What is happeing to me?!

[Annie050408]

I have begun to feel so down and so clingy to my husband

I feel a bit silly about the whole thing but I feel like I have nothing to look forward to until October and I just want to sleep until then because my body is aching so much and I don't feel I want to go our for very long periods of time. DH is just carrying on with his life as normal which is of course the proper thing to do but I keep feeling upset that he is leaving me alone - it's so stupid!

I am perfectly aware that all this is because I just don't have enough going on in my life at the moment being on school summer holidays but I'm struggling to pull myself out of this.

I am going to meet a friend for coffee and go and get some art materials and try to get creative to entertain myself. I just don't want to be by myself for long periods of time that's all.

Anyone else feel like this?

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

it's completely normal Hun! It's those bloody hormones to blame! Big tho xx

 

[titch]

Im really clingy to my OH too. I was crying on his shoulder yesterday saying "you dont love me anymore, Im boring now!" poor guy didnt know what to do to calm me down. I knew it was totally irrational, but I couldnt help it. I think its natural to feel more clingy, we're going to need our OHs more than ever through the last part of pregnancy, the birthing and when the baby is newborn. Just cling away and cry all you need to. Your due date will come round so quickly youll be shocked

 

[Annie050408]

I should say I am NEVER normally like this(- not the clingy part -I can be a bit clingy to him generally because I love being with him )but in terms of feeling down, almost to the point of wondering am I a bit depressed. I have never had feelings like this before so am assuming it has to be the hormones.

 

[berit87]

Annie I know 100% exactly how you feel. I have been exactly the same for some time now... I feel so down and depressed... OH goes out and drinks and socialises like normal (which is fine. I mean I say yes of course you can go but then when he does go I feel really upset and jealous) I feel so stupid and lonely. He doesn't even go out that much, stays in with me most of the time. I just feel like there is no point me going out as I am pregnant and I do not feel like doing anything or seeing anyone and it gets me down even more. I so cannot wait to get this pregnancy over and done with, yes, there will be more work but at least I will more myself in my own body and I won't feel I have as many restrictions...
Hope it's gonna be ok for you soon honey xx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

If it's getting really bad Hun, give your mw a bell, theyl have seen it with like thousands, well, maybe hundreds of women! Also see if your local surestart or somewhere has a mums to be group! It's good sometimes just to have a coffee and chat with people in the same boat! I did a cross stitch in the weeks leading up to k being born and it really helped take my mind off everything!

 

[flexilexi394]

well on the bright side you havent got that long to go! i guess distracting yourself is the best option, maybe you are a little depressed, i guess thats quite normal, i feel quite down sometimes and feel the only person i can talk to is OH. i hope your ok, its good that you feel extra close to him because i bet he feels very loved! i would just have a really good chat with him and tell him how i feel. sorry to poke my nose in, hope it kinda helps :s xxx

 

[Tasha89]

I'm really clingy to my OH - I don't want him to go ANYWHERE unless he has to! Work is the only exception! lol

 

[Yodabo]

I'm feeling the same Annie. I feel like I got nothing to look forward to apart from meeting my little fella. Hubby don't go out much but when he does I feel so left out and alone.. I feel bad that I give him a hard time. It feels like he has more of a life than me sometimes and I'm so jealous! I just can't be bothered to do anything either. I could quite happily lie down all day and do nothing.. Energy is zilch!

Ah well, our little babies will be here before we know it and we'll be right as rain!

 

[Annie050408]

It's a shame we don't all live locally - we could all get together and entertain each other! Lol

 

[isobel84]

i cant think of last time OH went out with his mates, im not the jelous type really but on saturday, he went out with his mates and i was IN BITS! i txt him before he left and asked if he really loves me! Then i txt him and said to let me know when he got in (we dont live together) and then he txt me 4.40 in the morning saying night, i called him up! just to make sure he was accually home????!!
Embarresing. luckly he took it well and just keept telling me how much he loved me.
its so silly, cuz i trust him. oo well..

i think tho to speak to your MW if you feel that its hard to cope. and i agree, it would have been easier if we all was just neighbours and i could pop around for a cuppa!

 

[Spuggy]

I am feeling the same. I went to Aquanatal this morning and when I got home I had a cry about everything and nothing on my husbands shoulder. As I am not working at the moment I do find it difficult as you think about the future alot and I have started to get worried about the birth and how my life is going to change very soon. Think this is all very normal. I am clingy too.

We need something to take our minds off it all. Plan, plan plan. xx

 

[Annie050408]

Well I went to see my friend for coffee and then have spent the rest of the afternoon painting some canvases to decorate the kitchen and watching a film - I feel so much better for having sat and concentrated on something

 

[Annie050408]

Am such a silly old thing!

 

[isobel84]

yeah you are, but you are aloud to be

 

[tinkerbell86]

Yep i've had this too - i've found i'm very protective and ready for an arguement if anything buggers up our plans or winds us up!!!

People keep telling me to relax and not worry but i find things very hard to forget!!

 

[Josie TB]

I'm sure it's a hormone thing. I fluctuate between a blubbering wreck who can't see beyond making tea for my little girl and OH and an over excited supermum.

When I'm feeling down I look at my little girl and try and remember the feeling of elation I had when she was born. I then look at my bump and envisage how I'll feel when number two is born; how I'll feel when I'm looking at him/her in my arms.

I also talk to my OH a lot; I find reminiscing about the good times we've had together really helps. It might not work for everyone but it works for me.

 

[Josie TB]

i cant think of last time OH went out with his mates, im not the jelous type really but on saturday, he went out with his mates and i was IN BITS! i txt him before he left and asked if he really loves me! Then i txt him and said to let me know when he got in (we dont live together) and then he txt me 4.40 in the morning saying night, i called him up! just to make sure he was accually home????!!
Embarresing. luckly he took it well and just keept telling me how much he loved me.
its so silly, cuz i trust him. oo well..

i think tho to speak to your MW if you feel that its hard to cope. and i agree, it would have been easier if we all was just neighbours and i could pop around for a cuppa!

Hi hun - I've just your post and cried! Not living with your OH must be really , really, difficult - I hope you don't mind me asking but do you live with someone close to you?

 

[isobel84]

i cant think of last time OH went out with his mates, im not the jelous type really but on saturday, he went out with his mates and i was IN BITS! i txt him before he left and asked if he really loves me! Then i txt him and said to let me know when he got in (we dont live together) and then he txt me 4.40 in the morning saying night, i called him up! just to make sure he was accually home????!!
Embarresing. luckly he took it well and just keept telling me how much he loved me.
its so silly, cuz i trust him. oo well..

i think tho to speak to your MW if you feel that its hard to cope. and i agree, it would have been easier if we all was just neighbours and i could pop around for a cuppa!

Hi hun - I've just your post and cried! Not living with your OH must be really , really, difficult - I hope you don't mind me asking but do you live with someone close to you?

No im on my own, family in sweden! But OH is here alot. And the reason why we dont live togheter at the moment is his contract runs out in october and he lives about 30 min away so when he is here he got a long way to work.. But he will move in when we have 4 weeks to duedate Noa was very unplanned so we have to do the best we can with what we got!
Paying out for 2 rents when we need money is the hardest bit i would say.