Visiting family members.

[NIE]

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[mary70]

i am lucky (or unlucky sometimes) both sets of grandparents live within 5 mins walking distance and they see them every day

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

my mum and dad see Bray every day or every other day

 

[mrs_tommo22]

My mill sees her grandkids once a week an they all know her including my baby x were too busy to go over there every other day!

 

[SweetAtHeart12]

My dad sees Maisy every other day and my Bf parents see her at the weekends as they live an hour and a half away.

 

[Tori]

My mum n dad see Leah everyday cos mum helps me with the nursery run. Robs parents see her mayb every other weekend, maybe once a month. depends really

 

[lauramumof2]

my mum and dad have the kids when I am at work part time so sometimes t can be at least twice a week.

With dh's mum and dad its less, they stay relatively close but since having Joe I feel they are a bit stranger, maybe older but I dont feel as comfortable over there as I feel on edge with what the kids are doing.

 

[Xena]

My mam sees the kids about 3 times a week. She lives about 10 mins drive away.

My MIL sees the kids about once a fortnight. She lives about 50 mins drive away.

My dad and my step-mother see the kids about once a month. They live about 30 mins drive away.

 

[Lola's Mummy]

I see my mam and my sister most days but hardly ever see my dad because we have normally come home before he gets in from work. My parents live about 5-10 mins drive away. I don't mine going though as my sister has a little boy 1 week older than Lola and they love playing together!

OH's dad normally comes for an hour on a Saturday but i don't really like LO seeing him (long story) so will take her upstairs for a nap before he comes She has only seen his wife once because i can't stand her

We normally go to see OH's Mum and her husband on a sunday. They live about 20 mins drive away. We also try and see her great grandparents every other weekend as well. One set lives 5 mins drive and the other is about 20 mins drive.

It really annoys me though that we have to use all our weekends running around visiting them. They can all drive but can't be bothered to drive to our house but moan if we do something else instead of visiting them

 

[Melanie]

Thea has my dad more than any of her other Grandparents (including my mam) because he has made the effort to come here and visit us. She has seen Richards parents and my mam 5 times in 16 months because they live in England and we live i Hungary.

I've made sure she knows them, she talks to my mam on the phone (her other grandparents think thats silly ) and we show her photos, she can tell you that its granny etc in the picture now.

I dont think you should have to made to feel gulity, she see's her once a week, there are thousands of grandparents all over the country who would give anything for that!

 

[heles7]

Does your MIL not drive? Can she not throw in the odd visit to come to you, save you n the journey time at least?

My mum will be about 20 drive away when I finally move and bubs arrives and I anticipate that she'll be around more often than once a week, at least while he's little even if visits aren't very long.

For OH's parents, we will probably go to them once a fortnight but will spend best part of the day with them.

My dad lives overseas and will probably see him twice a year at most. He knows my feelings on his living overseas but that's his choice if his grandchildren grow up not knowing him.

 

[leckershell]

we live in the midlands.

MIL - one evening every 6 weeks, she lives in scotland.
FIL - seen twice since ryan was born, lives 10 minutes drive away.
my mum - about once a month, she lives an hour away.
my dad - seen once since ryan was born, lived an hour away but just moved down south so no idea when we will next see them.

none of the other relatives have come over to see us.

 

[newmum]

My in-laws have been to our house once in the 3 years we have lived here and don't see LO unless we go there. They live 20 mins away! I usually have to go and see them every couple of weeks otherwise they start moaning. But they won't come here.

 

[elaine22]

Mine and OH parents see LO every few months or so. We live in Leicester and they live in Sussex and Suffolk so its a good couple of hours drive. I went to see my mum last week for the first time since xmas and LO took to her straightaway thankfully.

 

[Penstraze]

This annoys me when people moan about not getting to see you much and never make the effort to visit you themselves!
I don't have any children yet but have one on the way and at the moment I make all trips to see my Mum and her family its very rare for her to come to me, my Dad is beter now he has moved further up country he will come and stay and we try and take it in turns which is only fair but once the baby is here and money is tighter I'm not going to be able to aford the £60+ it costs me in fuel to go up and see them so they're going to have to start coming to me or not see the baby which makes me sad!
It was my choice to move down here but they have since moved further up country so it can't all be blamed on me although last time I said anything to my Mum she said I chose to move here so can't moan about feeling neglected but living down here doesn't mean she can't pick up the phone and when I lived 10/20 mins down the road and had no car I still had to get the bus to visit them because they didn't visit me!

DH's parents live just down the road and although its always us that goes to their house its more because its bigger and more conveinent and I know at least our baby will have lots of interaction with one sets of grandparents at least

 

[Emma58]

My parents see George once a week if they are not busy and neither am I at weekends. But some times it can be weeks and weeks we live about 10miles apart from each other so it can be difficult to see them.

 

[NIE]

Thanks for the replies girls.


xxx

 

[sazzylou]

my mum makes the effort to come and visit Beth about 3 times a week after school. I wouldnt want her to come any more often TBH cos my mum can get a bit clingy and wants to come everyday which is a bit much, bless her, but 3 times a week is cool 8) She lives about 10 mins drive away and works in the area, so its easy for her.

MIL and FIL on the other hand ..... They only live 5 mins drive away (its literally up the road) theyre both retired so could come round whenever they like, but they only see her once every couple of weeks, and we have to take her round there or they start moaning. Now just cos ive said theyre retired, please dont imagine some doddery old couple. Theyre loaded, which is why theyre both retired, and they go on holiddays to egypt and Gambia at least 4 - 5 times a year, but they cant be arsed to get in the car and come and see Beth when she finishes school. My MIL then starts moaning at me, even though ive told her we dont visit ANYONE at the weekends. The weekends are for us, as its the only time we can be all together. I find them so annoying. They live right next to a petting zoo, a park and a big indoor play centre thingy, but its like they'll only see her if she goes round there (and half the time she doesnt want to cos she finds it boring ) sorry....that turned into a bit of a rant

 

[NIE]

my mum makes the effort to come and visit Beth about 3 times a week after school. I wouldnt want her to come any more often TBH cos my mum can get a bit clingy and wants to come everyday which is a bit much, bless her, but 3 times a week is cool 8) She lives about 10 mins drive away and works in the area, so its easy for her.

MIL and FIL on the other hand ..... They only live 5 mins drive away (its literally up the road) theyre both retired so could come round whenever they like, but they only see her once every couple of weeks, and we have to take her round there or they start moaning. Now just cos ive said theyre retired, please dont imagine some doddery old couple. Theyre loaded, which is why theyre both retired, and they go on holiddays to egypt and Gambia at least 4 - 5 times a year, but they cant be arsed to get in the car and come and see Beth when she finishes school. My MIL then starts moaning at me, even though ive told her we dont visit ANYONE at the weekends. The weekends are for us, as its the only time we can be all together. I find them so annoying. They live right next to a petting zoo, a park and a big indoor play centre thingy, but its like they'll only see her if she goes round there (and half the time she doesnt want to cos she finds it boring ) sorry....that turned into a bit of a rant

I know how you feel about wanting to spend time together as a family at the weekends. It's important and sometimes I think people forget how busy we can be. xxx

 

[Urchin]

Why can't your MIL come round to you to visit?
Once a week isn't bad at all and nothing to moan about. My MIL lives in South Africa and sees my kids once a year max.
My mom lives 5 mins away so sees them about 3 times a week.