what is she trying to tell us?

[trixipaws]

melissa has become a bit of a diva over the last week or 2, crying sometimes relentlessly. at first i thought it was early teething as she bites her fist and dribbles. my friend suggested colic as its only really the evenings shes grumpy and she does stiffen her body. or is she trying to tell us she wants an earlier bed time? normally she goes to bed with us at around midnite.

she was a very good baby up until now! anyone else hit a problem like this at around 3 months? what is it and how can i help her?

at the moment there are only 2 ways to soothe her- standing up holding her over my shoulder and bouncing her (but not sitting down for some reason! this gives me backache after awhile), and feeding (a bit tough on my nipples after awhile!)
i need a new strategy!

 

[Emmylou]

I should amybe try putting her to bed earlier, she probably is getting tired and wanting to settle down for the night....might be worth a try at least.
Set her a mini routine (bath/ hair wash & top & tail) and then feed & sleep....might take a week or so for her to take to it......but Libby hasn't been like this since I started putting her to bed with a routine.

The best advice I got as from on here, start with a routine at say 11.30pm, then bring it forward by half an hour each night until you get to a time that works for you & millie.

Worth a try?

Hugs for you its hard when they cry relelntlessly isn't it hun

 

[cloud9]

I've heard Colic is worse in the evenings..I have nothing more than Em to advise..

I only had one evening like that with D and a tried for hours to soothe him then i out him on the floor to change his bum he saw TV was on and clamed down but then thats my boy

for you

 

[Flame]

Leif has started getting really mardy in the evenings to, nothing settles him.

I know its not helpful but just letting you know your not on your own

 

[Redshoes]

Isaac does this daily, and has done since being about a month old, and I think with him it's simply because he gets over stimulated, he's so very nosey and also because he's over tired, he hardly sleeps through the day, though not through lack of us trying to help him.

I would agree with what EmmyLou has said, also, if she gets to a point where she's very upset, open it and stand at your front door, the breeze will shush her so she can have a breather, and so you can too I find with Isaac now that he has a cry, then I lay in bed with him and he has a bit of both boobs, then he falls asleep or gets very sleepy, and I move him into his cot and he'll either sleep instantly or watch his night light music toy until he drifts off.

Hope you find a routine that works for you both soon

 

[Fiona]

perhaps she is getting over tired. Grace is usually in bed by 6.30 pm but if for some reason we are running late she really gets ratty and upset and nothing settles her except to be in her bed.
might be worth trying getting her into an earlier routine

 

[missac]

Trix, I used to have nightmare evenings where nothing would help and it turned out he was just so tired, they don't understand that the feeling of tired will go away if they fall asleep, we started putting him to bed, first at 8 then we gradually moved this time and now he goes to asleep at 6:30, it takes a while to establish but he eas so much happier in the day and night as he was getting the right amount of sleep.

You might spend the first few nights running up and down the stairs but it is well worth it as you have a happy baby and an evening just for you!

 

[Tangerinedream]

We are in a mini routine with jake, he has a bath (we use that bedtime bath stuff) a feed and if he still isnt asleep i read to him which does the trick. I dim the lights in the bedroom too. We do this at around 10 pm. I dont know if it is our routine but he always falls to sleep without a fuss and 9 times out of 10 he will sleep right through until about 5.30/6 am (when OH has to get up for work anyway). As he gets older we will start to do this earlier in the evening.

I know Millie is a bit older and Jake may well begin to do this in the coming months but I like to believe that it is the routine that does it.

hope she begins to settle soon hun

 

[suzy100]

my HV told me that they usually get a bit mardy in the evenings is because of the change in the air, night time air drawing in can give them gripey feelings (or sommin like that)
i thought she was talking utter codswallop but as time has gone on, this is the only time maisy gets grouchy for no reason so maybe she is right.
she also said research has prooved this. has anyone else heard of this?
(i agree, think midnight is a bit late, maisy goes to bed about 7.30 and wakes at 4.30 for a bottle then dont hear from her again till morning)