fertility

I think that might just be in the states hun, its usually 12-18 months here depending on the area (it varies from town to town it seems ) or less if you are older or have a history of PID for example.

 

[Emmalt]

We started tying in September last year and I was going to wait a year. I twisted my knee on holiday and four weeks later was still hobbling (this was in June). I went to see the doctor about it (the knee that is) and took the chance to ask about fertility (funny enough she was pregnant). She told be that given my age (37) and the fact that we had been trying for 9 months she would advise us to start investigating now.

I have had two blood test (both ok) and am due to have a scan next month. My other half received a letter yesterday stating that they can't fit him in for a sperm test until Feb 08!