Total Newbie :)

[Vixx]

Hi Everyone
I'm totally new to this site, TTC and anything else pregnancy related (almost)... just to give a bit of background (will try not to make it too long or boring for you!)

1. I am 31 years old
2. Had my son when i was 17 years old (father and i split when he was 3 months old)
3. Split from my husband of 10 years last year
4. Wasnt interested in having another baby again, concentrating on career and was not happy with husband and knew we wouldnt ever have children.
5. Have now met the man of my dreams, who has turned my life upside down and now Im broody as hell - have not felt like this since I was a teenager?! - very unusual
6. Body clock ticking and would love to start trying now, but we have only been together for 11 months, which is way too soon to even start trying, plus im still married and have joint house with ex that needs to be sold

Sorry to go on, but wanted to get it all out there. lots going/gone on in my life, especially the last couple of years, but Im super happy now and will want to stay with my new guy forever but not sure when to TTC....?? help!!! lol

ps - if he had it his way, he would want to start trying soon, as he would love a family and we have spoken about it a number of times, but i dont want to rush things, a baby is a HUGE commitment and i had an absolutely awful time with my first pregnancy, so those doubts already creep in, of course he has no idea on what lies ahead, as he does not have any of his own.

I'll shhh now

 

[LauraJane9]

Hi, welcome to the forum!

I don't think there is ever a good time to have a baby and there will always be reasons to put it off for a few months or years, you've definately a lot going on right now so try to imagine dealing with it all whilst pregnant maybe?

I'm only waiting to start trying because I'm waiting to see if I'm immune to rubella, I had doubts about whether it was the right time so I just played out in my head what things would be like whilst pregnant and then with a baby, I've been through every scenario and now have everything planned from finances to where the baby swing will go!

Don't forget also that it can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive.

There are loads of lovely ladies on here who are full of great advice so you've come to the right place

 

[Vixx]

Thanks Laura Jane, I really appreciate your comments.
I too think that I should sell the house and get divorced before trying for a baby (both of which will be done next year). Things have certainly been crazy, especially the last year or so and I think my new partner and I have got through so much already together that we could cope with anything. But in my head I want things to be right, so will just see how things go.

Im really pleased you have it all in place, thats an excellent place to be!! When I had my son I was 17 years old, living with my mum, and in a 4 year rocky relationship, I had a god awful pregnancy and labour and my son was a very difficult baby, so all those things are much easier to cope with if everything else is settled and in place, you need as little stress as possible. Good luck on waiting for you results!

 

[TashaWink]

Hi vixx welcome to the site!
Like Laurajane said there is no right time. But only when you feel ready.
I would definitely wait til things are a little less stressful but if you wanted to have a set date (I know I would) maybe next Xmas time if everything goes to plan?

 

[bookworm]

Hi welcome to the baby-obsessed central glad to hear things are happier for you and I agree with the above, there's never a 'right' time for a baby but certain factors do help. Once you're feeling sorted with the divorce/house stuff, maybe talk dates with your fella (then come here to tell us when so we can oooo and ahhh with you too )
all the best
x

 

[Vixx]

Thanks so much ladies, your comments really do mean a lot. I can't wait to get to the stage where I can say "we are trying" as I have only ever experienced a pregnancy where I was frowned upon for being so young and worried because I didnt know how I would cope being a mum, so the next couple of years is something I'm really looking forward to xx