What would you do? *with pictures*

[Miss.Monroe]

my mum got hold of a moses basket from someone she knows for £20 with a stand. It has a matress inside but no covers or blankets.

she loves it and has washed all the outside of it and given it to me today.

butttt

i dont really like it. its lilac with big tiggers on it.

and the stands a bit unstable and there are no sheets or anything to go with it. I looked at the matress and it has a stain on it, like a water stain where its clear in the middle but you can still see the outside ring if that makes sense? i will post pictures tomorow.

when i saw it i said oh i like it because i know my mum will be hurt if i say i didnt like it. when she was out of the room i looked under the matress and the other side is even more stained!

its that obvious that my mum must have seen it but her and her husband seem to love it!

now i was thinking of calling her tomorow to say i have noticed the stains and im not really happy with her having paid £20 for something that is stained and has no sheets. what do you think? that way its like im not just attacking her and having a go saying i dont like it or dont want it.

me and my mum have a very volatile realtionship to say the least. and if she doesnt want to call the woman up and say something im more than happy to. but i dont think she will let me. :S

*you cant really see the stains i hope some of you can look really hard lol !*

 

[paiges_mummy]

if i saw anything i didnt like the look of it would be out the window, wether i offened anyone or not.
its your baby hun no1 elses, you have to do what you think is best for her.

good luck

 

[sarafet]

if it's not what you want you need to tell her.. and i think if it's obviously stained etc, it's pretty rubbish of the women to take £20 from your mum

 

[Suzie and Faith]

It's a difficult situation as you don't want to offend anyone.
You could buy a new mattress but that will probably cost quite a bit.

To me your mum paid over the odds anyway. This brand new one http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/3755981/Trail/searchtext>MOSES+BASKET.htm
is only £19.89, it's not to my taste but it's cheap!

and argos have others
http://www.argos.co.uk/webapp/wcs/s...angId=-1&searchTerms=moses+basket&Submit=GO+>
not much over £20 that are very pretty and nice!

I'd try speaking to your mum, point out that £20 is a lot of money for something not in perfect condition. Be honest with her and hope for the best.

Will baby be at your mums much? Or are you all living together? You could always use that one for certain times/places - i.e at your mums/relatives and then get yourself a new one for you to use...

I can imagine it must be hard for you to sort out! xxxx

 

[Miss.Monroe]

oh god babybee thoes links make me feel even worse that she paid £20 for it! i really hope she will let me get her money back, but something tells me she wont! i wish this one was as nice as the ones on the link! for £20 we could have had a brand new basket matress and blankets!

 

[Suzie and Faith]

oh god babybee thoes links make me feel even worse that she paid £20 for it! i really hope she will let me get her money back, but something tells me she wont! i wish this one was as nice as the ones on the link! for £20 we could have had a brand new basket matress and blankets!

Aww sorry hun, didn't mean to make you feel bad!
I was quite surprised by what you could get actually!
We've just got a crib but i'm now considering a moses basket.

xxxx hope you can sort something hun xxxxx

 

[Miss.Monroe]

oh god babybee thoes links make me feel even worse that she paid £20 for it! i really hope she will let me get her money back, but something tells me she wont! i wish this one was as nice as the ones on the link! for £20 we could have had a brand new basket matress and blankets!

Aww sorry hun, didn't mean to make you feel bad!
I was quite surprised by what you could get actually!
We've just got a crib but i'm now considering a moses basket.

xxxx hope you can sort something hun xxxxx

its just because shes stubborn and wont want to take it back. heres my plan:

Call mum and say:

Not happy with her paying £20 for the Moses Basket

Because:

Stains on the mattress
Stand is wobbly
No blankets

I would want to replace the mattress anyway which would cost a bit.

Argos has brand new Eyore Moses Baskets for £19.89 with:

Mattress and Quilt
Hood and lining

If she doesn’t want to phone her ill phone her and say im not happy with it and want the money back.

im posting it here because if i dont i will chicken out and not call her. please make sure you pester me to find out what happened! to ensure that i do it!

 

[Suzie and Faith]

Good on you hun! Afterall it's your baby so she should sleep in what you want her to!

I will try to remember to pester you to let us know how you get on!

xxx

 

[JoAnn&Aimee]

Your mum must have spotted the stains at some point. All I can advise is that you have a word with her about it.

I saw the Eeyore Moses Basket a while ago and really wanted it but the stores in my area doesn't stock it. It isn't to everyones taste but I found it to be adorable!

 

[MagicMarkers]

Gosh, this "friend" of your mum sounds like a right tight old sod, what a rip off !!

So. . . the plans we pester you... to pester her to get the money back !!
Got it !! Good luck for tomorrow, you tell her !!!!

 

[sarafet]

phone your mum and explain hun, you'll feel better afterwards

at least this way you can choose the moses basket you want

 

[Miss.Monroe]

just phoned OH and told him the plans too. and he said well if she kicks up a fuss about it tell her to f*ck off! lol i dont think ill do that! lol

im going to check it again tomorow, to make sure i havent gone mad and the stains are really there before i phone her. ill post pictures of it too. and you let me know if you would have your LO's sleeping in it!

i think she thought it was a good bargain to be honest. but eww

im guessing that she will take it as im being ungreatful for what shes done for me, but in reality i want her to get her money back (or ill get it back for her!) im always taking stuff back to the shops! infact i have three tops to return to H&M that i dont want!

we shall see. thank you all for your replies and ill be sure to post an update.

 

[lfc_sarah]

I wouldnt put my baby into anything i wasnt confortable with

Hope you sort it out xx

 

[Suzie and Faith]

Your mum must have spotted the stains at some point. All I can advise is that you have a word with her about it.

I saw the Eeyore Moses Basket a while ago and really wanted it but the stores in my area doesn't stock it. It isn't to everyones taste but I found it to be adorable!

hehe, i do think it's cute! But all our baby stuff is cream so it wouldn't go! Lol. it is lovely and girly! I didn't check to see whether they had it round my way or not!

 

[Quill]

I think it's recommended that you use a new mattress with a newborn, isn't it? So maybe that would be a good polite way of saying "thanks, but no thanks?"

 

[soverign]

Hi hun. I don't know if it would be worth getting a new mattress for it? Theres a seller on ebay that sells the PVC ones for £1.99. I got mine from there because mine came with a foam one. Let me know if you are interested and I will PM you the link!

 

[Rosie1]

I had exactly the same situation. My mum bought me a moses basket from a charity shop, that was also lilac, but this time with giraffes on it!

I really hated it. I kept quiet for a few weeks, as i thought i'd sound ungrateful, but in the end i had to say something.

I told my mum that i thought it best if she keep the basket at her house, as baby will need somewhere to sleep on the days i am over with her, and i would get a new one for our house. I did also admit that i didn't like the colour. She was actually really good about it, although i did feel terrible for days! To make it worse she then went out and paid £75 for a lollipop lane one i really love. Talk about guilt trip!

I think you should say something, as if you're anything like me you will want everything to be perfect for your baby, and a stained matress that you're not happy about will probably really eat away at you. I'm sure your mum will understand.

x

 

[sarah2807]

Sounds like a good plan hun. Let us know how it goes. I hope your mum isn't too offended.

It's definately reccommended that if you have a second had moses basket/cot you replace the matress with a new one as there are links between second hand matresses and cot death. It actually says on the instructions of my new moses basket 'replace matress if you use the basket for a different baby'

Good luck chick!

 

[Miss.Monroe]

Well i phoned her and said ive had a look at it and theres stains on it. and that the woman had a cheek to sell it to her for 20 quid. she said oh if i had seen the stains i would have put it through the washing machine before i gave it to you.

i said well if you give me her number i dont mind calling her and saying im not happy with it. i said new matresses cost 10.99 and you can get a whole new moses basket from argo for 19.89 with blankets new matress and everything. she went a bit quite and i felt bad!

i said i would have been embarased to sell it to anyone like that! she said it looks new so just wash it and it should be fine. She said she didnt mind paying 20 for it because the basket is a proper wicker one not a flimsey material one like most wicker baskets if you get me? hard to explain its like a conservatory chair material? if that makes sense.

anyway her idea was just wash it, it will be fine. well it wont because i dont want it, dont like it and sophie is not sleeping on it!

My OH mum has been buying stuff for Sophie but refuses to tell us what shes got. for god sake. im struggling with money as it is to pay my loan every month and get things for the baby.Im selling most of my stuff on ebay! without her being awkward too.

And my OH said shes bought a cot! but wont let us see it. what a thing to buy without our knowledge. i always though buying a cot was personal to the parents. Why didnt she sit down with us and ask what other people are buying for us and what we actually need!

Now i dont have a clue what we have and dont have and what we need to get.why are other people choosing personal items for our baby? i want to be able to make choices over the things Sophie has. im so p*ssed off grrrr

 

[Mrs_Jay]

i dont like the look of it so i wudnt use it cant believe ur OH's mum has bought a cot without you even knowing what its like . my OH's parents bought our cot too but we picked it out etc. prehaps u can try and explain to her that u need to know so you know what else u need to buy?