TTC and feeling so so low

[vickyx26]

Before I start, I do already have 3 children and I am so sorry if this post offends anyone. My eldest is 21 and I had him with my ex when I was young. 6 years later my new husband and I had another son and tried for another child more or less straight away. In the end I was diagnosed with secondary infertility, pcos and a bicotnuate uterus. So it took us 10 years to conceive our daughter who is now 4. We then decided to try one last time so that my daughter had someone close in age to her because as much as her brothers adore her the gap is really quite big and they’re more like “mini fathers” than siblings. We’ve been trying for a year now and every year I’m left disappointed and I almost feel heartbroken, especially because my daughter keeps asking for a new brother or sister and says it’s all she wants ever, so that leaves me feeling guilty. Again, I know I’m lucky that I have my 3 children but this broodiness and primal need to have another child is eating away at me. My husband is quite laid back and just says “if it happens it happens”. Part of me is even questioning whether the nurse actually removed my coil or just pretended to because she’d been reluctant to do it because of my age and because she said I’m overweight! I was 8 stone heavier when I had the other 3 so it shouldn’t be an issue? Even as I’m typing this I’m crying because I’m fairly sure I’m too old now and everything has stopped working (tho I’m still regular as clockwork) but I’m 38 and know that my time is almost up. Again, I’m so sorry if this post offends anyone who is ttc their first, I’m not selfish or ungrateful, just feeling low and wanted to talk to people who understand xx

 

[Sunflower1]

I don't know if this helps but I was very overweight when I started trying, and it turned out I had a hormonal imbalance. I saw a gyno specialist at the hospital and he told me that weight becomes much more of an issue when you are older. I lost most of the weight with a low carb diet and am losing the rest now to give myself a better chance as I'm 42. The older you get the more important it is to have a healthy BMI apparently.


Lots of women get pregnant at 38 and into their early 40s. It can also take a bit longer.

 

[Loumaro4]

Hiya, can you maybe book in somewhere else to make sure. Which coil is it, copper or mirena. I'm trying for my 3rd my eldest is nearly 13 and 2nd is 7. My new partner doesn't have any so we want one together. I'm nearly 32 though and it isn't happening as quick as last time. I know what you mean once that broody feeling takes hold there is no escaping it. Have you tried preseed and taking folic acid? Xx

 

[Kitana]

I'd get a second opinion if you're not sure about the coil removal.
Your age doesn't really make a difference yet. Check out "Adam Ruins Everything: Pregnancy" on youtube, It's about the myths surrounding pregnancy.
However you can really give your fertility a boost if you lose some weight healthily. Cut down on carbs and start counting your calories. It's the most effective way.x

 

[Vintageling]

Sending huge hugs no matter how many kids you already have ttc can still be such a hard journey. I'm sending lots of baby dust to you hun