When is it considered safe to tell people?

[Ali K]

We've only told our closest friends and family but my Mum is desperate to tell others! I've told her that we can tell people after 12 weeks, is that about right? (I'm in the States and the Obstetrician doesn't even want to see me until 10-12 weeks, that will be my first contact with anyone medical!!)

A x

 

[fran_23]

well after 12 weeks is regarded as a more safe time as most m/c will occur in the first 3 months...but its up to you when you want to tell ppl hun!

 

[cassi]

its not 'unsafe' per say to tell people...its just recommended that you wait till you get past the 10-12 week gap as that is when the chance of a miscarriage decreases by quite alot.

but its really up to you

 

[Jade89]

Sometime after your first scan or 12 weeks. I told people at 9 weeks coz I had my scan at 8 weeks and 5 days.

 

[chezzabell]

yea 12 weeks is recommened as safe, but if ur like me i couldnt wait to tell everyone, i was telling people as soon as i knew 5 weeks with both my babies

 

[Lyndsey]

some people tell their friends and relatives straight away the theory is that if anything does happen then your friends will know why your upset and will be able to provide support....... I told select people at 5-6 weeks then everyone else after I had my first scan (9 weeks) I think it is personal choice.

 

[oldermum]

Same here, i have told my Hubby (couldn't really not tell him ),my Mum and Dad and my two best friends, basically for support just in-case.

 

[Strangeness]

I wanted to wait till after 12 weeks but I couldn't wait haha. I told everyone when I was 7 weeks.

 

[Hypnorm]

i told people at 7 weeks, i had to tell work as i was in a high risk job, lifting and various dangerous drugs.

 

[kirlykird]

i told people after my scan as I'd seen the baby and heard the heart beat.

This was around 9.5 weeks

 

[Ali K]

Thanks Guys! I thought as much! I have told close family and a few friends (it's hard trying to pull the "Oh, I didn't feel like drinking tonight so I'm driving" line off for too long!). I'll wait another 4 weeks to be sure!

 

[Madi's Daddy]

me and hev was telling people almost from the day we found out she was pregnant, couldnt help it lol, we was so happy

 

[Sassyminx]

i planned on not telling anyone until after 12 weeks, found out when i was 4 weeks and lasted all of about 2 hours before telling my best friend, and then told everyone else the same day

lol

 

[Fiona]

like everyone else, our plan was not to tell people until after 12 weeks... lasted about 1 hour, then phoned family and friends and the next day told people at work... just couldn't keep it a secret...

one of my friends did mention that she thought I awas tellig people a bit early but we felt that if we did have any probems we would rather our family and friends knew and were able to support us through it...

all personel choice though

 

[fynemum]

I wanted to wait to tell people, But as a Scuba teacher with students i had to give this up straight away. I knew i was PG at 2 weeks with early testing. My OH couldn't hold his tongue. All my friends and students guessed as i love to dive. So we had to tell family and friends at around 4 weeks. Everyone was delighted for us... lots of congratulations and well wishes all round. Mum and family knitting as soon as the word was out..... But Unfortunately i have just lost the baby 4 days ago at 11 weeks. (not quite the safe period so to speak)
I am sorry my family hurt so much, but i know they would have hurt finding out afterwards more. They are a good support to each other just now and to me, Oh & children.
My friends, they have all been so supportive,offering to sharing the loss with us and each other too. But keeping a distance to let us grieve on our own as we wish it right now.
I am glad everyone knew early.... It makes my babies short stay mean more if that makes sense?
Our little angel had so much love from so many people, was not just part of my body but also touched so many of my family and friends lifes too... Sorry if i waffled on a bit, but IF I am lucky enough to once again carry a baby, i shall be telling the world and all who will listen about the little life growing inside me ASAP. Hope this help you chose when to tell. Everyone is different. feelings and views.
Take care and enjoy a happy healthy PG
Yvonne x