URGENT ADVICE NEEDED!! - ***ANOTHER UPDATE***

[SarahH]

I really don't know what to do.

My SIL just called, she has two boys, one aged 5yrs and another aged 10yrs. The 5yr old has just came out and said "you know that man that babysat us... he tried to put his toodle in my mouth, but *** (elder son) stopped him".

My SIL called in tears and doesnt know what to do as the man in question is the neighbour from across the streets son. I told her to speak to her eldest son as he is bright for his age.... he eventually told her (after reminding him that it wasnt him that was in trouble) that he was in his own bedroom and heard his brother crying went through and saw the guy with his zip down and his little brother screaming... he said that he started throwing toys at the man to stop and when he went downstairs again he took his brother into my SIL bedroom and locked the door.

I've told her to call the police or someone as he does do alot of babysitting and it could be happening to others, but she is scared to with them being neoghbours and says she should just make sure that that family never baby sit for them again. My SIL has known the family since the boy was 8yrs old and he is now 17yrs.

Should I call about it? I can't stand the thought of this happening to others.

 

[jenna]

you should call the police!!
Other kids might not be brave enough to tell there parents!!

 

[happy-chick]

Aww how awful, thats so terrible.

I would call the police hun, what if this is happening to lots of other kids out there, this evil b*astard need to be stopped and something done about it.

I dont really know what else to say!

 

[SarahH]

Thats what I thought.

The thing thats worrying my SIL is that she asked him to watch one of them last week to take the others to the doctors and he said yes but his mum said no straight away and said she would do it - do you think the mum knows?!?!?

 

[jools221181]

I'm so sorry to hear this
I would call definately. He can't get away with it. Or keep getting away with it either.

 

[Misslarue]

CALL THE POLICE. No question.
I would also want my own 'justice'.............but it's unprintable on this forum.

How old is he?

 

[MissGobby]

OMG what a t*sser phone the police Sarah straight away!!!!!!

he may be doing it to other kids, sick, twisted b*stard!!!!!!!!

im soo sorry hunni

 

[Minime]

I'm a social worker hunny, call the police or social services immediately. Sod the fact they're neighbours, theres little kids involved. Do it now! They have very specially trained officers to deal with allegations like this and will handle the issue sensitively as will social services.

I dont know why your sister is hesitating. 5 year olds dont come out with stuff like that especially as the 10 year old has verified it.

 

[nathanmum]

omg thats awful someone has to do something i would contact the police if hes innocent then he will understand why you or SIL done so.
maybe your SIL could talk to his mum to forwarn them what shes going to do. she could just say that her son has said this and she has to take it futher and shes going to contact the police. She or you should definately not let this go he could be doing all sorts.

 

[Misslarue]

also I have to say how lucky your SIL is that her lil boys had the courage to tell her

 

[SarahH]

I'm going to go round this afternoon after the eldest is home from school and get her to call the police.

The guy in question is 17yrs old Misslaure.

Minime... do think we should call the police or social first?

 

[MissGobby]

also I have to say how lucky your SIL is that her lil boys had the courage to tell her

i have to agree - there are so many abused little children out there who are too afraid to say anything!!!

phone to police Sarah

 

[Baileysmummy]

I strongly agree.. please dont wait around, be a friend and call the police..

i strongly advise to take action and QUICK..

THINKING OF THOSE PORR KIDS

 

[Minime]

I'm going to go round this afternoon after the eldest is home from school and get her to call the police.

The guy in question is 17yrs old Misslaure.

Minime... do think we should call the police or social first?

Either as they will both be involved. Police can be a bit clumsy handling child protection as they take referrals then pass it on to trained officer who may not be in all day so if you call social services they have a duty social worker available to speak to 24/7. They will get the police involved and vice versa

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Don't even think twice about it, ring the police straight away

If that was my kids I wouldn't even waste a second, I'd make sure I called the police as soon as I heard about it, I think any parent would

 

[Misslarue]

Personally I would call the police. They can contact the social themselves. This is a police matter first and foremost. Sorry Minime, no offence to you I am sure you are a fantastic social worker, but having had 3 social workers myself when I was a child (and each and everyone of them failed to see what was going on under their noses) I have little faith in them. Not that I have a great deal of faith in our justice system either! I think the seriousness of this requires the police.

 

[jenna]

The thing thats worrying my SIL is that she asked him to watch one of them last week to take the others to the doctors and he said yes but his mum said no straight away and said she would do it - do you think the mum knows?!?!?

She might do hun She might be trying to protect her son and maybe the kiddies although it might not be the right way to do it. He obviestly needs help.

Hope the kids are ok

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

DEFINITELY call the police, your SIL may be worried about trouble with the neighbours but would she really sleep at night knowing this lad is babysitting other kids in the area? Would you sleep at night knowing that you could have persuaded her? I dont mean that to sound harsh, I think you already know thats how it is

Well done you for supporting her, im sure with your help, her and her boys can get through it

 

[SarahH]

She has called the social services and there is going to be someone going round at 3.30 so that they can discuss things before the eldest gets off the school bus at 4pm. I'm gonna be there when they come as SIL is a single parent and has nobody else to help her. My hubby is gonna kill this guy.

 

[SarahH]

The police have called her to say an police officer in civilian clothing will be there too.