What will you do before....

[JJ Mum]

Hi girls,

What is it that you want to acomplish or achieve before you try for a baby?

Is there anyone willing to tell us their WWT story?

Who is....

Studying or finishing a course or degree ?
Waiting till current baby/ child reaches a certain age?
Moving house?
Saving for baby, a car or something else?
Getting a job or new job
Waiting for a period after contraception
Waiting till you have been in your current job longer?
Getting married
Healing your heart after miscarridge?
Saving for IVF?
Waiting to meet the man/ lady of your dreams?
Other reason?

 

[Cyberkitten79]

Hi,
I'm WTT. Had my implant removed 7 days ago, and I think we are going to wait about 6 months. Our reasons are that I haven't had a period for 10 years (been on depo for 6 years and implant for 4 years) so we want to give my body a chance to get back into a regular cycle for a few months.
And I'm currently on a temporary promotion at work and I won't know if the position will be funded permanently until July so we want to wait and see what is happening with my job. If it doesn't become permanent I then have a really tough decision to make - I can either drop a grade back into a secure job that I don't enjoy (the position is being held open for me until July) or I can take a risk and take a temporary extension in my current promotion but i'll lose the security of a permanent job, and my hubby will not take the risk of TTC while ever I don't have a secure job.

It's very stressful as i'm 31 this year and never tried for children before so aware of the ticking clock but also aware that by dropping back a grade I may close doors for a career.

 

[JJ Mum]

Thanks for sharing Cyber Kitten

You have alot of descisions to make, but at least you have till near July time to decide x

 

[Princess81]

Waiting til O/h gets back from Afghanistan. I was waiting to pass my probationary period at work, but achieved that now so just waiting on the daddy

 

[JJ Mum]

Thanks for sharing Princess, blimey missing OH could be a slight problem, does he have a set date for getting back that you can work towards, or does it depend on how things go over there?, sorry no idea about the services?

 

[Princess81]

He's got a break in Mid august then his tour ends in Mid Oct, so I'll be waiting a while. Gives me a chance to get my hormones back into gear though. Stopped pill in Jan and still no AF.

 

[JJ Mum]

well fingers crossed his mid august break coinsides with lucky old ovulation time!!! tee heee

 

[serenitylove]

mine is past tense but i had to wait nearly 2 yrs because i had to loose weight i was over 25st 2yrs ago had a gastric band worked like buggery and dropped just under 8 stone to be given a little help from gp to concieve i also wanted to stop smoking befor ttc which i did it was heartbreaking aiting at times but was worth it for better health

 

[JJ Mum]

OMG Serenity 8 stone weight loss!!!!! Wow your'e good- welldone bet your daughters well proud of you! no wonder you got pregnant !!!

Thanks for sharing

 

[mrsH2009]

We are not trying not preventing at the moment it was mainly initally due to going away but we nowhave two terminal family members so don't feel adding to the stress will help! But will give us something to focus on in the future

 

[PippaJ]

We need to move house first. We're not happy living where we do so we've a house to sell first. If that takes a long time (please god be quick) then we will start trying while still here. Just means we'll have to move with two little ones (hopefully anyway) xx

But the plan is to be settled in nice new house and start trying in about 12 months

 

[JJ Mum]

lovely Pippa, thanks for sharing

A house move, thats what I want! will you be moving to change the house , to get a bigger house or to move to a different area, will it be far from where you are now, so a big move?

You will have to have a cast iron will to be on here talking to us lot for 12 mths and stop yourself trying!!!! ha

 

[PippaJ]

We want to move back closer to my family (about 17 miles from where we live now). It's a much nicer area and has good schools etc for Evie. Where we live now is ok but we don't want Evie in the school system here as it isn't that great.

What about you? How come you want to move too?

As for the cast iron will, man you are soooo right. Cracking already tbh. The next 12 months will be really hard as we so want another one (we were sat discussing names again earlier) but we've gotta get the house sorted for the little ones first xx

 

[JJ Mum]

Ha I knew it! Your never going to last 12 mths without wanting a new

We have a three bed house , areas ok, good school very close, senior school being built for my kids unfortunately soo close behind my house, well two rows of houses and then the school, unfortunately it's all I can see from my bedroom window, but it's dead modern and my eldest is 11 and will start in sept when they open it so that's great for him. thats why we want to stay very close by. We saw a 4 bed house only 25K more than this one, down the road , quieter bit of the estate as I am on the main stagger back from town street on a sat night! But the house sold sooo quickly because of the new school! We had not finished the DIY yet, 72 jobs to do left so may take a while.

Because of the age gap boys 11 and 9 and girl 8, this baby would be better in own room,even if a box room, as it would keep the others up and they have school work to do and need their sleep. I am not sure my daughter would want to share her small room with a 8 year old at age 15!! Nor the boys share 3 to a room, but I don't want to strap us up with morgage just for one box room if we don't have too. Be nice to have a garage or side access or a better blayout or downstairs loo, so I will keep looking. worst case the bby could stay in with us for two years ish, but not great for relationship or my lack of bedroom space (we have the second sized room)

good luck holding off the TTC urges!!! I have two 13 mths apart and it's really nice!!!

 

[PippaJ]

Yep you're so right it'll take everything we've got not to start so we'll see how long we last. I know if we do conceive again while living here then we'll prob end up staying here as it's a 3 bed house and I really don't want to stay here, so it's the only thing stopping me from going for it!!

I'm also with you on the DIY stuff - we've got stuff to do here before it can go on the market but hopefully it wont take too long.

You have a good reason to move too then! You all defo need your own space, very important. Lots of luck with the DIY and the move, keep me updated xx

 

[PinkPunch]

We decided to try in June when our wee one will be a year old but if I have my way, it will be sooner!

 

[Loobie99]

I am waiting until i get the all clear in July from my oncologyst. I was diagnosed with breat cancer in aug o8, so had to wait to go through treatment, and then have a few month break before we could try.

In the meantime i am taking a multivitamin and mineral, eating healthily, trying to lose a bit of weight and cutting down on alcohol...

Good luck to you all.....

 

[DubstepDaniix]

Im WTT also, i love a good story..so ill tell mine.

Ive been pretty much waiting to try since starting college at 16 but i knew if i got pregnant at that age my mum would go apesh*t, ive always wanted children and the thought of carrying twins excites me as my grandmother carried two sets at each pregnancy, she had 6 altogether but 4 only survived, it skipped my mother so i should be next in line. and im excited to find out if the twin fever will hit me lol!.

Since im still in education, for another 2 months and me and my current boyfriend haven't been together for long (nearly 2 months) so im hoping this relationship wont be like the rest and be failures, moneys pretty tight, and the house where i live with my parents doesnt have much room for a baby or two if im lucky haha!.

Sorry about the essay, i write too much

 

[JJ Mum]

Some lovely WTT story's on here girls, thanks lots for sharing - keep them coming ...........

Pippa , hope your family situation is doing ok? (I had missed your post the other day)

Great recovery Loobie, it must have been a very hard few years for you.

 

[ceciliab01]

I studied part-time through my pregnancy and with a baby. I graduated when my daughter was 4. Plenty of women launch small businesses with babies in arms. If you are committed to your goals you can achieve anything.