when do you plan on telling??

[youngmumtobe20]

last time i told family, and a few close friends at about 5 weeks almost as soon as i found out cos i/we were so excited about it, but miscarried at six and then had to go thru the awfulness of having everyone apologising for our loss which is gd that people are thinking of us but makes it harder cos u have to be reminded over and over again.

So this time we're not telling anyone (i've told my mum cos well shes my mum but OH doesnt know that ) till at we've at least had the first scan so that if it does go wrong we wont have to go thru all that again.

Anyways just wondering at what stage people will tell/have told friends and family?

 

[girlygirl]

Im only 5 weeks and only my hubby, my parents and his dad know.
He wants to tell his brothers and i dont as think its too early. he geels guilty for not telling them, but htink its best not too till 12 weeks.

 

[kitty86]

We was going to wait but I started bleeding when I was 6weeks and because Leah was in bed I had to get my mum to look after her so we had to tell her then then we had to get marks mum down because my mum had to go out. So we had to tell her then too lol. Not how we wanted to tell them

 

[AllieW]

I told my sisters and my best friend pretty much as soon as I got the positive. That was only Sunday, so around 6 weeks. My husband told two of his closest friends yesterday because he happened to be going for a drink with them.

The funniest reaction was when my sister told my eldest niece. She explained that there was going to be another new baby in the family, in addition to my youngest niece (who's 2 months old). "What! Another one!", she said. "What for?!!" And then there was a slight pause and then, "How did that get there then?".

We're telling his Mum and Nan at the weekend as we're staying with them and it will affect what I'm eating etc.

Most people won't be told until after the first scan, though, as I'm still having difficulty believing it's actually happening.

 

[rachie29]

we agreed to tell our parents and 1 close friend each... I also had to tell work because I had to have my booking in appt in the antenatal clinic in the middle of the day.

We have also told our siblings now because we are having a family do on saturday for my 30th birthday and there is no way I cant drink without raising suspicion....

 

[youngmumtobe20]

i have the same problem rachie, on the 30th too! its my sis's 18th and i always drink when clubbing! plus i've got a cousin, aunty and friends going too lol so im telling my sis but probs not my couxin n that til after my first scan. told my mum and dad now but thats it for now. OH will probs tell his mum later too x

 

[jenna]

Im not sure wether to tell people or wait. It would be more sensible to wait but its only a matter of time before some one puts 2 and 2 together.

 

[youngmumtobe20]

yeh especially once ur bump starts growing! 8)

 

[jenna]

yeh especially once ur bump starts growing! 8)

lol yeah that might be a give away! one of my hubby's relatives gave birth and no one even knew she was pregnant, she was too scared to tell any one and no one suspected anything not even her mother!
I think after everything is confirmed and after scans and stuff ill be too excited and want to tell every one...

 

[youngmumtobe20]

yeh i think i'll be the same, i wana tell the world now! im so happy about it. but i've just gota be strong, use some of my non-existent will power and wait till after my 12 week scan, got docs tonight to confirm it and make a midwife appointment, hope i dont have to wait 2 weeks like last time! hope everything goes ok for you!

 

[newmumtobe]

Hi all,

I have told a few people mainly close relatives! also because of my sickness i have told work only my boss and manager! i am glad i have it has made a big difference! they would have worked it out soon. i think you have more rights when you inform them in writing!

At 12 weeks i will probably tell everyone else.

 

[sophie-jordan]

i told my mom n dad n brothers when i just found out at 4 weeks
the only other person that nos is the babys dad
im not gona tell no1 else untill im 12 weeks and everything is ok .. its so hard tho i want every1 2 no lol
x sophie x

 

[clairescunny55]

i told ev1 straight away...they knew we were trying and kept askin if i'd come on, my face just gave it away

 

[lisa&alex]

have told everyone too.. charlotte 1st then parents then everyone slowly hears lol..

 

[emma28]

we told everyone too, mainly cos they were all asking as well but we're not telling my parents til we have to. they were so ott during my 1st pg then i got ill and lo was prem so they would say i was selfish if they knew.

 

[OopsyDaisy]

I told my parents and the in-laws when we found out about the pregnancy - I wouldn't have been able to hide the morning sickness from them - and asked them not to tell anyone. Then we announced the pregnancy when I hit 13 weeks.

 

[youngmumtobe20]

I had to tell my dad really cos i work for him so if i got sickness (only had nausea so far) he'd obviouslt guess anyway and then wonder why i didnt tell him, and i told my mum cos i needed to tell someone! lol

 

[Alexia]

Hello Ladies, I find it so hard to not say anything to anyone really like to share it with family and friends so excited. Told my sister and my parents they all live far away (out of the country) when I went to visit 2 weeks ago. When I was there I just wanted to get the chance to say it face to face. Really happy I did. Also had to tell my partners best friend as he is staying in our house at the moment and I have been going to bed really early and lying on the sofa and making funny noices in the bathroom... And can't stand any smells!! Then I did one mistake I meet up with one of my best friends and I really wanted to tell her because it started to get really awkward as we go to spinning and body pump together and I have been to exhausted the last few weeks to do much. But when I did say well it is actually something I like to tell you I am pregnant she was like ohh ok good for you. Then started talk about something else... I got really upset and said well I am very happy in a small voice. Still feel upset about it(guess it is my hormones playing).. But really expected a hug and something.. and can't tell my partner as I promised not to say anyting to anyone yet! Looking forward when it start to show no more lies! Alex x