Toddler tantrums

[Laura butchers]

My son will be 3 in decemeber and regulary kicks off if he is made to walk any distance when we are out. He will happily walk round the supermarket etc but walking down the street is just a nightmare. Im trying to get him out of the buggy as much as possible as hes becoming lazy, but normally it ends with him throwing a massive tantrum and ends up getting back in the buggy.
I have tried distracting him while we walk by asking him questions as we walk down the roa. "what colour car" "how many birds can you see" etc. But its such a battle to even get him to walk to our local shop which is literally a stone throw away without him falling to the floor kicking and screaming.

Any help would be seriously appreciated. Im pregnant with baby no. 2 due in april and my son will be nearly 3.5 when baby is born. So really want him out of buggy by then!

 

[millielaura]

Has it been a recent thing? I think with it being so hot atm is maybe wait until it cools down to really start trying again? I know I hate walking 5 mins to the shop myself atm in this heat lol! Xx

 

[Laura butchers]

Has it been a recent thing? I think with it being so hot atm is maybe wait until it cools down to really start trying again? I know I hate walking 5 mins to the shop myself atm in this heat lol! Xx

No its always been like this. I have tried to minimise going out walkinh in this heat but its noy always possiblem. But its been going on a long time. Hes never been one to enjoy walking x

 

[Shepherdess]

Have you tried going on walks without the buggy?

Or maybe buy some cool toddler reins, like the little life backpack style ones he might want to wear

 

[Laura butchers]

Have you tried going on walks without the buggy?

Or maybe buy some cool toddler reins, like the little life backpack style ones he might want to wear

Sounds silly but never thought about going to a walk without the buggy. Its just something thats always been taken where ever we go. Will try it today!

Ive tried using the reins but he literally hates them, im not really keen on the idea of reins but i did give them a go but it ended up in disaster. X

 

[mrswibblywitt]

it’s a toughie that - I like the idea of trying no pushchair. My only suggestion in addition to that for any behaviour change is sticker charts. When they get a full line of stickers they get to choose a prize. I buy party bag gifts as prizes to choose from and buy awesome stickers. It seems to work... used it for toilet training and sleeping all night without waking mummy up!! Its got to be purely positive, no anger if they don’t perform, just a reward if they engage and lots of praise. Dont make the lines too long before they get a prize - maybe 3 or 4 for this situation?

 

[Laura butchers]

it’s a toughie that - I like the idea of trying no pushchair. My only suggestion in addition to that for any behaviour change is sticker charts. When they get a full line of stickers they get to choose a prize. I buy party bag gifts as prizes to choose from and buy awesome stickers. It seems to work... used it for toilet training and sleeping all night without waking mummy up!! Its got to be purely positive, no anger if they don’t perform, just a reward if they engage and lots of praise. Dont make the lines too long before they get a prize - maybe 3 or 4 for this situation?

Ive been debating getting a reward chart now for a few weeks but not 100% sure he will understand. At what age did you start using them?

 

[Summergurl]

Did you try a walk today and not take the pram?

My advice, although probably not helpful, is just to let him be in the pram, there's still a long way between now & when baby is born & hopefully he'll be walking by then if not get something like a buggy board xxx

 

[Laura butchers]

Did you try a walk today and not take the pram?

My advice, although probably not helpful, is just to let him be in the pram, there's still a long way between now & when baby is born & hopefully he'll be walking by then if not get something like a buggy board xxx

We didnt go out in the end as it was just too hot. So we went for a walk to the shop early this morning before it got too hot. He wanted to take his balance bike. Hes always so well behaved when he uses it. Stops when hes told to and always stays close. Only problem is we cant take it everywhere (supermaket etc). Think im going to try and encourage his bike more to make him more active. X

 

[Niknaknoo]

Hi Laura, my ds is nearly 3.5 now, and a few months ago my mum came up with a great game. You would only want to do it in a park or away from a road but it also practices getting him to listen.
We practice running and stopping, so tell him to run, don't let him go to far and shout stop. We do this over and over again, and now we make it fun by saying hop, or walk like a crab or tiptoe etc.
Surefire way to keep him moving, but he loves to race anyway.
Good luck!


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[Summergurl]

Haha no can you imagine him racing around a supermarket on his bike good that he will happily use that and listen to you.

Niknaknoo love that game!!

 

[Laura butchers]

Hi Laura, my ds is nearly 3.5 now, and a few months ago my mum came up with a great game. You would only want to do it in a park or away from a road but it also practices getting him to listen.
We practice running and stopping, so tell him to run, don't let him go to far and shout stop. We do this over and over again, and now we make it fun by saying hop, or walk like a crab or tiptoe etc.
Surefire way to keep him moving, but he loves to race anyway.
Good luck!


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Ah that sounds good. I will give it a go. Not sure he will understand but maybe worth a go. Thank you x

 

[Laura butchers]

Haha no can you imagine him racing around a supermarket on his bike good that he will happily use that and listen to you.

Niknaknoo love that game!!

It would literally be a nightmare. Luckily when we go to our little shop near our house he knows that when he gets there he must leave it outside. But i wouldnt trust leaving it outside at a supermarket. X

 

[candymycandy]

As you’re Pg I’d probably be inclined to let him go in the pram if he wants. From personal experience, the more of a battle you put up be more defiant he’ll become. Chances are he’ll grow out of it rather than it being laziness. Also, I would’ve loved if my lb would’ve gone in a buggy when I was heavily pregnant to save me stressing if I had to catch up to him etc, but he started refusing it long before I got Pg! Just thought I’d offer an alternative viewpoint. Otherwise you could try incentivising him as someone else suggested. My lb didn’t really get reward charts at that age but maybe offer his favourite treat/meal at the end of the walk until he gets in the swing? Or give him a treasure hunt of things to find (eg that he could only see on foot) ?