What would you do? *with pictures*

[Miss.Monroe]

im going to have to. i called my OH and told him that we need to know because im selling my worldy good on ebay to make a bit of cash and shes being stubborn and not telling us. even if i get the items and sell them on, its going to be hassel with a new born baby. if she does have a moses basket her intentions are probably to give it to us AFTER ive had her, when i need things to be prepared and set up for LO's arrival home on the first night.

i dont think she realises im living out on my bedroom at my dads , while deans living in his flat. and were struggling.

 

[mandspice]

Aw, I can understand just how you feel there's so much to buy and so much budgeting to be done it just makes sense to let people know what you need so you don't end up with 10 identical cot mobiles or something! Hope you can talk to her and make her understand xxx

 

[sarah2807]

Aww..I feel for you hun..It sounds very comlpicated. You don't want to offend people but it sounds like they are stressing you out more than helping. could you oh have a word with his mum and say you don't know what is left to buy so would appreciate knowing what she has purchased?

What are you going to do about the basket?
Could it stay at your mums house for when Lo sleeps their?

 

[Miss.Monroe]

i dont know what im going to do with it. (i know what i want to do with it!lob it int he bin) i could sell it on ebay without the matress i suppose. i doubt anyone will want it.


i called my OH and asked him to ask her what shes got as we really cant afford to have two of something but then still have stuff to buy. he didnt really seem intrested. i really dont think hes understanding how hard this is for me to sort out. i dont have any help and its hard work. im sick of bloody crying about it. I can do no more, im selling as much as i can on ebay, shoes MAC makeup i havent used perfume, jewlery, even some of my Marilyn Monroe books etc (im getting desperate lol) OH thinking was why are you selling all your stuff? i dont go to work so that i can buy things and then sell them, whats the point of living if you dont have anything.

I think if he doesnt call her or talk to her over the weekend about it i will call her home phone on monday and ask her about it, and say were really struggling. I live with my dad and he hasnt ofered to buy a thing, and makes me feel ashamed to be pregnant, evenone here just ignores it like its not happening, we hardly talk and im having to sort things out myself. im dreading being in the early stages of labour at home (i think im going to have to go to OH flat just so i can be a bit more comfortable)

its all i can do to get my OH to keep his flat tidy, its a mess.

Once Sophie is here im going to try my hardest to get my own place, so i dont have to answer to anyone and i can relax and feel comfortable and they can go F themselves. ill do it on my own!

i know i dont have alot of money but I ME MYSELF want to be able to choose things for my baby, and not accept or put up with fucking stained mattresses.

 

[mary70]

cant u move in with your oh hun (sorry if you have explained before i must have missed it) maybe that would be better for all of u

 

[Tadpole]

Aww hun - I don't really have any advice but it all sounds very stressful so I just wanted to give you loads of these...

All I can say is take a deep breath and deal with each issue one at a time and separately. Looking at everything you want/need to do will seem like such a huge mounatin to climb. It WILL all sort itself out in the end, nothing is permanent in life.

 

[abcd1234]

im dreading being in the early stages of labour at home (i think im going to have to go to OH flat just so i can be a bit more comfortable)

Same!! I was talking about this a few days ago, i dont think i can be in early labour at "home" especially if its at night! My sister is a psycho atm, she comes down and shouts at us for talking on an evening cos apparently it keeps her away (Shes 10!!!) God knows what she'll do if i was in labour at night or if tally makes noise! I intend to go over to Daves if im in pain, it'll be calmer, just us, doesnt matter if i make noise, plus he has a bigger bath then us lol.

Oh and looking at those pics i can see the stain! It is recommended you use new matresses with each baby, maybe see how much something like it is going for on ebay, or trade-it, i know what you mean about feeling bad, my friend has given me loads of stuff for Tally and some of it i would never consider letting her be around, its horrible, but i have to keep it for now at least, or she'll get upset

 

[Miss.Monroe]

cant u move in with your oh hun (sorry if you have explained before i must have missed it) maybe that would be better for all of u

i lived with him for a year up until febuary when i moved back into my dads. because the flat had no heating or hot water, we were freezing in that place and had to wash standing at the kitchen sink with water boiled in a kettle. my dad got in contact about 4 times over that year. there is mould on the walls and the washing machine is broken. there is no storage space and my OH has no motivation to sort it out. ive even written a room by room breakdown of what needs doing. most of it takes time, only two things that take money are getting the boiler and the washing machine fixed.

Fiona my friend who has been like a mum to me and when im with her i feel postive about Sophies arrival, not scared or ashamed, said shes going to visit her family up north in a couple of weeks and im welcome to come along. im going to go for a few days and get away and try and think whati want to do with regards to living arrangments, my OH and my so called Parents. i need to stop myself crying so that i can go to the post office and send off some parcels for ebay.

thanks for listening to the rants of a mad woman, i do appreciate it but its becoming increasingly obvious that virtual hugs (as nice as they are) arent going to sort this one out.

 

[Hazel]

I have said to my mother in law to make sure she keeps receipts for everything as I want to buy things also and don't want two of everything that I don't need.

 

[mibiuk]

Hi there,

I am going to PM you hun.

Take care
Kathy x

 

[Suzie and Faith]

It sounds so tough on you! If there is anything at all I can do to help let me know! I promise if I win the lottery i'll share it with you!

Baby Sophie is very lucky to have a mum like you and you are doing great. Babies need very little apart from food, a clean bum and love so your LO will be just fine!

Getting away for a few days sounds like a good idea, it'll give you some time to think and hopefully work out what you are best doing.

PM me if you every want to chat

xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[BeckyJ]

hope you get it all sorted hun

 

[hipchick5]

lol.. its a bit loud isnt it?? just say u dont like it, and u have seen one u really like.. x

 

[Miss.Monroe]

well OH spoke to his mum she doesnt have a moses basket. Dean told her not to buy one and we will chose one of our own.

Mum called back to see if i managed to get the stains out...
i said i hadnt tried yet (personally i dont want to be trying to remove stains from someones matress, its obviously wee....)

She seems to think it will be alright. i might just tell her i couldnt get them out and we will need to buy a new matress anyways.

i would take it back round to hers to use there but im hoping not to spend much time there because shes f*cking crazy and drinks too much.