markusproducer
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Hello everyone has thank you if your reading this. Could do with some support.
My now EX partner and I were expecting out first child together and being in a relationship with her for over 4 years you think everything was going well. I was at work till 8PM and got a call from a neighbour who said she saw my partner with a suitcase going into someone's car. Now my initial reply was "It must be someone else". It was dark but the neighbour pointed out that he was 100% sure it was her so I decided to call home. There was no reply and immediately my instincts kicked in and I told work I had a family emergency and had to leave work early. I got to the house and the lights were off, my heart was beginning to sink and mind going into over drive. I opened the door and ran straight into out bedroom.. Her wardrobe was empty. I called he on her phone and it went to voice mail. I them contacted her mother who I rarely had contact with but being It was my partners mum i thought she may know where she is. She told me that her daughter discussed with me that a trial seperation was agreed between us both and I know about this. My reply was of shock. I had absolutely no idea about this or her feelings. I then asked her mum if she know who the person was that picked her up. Her reply was it was a friend. Now it was a food two days till I heard from my partner and when I did she told me that she was unfaithful in the relationship and the child was not in fact mine but that "friend" that picked her up that night. Things started to make sense. As fair as I was aware things were fine. Obviously hormones go wild whilst pregnant and and I was supporting and understanding of that. I worked like crazy to get money for out first child's arrival and to be told I was not the father killed me. I started taking time off work due to depression and started binge drinking. I demanded a paternity test to 100% make sure and it confirm worst fears. I was not the father. I wanted to know why she behaved in such a disgraceful manner. Her reply was I was never there enough and I worked too hard and didn't give her enough attention . Aren't fathers supposed to provide and work hard for there family? I was a gentleman and loyal partner to her. I broke my heart and still kills me. Things have slowly healed for me and have accepted this now. I can imagine how hard it must be for a single mother or mother to be. I would wish it on anyone. I love to hear back from females and Males if this has happened to them or anything similar.
My now EX partner and I were expecting out first child together and being in a relationship with her for over 4 years you think everything was going well. I was at work till 8PM and got a call from a neighbour who said she saw my partner with a suitcase going into someone's car. Now my initial reply was "It must be someone else". It was dark but the neighbour pointed out that he was 100% sure it was her so I decided to call home. There was no reply and immediately my instincts kicked in and I told work I had a family emergency and had to leave work early. I got to the house and the lights were off, my heart was beginning to sink and mind going into over drive. I opened the door and ran straight into out bedroom.. Her wardrobe was empty. I called he on her phone and it went to voice mail. I them contacted her mother who I rarely had contact with but being It was my partners mum i thought she may know where she is. She told me that her daughter discussed with me that a trial seperation was agreed between us both and I know about this. My reply was of shock. I had absolutely no idea about this or her feelings. I then asked her mum if she know who the person was that picked her up. Her reply was it was a friend. Now it was a food two days till I heard from my partner and when I did she told me that she was unfaithful in the relationship and the child was not in fact mine but that "friend" that picked her up that night. Things started to make sense. As fair as I was aware things were fine. Obviously hormones go wild whilst pregnant and and I was supporting and understanding of that. I worked like crazy to get money for out first child's arrival and to be told I was not the father killed me. I started taking time off work due to depression and started binge drinking. I demanded a paternity test to 100% make sure and it confirm worst fears. I was not the father. I wanted to know why she behaved in such a disgraceful manner. Her reply was I was never there enough and I worked too hard and didn't give her enough attention . Aren't fathers supposed to provide and work hard for there family? I was a gentleman and loyal partner to her. I broke my heart and still kills me. Things have slowly healed for me and have accepted this now. I can imagine how hard it must be for a single mother or mother to be. I would wish it on anyone. I love to hear back from females and Males if this has happened to them or anything similar.
