Was told there was no heartbeat

[babystar]

I went for my 12 week scan yesterday and was told there was no heartbeat, the baby died at 8 weeks, now i'm having something like a D &C a week today.

 

[Esoames]

I'm so sorry xxxx


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[Corrinne37]

a week today?
thats disgusting can you not bring it forward.
i felt that i just wanted the baby removed so i could start to get back to normal and get over it,
i was in the next day.
why a weeks wait? xx

 

[laurat]

Oh honey, Im so sorry! Take care of yourself!

 

[babystar]

Hi Corrinne37
The hosiptal said that was the earlist appointment they had, but i know what you mean as it's just so hard knowing that you have a dead baby inside you, but they said yesterday that the i would have been 12 weeks yesterday. Me and OH are devasted but we've decided that we are going to TTC again as soon as possible, i cant stop crying and just keep thinking that it's my fault and was there something different i could have done.

 

[Hope81]

It's certainly not your fault. so sorry for your loss

 

[DaisyPurple]

I'm so sorry xxx

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[Corrinne37]

Hi Corrinne37
The hosiptal said that was the earlist appointment they had, but i know what you mean as it's just so hard knowing that you have a dead baby inside you, but they said yesterday that the i would have been 12 weeks yesterday. Me and OH are devasted but we've decided that we are going to TTC again as soon as possible, i cant stop crying and just keep thinking that it's my fault and was there something different i could have done.

Push them to bring it forward - i think thats really terrible making you wait a week.!!!

 

[cosmicgirl]

So sorry x

 

[jomc]

Oh hun Im sorry. Take care of urself xxxx

 

[abbyw]

Hey sweetie, I'm so sorry for your loss. I was told on Monday I have miscarried (am 8 weeks) and am having to wait until next Thursday for my appointment so totally understand how you feel. It's a horrible feeling I just want it dealt with too......Have you been given time off work?? Such a stressful time honey - great big hugs. PM if you need to talk xxxxxx

 

[babystar]

Hi Abbyw
I'm also sorry for your loss, i know it's horrible. I dont work, are you going to TTC again or wait a while?
Me and OH are going to TTC again as soon as possible.

 

[abbyw]

Well, it's been a bit of a rollercoaster for us as we weren't TTC and I feel pg on the pill, but we were still excited when we started to think about it - we were planning on waiting a little bit longer before trying for a family but who knows now this has happened. Was a shock to the system to find out we were expecting, bigger shock to find out we had lost the little one. Keep asking myself if it was because we weren't trying so we weren't taking good care of ourselves etc., plus did the pill have an effect etc. - the doc has assured me it is just one of those things as it was a blighted ovum - nothing we could have done - still makes you feel awful

But hey ho - onwards and upwards - these things are sent to try us, right? I have taken a lot of comfort in just knowing how common m/c is. Practically all of my friends who have had babies have experienced at least one at some stage or another - it seems crazy, but nature knows best I guess. Most women will go on to have happy, healthy little ones so although it feels like crap right now, our time will come xxx

 

[babystar]

I keep thinking was there something different i could of done but i know deep down it was just one of those things, people have told me not to blame myself but you just cant help it.

 

[abbyw]

The way I am looking at it is that there's nothing we can do about it now, and nature decided - for whatever reason - that that little baby wasn't quite ready for the world....... it's hard, and horrible, and you must be so raw with the news - wish none of us had to feel like that Big hugs x

 

[babystar]

Thanx Abbyw
I know your right and that's the way i'm going to look at it now.
Big hugs to you too. xx

 

[LoopyLouize]

I'm so sorry xx


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[kanga86]

So sorry for ur loss Hun, big hugs xx

 

[dyscochick]

SO soo sorry for your loss, please don't tear yourself up thinking about what you did or didn't do. its natural but try not too, the awful sad fact is that this happens so often. The same thing happened to me 6 weeks ago. It was going to take 2 weeks for me get a D&C so I went for a medical. Do push for them to make it earlier, people often cancel surgerys so see if you can get them to call you. big hugs, so sorry both you and abbyw are in awful positions with this waiting gam.

 

[babystar]

I'm sorry to hear that it happened to you Dyschochick, i know it's horrible and just want to be able to get on with TTC again.